Thank you for all the advice neighbor! We will definitely talk about all of that. And to start with we have just agreed to have an open relationship so each of us would like to be with 1 other person and see how we enjoy it. Sorry for all the newb questions but are there many couples that are up for that? And I was thinking that finding another couple that does do individual play would be easier, any advice on where to meet some? Good sites or anything?