We are new to the lifestyle and, like you, were going the hotwife way. My wife is unsure if she'd like me there the first time or two so we advertised for FWBs on SLS. She gets a lot of hits there, but like any where you have to vet them. We've met a couple guys that seemed interesting but only one has gone to the bedroom. We met another couple guys this week but they are now acting pretty immature so they look like they'll be crossed off the list also. I've heard that CL is definitely NOT the way to go and that local swinger clubs could be a better start. Good luck!