Hello!
I've been googling around to try and find something to guide me through how to act at a swinger's club, but all I seem to come across are gay clubs, square dancing sites and, especially on Dutch sites, very immature replies, so I finally figured I'd best ask other swingers.
Let me illustrate a bit first.
My girl and myself aren't particularly average looking, in fact, I suppose other people could see us as odd, weird or simply unattractive. (For the record, they're wrong. She's the best damn woman I ever had.) I've got the rock 'n' roll sideburns and a forehead that, in the wrong light, needs an extra doorway and she's quite a big girl. Still, I'm a bit of an exhibitionist and she's always up for an experiment, so swinger's clubs in themselves aren't an issue. How to act properly inside is something else.
I'm basically looking for a manual to swinger's clubs.
We're not much for chatting and small talk and we don't make contact easily, however, we don't at all mind if someone just joins in a grabs a body part of their choosing. Out of our two visits one guy had the gall to grab my girl full on between the legs in passing by. Made her feel pretty and gave me a kick. Maybe we are weird, I don't care.
But this guy kept on walking.
It may seem obvious to just give him the nod, but he avoided eye contact as much as I have trouble making it. I guess it was one of those things you do that surprises yourself.
Are there signals? Secret handshakes? Whatever. I know the gay scene has this signaling system with handkerchiefs, but all you get at "our" club is a white bracelet that shows you're bisexual. So, can we just crawl up on the big bed with the couple we've been eyeing all night, or do you ask and how do you ask? Trouble is, some people do just go to fuck with each other, but in public. Like we did, our first visit.
And while we're on it, this club has a dark room. Solves a lot of contact making issues, but I still can't help being polite, so re-ensure me: Is the darkroom really the all-you-can-grab-feast I want to believe it is?
As you can see, we're quite the beginners and me especially a shy one. But I'm also very much against going in blind and acting like a bloody tourist, so any tips would be greatly appreciated.