warpig2003

Thanks for the responses everyone! Very good points Sun&Moon. To be clear, the reason I came here is to figure out exactly why I want this before determining how/if I want to talk to my wife about this, or if this is a terrible idea. After these posts, I’m starting to realize I don’t think it really is my insecurity, or at least that isn’t the only reason. I think there are a few. 1. My insecurity 2. My interest in bisexuality 3. Getting my wife more comfortable To be clear, it absolutely isn’t because a broken relationship. Our relationship is amazing. We are openly talk about good looking people as they pass by and joking about getting with other people. I have always openly talked about girls I think are cute. We often go to a restaurant that is more “hip” and is very casual about the girls dress codes, going as far as many of the girls going braless. She will go out of the way to say “did you see the bartender has no bra?”. She has zero issues with me going to Hooter type restaurants, and will even sit back and watch when girls talk to me. First point has been discussed, the second doesn’t really have much to discuss. The third point - When I first met my wife she was really the quiet, nerdy type. Graduated first in high school, could hardly get her to talk on dates, usually off my herself reading, very few friends, etc. Since having children and working this retail clothing job she has become much more confident with herself in the sense she’ll talk to anyone and is much more confident showing off her body. I absolutely love it, and I think part of this is I want her to continue to grow in this way. Usually I am the dominant type, but I really don’t want to be at home. Not just in bed, but with everything. I want to live by her rules, and I want her to continue to gain confidence and power so she knows she runs the show. Even if she chooses not to, part of this is just talking to her and giving her the option as another way of demonstrating my submission. Does that make sense? Part of all of this is also her unwillingness to talk about what she wants in bed. For the longest time our sex was so routine and mundane. Once a month, which was initiated by me having to “romance” her. Finally I just bought some sex toys and brought them into bed, being more casual with talking about sex, and basically making her orgasm as much as she would let me. Our sex is much better now, but she still is quiet about her fantasies. I know she has a strong sex drive, so I want to continue to expand the boundaries and introduce new ideas to help her open up and enjoy herself. Thanks again for all the good points. I’m loving this forum. Even if we don’t end up in the lifestyle, it’s nice to have somewhere to openly discuss these topics.

I have a fantasy of my wife being with other men, or at least another man. I would love to join, but this would be all about her. I couldn’t figure out why I had this fantasy, but realized I don’t have the confidence in myself to give her what she needs. I’m averaged sized and averaged stamina. Our sex is good, but I think she deserves better. She is a great wife and mom, she needs to be fucked better than I think I can provide. Is this a common reasoning to get into the scene? We joke about it on occasion, and she doesn’t seem super against the idea, but she doesn’t really continue the conversation or do anything about my offers to allow it. She plays the more dominant role in the sex life, so I can’t really tell her her what to do. Her usual response is “you’d like that wouldn’t you?”. I think she deserves it, and I think she’d enjoy it. That said, she is kind of shy with this stuff and I can’t really get her to open up about it. Any suggestions as to how to get the conversation started? Just tell her I think she deserves a better fuck and we should find her another man? She is getting less and less shy (getting naked with bedroom windows open, fucking in front window), do I just keep being patient? Thanks