I wanted to thank everyone for the constructive answers and I've decided to try and talk to her about it in depth. It's just blown me away what's happened and what makes it worse is how she treats our daughter. I think she blames me for her autism because it's hereditary and I think she's ashamed of her. She always expects me to take care of her lately while she goes out to drink with her friends. My daughter keeps asking me if "mommy still loves me" and it's just breaking my heart. I'm torn apart here and I'm concerned my drinking is getting worse I killed a Dos Equis 6 pack in 2 days. My wife has been smoking a lot more too.