lcmim

You say this is new to you after several years. Is this divergence manifest in other areas of your life? It might be a good time to do an in depth assessment both individual and as a couple. Somehow this looks more like a symptom than the problem.

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Even with my parameters I would say you are part of the community . People worry way too much about labels. The labels are important when trying to be precise, otherwise , not so much.

I would say "swinger" No. Quite possibly on that road. In the sexual freedom LS? Yes. Then again I tend to draw fairly narrow margins involving ENM with an actual spouse or long term life partner.

OP... Really?? Not in our experience. Troll much?

The responses will come from both sides of the gender divide. It is up to her to take what is of value.

Physically that ratio is about correct. I have used that argument when part of planning for group parties that wanted to exclude single guys. I am married , but the ratio is still good.I think some guys worry about the competition. Being realistic I know that a woman who is really in the mood can destroy 3 guys in a day. Another thing that I point out to the "married only" proponents is that we are all just one heartbeat away from being single, especially as we age.

Setting up something to be manipulative may sometimes work in business. The potential for disaster is too high, as well as dishonest. In this context. From what you have said David was NOT manipulating you. It has always sounded like David is a truly grounded person, for whom this was a genuine and acceptable option, and not someone playing you with the long game. I was just warning not to do this unless this was the case for the OP.

Only do this if it is something that you actually want not as a means to an end.

You handled it well. There are to many unknowns in place to stir the pot.

Other than one that I or someone I trust very well I am about as likely to to even get into a hot tub as I am to swim in their toilet. That includes hotels and clubs. I have made the exception in hotels when the chlorine made my eyes water.

ACCEPT. I strongly suspect. those who knew you and might imagine a chance to participate.

I take it the diabetes is well controlled? My experience with the daily tadalafil was similar to yours. Maybe talk to your doctor about upping the dosage or perhaps just doubling up an hour or so before you plan to play. Like I said do this in concert with your doctor.

I can recognize your dilemma. May I ask how old you are and what kind of shape you are in? I am 73 and depending on the time of year physically I am in shape or not so much. I work outdoors in construction, so winter is not my high exercise time. By summers end all systems are working better. Age is not helping. The head thing also comes into play, as not performing up to my own standard gets into my head, as does tension from jobs sometimes. Exercise a healthy diet and some intentional relaxing activity might just get you past much of this. There are also so many ways to participate and excel that do not require an erection. When we start with a couple it is always soft swing. So far most all have been excited about coming back for more. I thinks many husbands are lacking in these skills for some reason. Post me privately if you wish.

Numex , I was referencing this "now there are kids", as far as sleepovers being more difficult.