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angelkin

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angelkin last won the day on December 20 2016

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About angelkin

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    Lifestyle Mentor
  • Birthday 06/22/1970

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  • Relationship Status
    Coupled and taking it very slow
  • Location
    USA
  • Anniversary
    01/16/2014

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    dragonandphoenix

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  1. I was 13, he was a couple years older. I wish I had waited for someone who really thought I was special...otherwise no regrets.
  2. I bought one, possibly one that wasn't expensive enough. I was not impressed. It wouldn't stay put long enough to muster the necessary suction. meh!
  3. Music on. Some good erotica or hard rock. Yes please.
  4. Beautiful and haunting. Well done! We have a dungeon, but I can't find the pics.
  5. Thanks to everyone for their support and for listening. Perhaps he is becoming too enthusiastic for comfort. I confronted him yesterday and his knee-jerk (er, jerk) reaction was to say that I am now in charge of dates and online interaction which is not what I want. I only want to be consulted on when we suggest meeting people or otherwise go out to swing (club, party). I did end up apologizing and I am sure we will talk more about it this weekend. I do tend to be critical and I can see his side too...it's hard for me to want to share our limited time with others and harder to schedule when Saturdays are a variable factor lately (we might know 3-4 days in advance if he's working). I am just frustrated, I suppose. I don't think there's a true underlying issue other than we need to check in before inviting people over or out. I don't want it to be mechanical, but it's going to have to be that way for awhile.
  6. Swing is exciting! Prolonged foreplay can be a factor, so can how often the fellow is getting sex at home. Expectations are important. Is it possible to communicate to friends that she needs a longer encounter to really enjoy herself?
  7. One of us is more active on the swinger sites than the other and tasked with finding suitable matches. We work different shifts, so it's hard to find time to communicate about possible dates with new friends...but I am getting annoyed with him suggesting meeting people for dinner or other activities without asking me first. To be clear, we typically have agreed we want to meet the people we are trying to make arrangements with - but I only want to go out on free Saturdays and those are limited as sometimes he has to work (sometimes last minute)...however, then he suggests meeting on Sunday. I am selfish with our time together. We only see each other 1/2 hour a weekday and on weekends even though we live together. I want to swing but it's more important to me to spend time together. I'm ok giving up part of a Saturday if we have a Sunday to share. Sometimes I can take a Monday off and that makes meeting on a Sunday ok. It's becoming a common theme and and am annoyed.
  8. We do drinks and appetizers. 45 minutes and goodbye if we are not interested...that's how we roll. Invite you over to play without a vanilla meet - no way.
  9. We are not having luck at the initial meeting...dinner or drinks, and we are typically disinterested after just a bit of conversation. It's just damned difficult to find a 4 way match. We've come to the conclusion that we are just snobs or too damn picky...but why step outside our relationship for playtime with those who are not a good match?
  10. I have been "that woman" - selfishly wanting the attention of two men or more. Most often, I am in the moment and not thinking of the comfort or desires of others. I have been the center of attention - receiving pleasure from couples and available singles then later giving back to those who I enjoyed. Why not consider letting the situation unfold and let her have her fun - then turn the tables by enjoying multiple men/women yourself? Join in the fun by lending a hand or mouth to the group (her and either husband). Of course if it's apparent that she doesn't want her own husband to play at all except with her, that's a different situation that should be handled as noted above by asking the husband if he is able to play.
  11. I am going to take a bit of a different track here...yes, he needed your "help". However, "Total Neglect" isn't what happened here...you were enjoying your experience with the other hubby and he could have made his own frustrating experience with the other wife enjoyable as well. Even though we (as couples) swing together, we (as individuals) are each responsible for our own fun - and especially during a full swap (same or separate rooms). To be honest, I've been in this same situation in a previous relationship. It got to the point I didn't want to swing because I was too concerned for his fun and I wasn't having any trying to read his cues, subtle signs, and resurrect his erection. It's completely distracting to have to keep glancing over to see that your partner is having a good time - or worse, stopping your fun to go lend a hand. If he needed some assistance, he should have asked for it...or let you know in some way. You are not a mind reader! I would surmise that your husband is feeling neglected but also frustrated, confused, betrayed (by his cock) and a plethora of other feeling unrelated to you or your response. But outside of safety, he alone is responsible for his own good time. There's plenty of ways to have fun even with a limp cock. You also mentioned that you usually swap together, assuming you full swap, same bed? This time you stepped outside your comfort zone and opted for the full swap in further proximity. How did you come to that decision? Have you considered separate room play? Sometimes moving into separate rooms allows us freedoms to explore more authentically. If this is a pattern it's probably going to be an ongoing issue unless he can discern what makes his member lukewarm on the idea. Don't beat yourself up over this. You've apologized to your husband, now let it go. Later you two should talk about how to manage this issue in the future.
  12. I believe, if memory serves, that SLS email has a "form letter" function...either a list of optional phrases or you can make your own "form letter" for email responses.
  13. I like being watched, sometimes that's what we do at the club if nobody has struck our fancy. I consider watching and being watched part of swinging.
  14. I have told my primary doc and my gyn that I/we participate in responsible non-monogamy. We discuss the risks and preventative measures needed and do testing accordingly on a schedule. My doctor needs to treat my lifestyle, not judge it.
  15. Razor, closely trimmed landing strip...I like the look. Sometimes I play with the shape
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