Me and my hubby of 13 years have been swinging for 8 years now.Allthough it has brought us closer together I feel it may also be breaking us apart. It's at least making us victim to the one sided affair. He likes to video tape me, he likes to call me dirty names and talk dirty. All of that I do not mind. But it's come to the point where I'm the only one being video taped, and he wants to have our company talk dirty to me and call me the names he likes to hear. Usually the company I'm with is to what he likes to see me with. When I want to visit a certain regular of ours, I end up having a great time but he just tapes it and the same old shit ends up happening. It used to be he would ravage me beyond repair when I would perform for him, and now, I don't even get that for my efforts. Something always comes up and we end up arguing. Are we just in a rut or is there some way that I can help him get back the passion for me that he once had, when it was just the two of us and I was all he needed to get off?