Hello all
this is my 1st post here and im looking for advice
1st off a little about us,we met online,mid 40's,and this friday will be our 10th wedding anniversary,we have discussed MFM encounters over the last yr or so,but it was more a"sex talk topic" recently we have discussed it outside the bedroom so to speak and its quite interesting to say the least.
A little more about my wife,she has done this before in her previous marriage but it was in my eyes from our discussions that she did it because she was trying to please her ex,as she thought this would hold her marriage together
So now it is my fantasy for the MFM,and from reading posts here i do have the same thoughts ie jealousy,performance etc etc but that is something i need to control and pretty sure i can.
now the question arose as to who would be the other man,and she suggested a man from her past with her ex,i do know him and he is a nice guy,but thru our discussions of her past acts to me it sounded like she did it for all the wrong reasons ie "to keep the marriage alive" and she always said it made her feel "dirty" as there were many guys that her ex brought in over the years
I have no problem with this other guy but my question is" would he be the right choice for our 1st encounter?"
I am trying to see it from her point which is she would be more comfortable with someone who she has done this with before and that makes sence to me,but would it bring her past to light and make her have that "dirty" feeling again as that is the last thing i want her to feel
sorry for the long post as im not very good with the written word,
thanx in advance for any replys