Neither my wife or I are completely new to swinging, but we are quite new swinging as a couple (only one threesome together). I'm curious to hear what more experienced swingers have experienced on their journeys and your insights into a hypothetical dilemma....
My wife, like many other women (and men), is more attracted to traits such as attentiveness, charisma, and grooming than physical looks. I admire that she isn't a complete 'caveman' like some of us men and I understand that swinging isn't a beauty contest. However, I don't care how attentive or confident a guy is, I wouldn't feel great about watching her have sex with an overweight guy that's 30 years older than us, as an extreme example. I get that swinging is about giving your partner pleasure...I just want it to be with a respectful, fun, decent-looking guy.
Does this ring a bell with anyone? Curious to hear your thoughts.