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Take this as an important lesson! You knew this woman was "talking badly" about your other friends, yet you chose to get involved with her anyway -- did you REALLY think she'd be any different with you two?! Also, I always make it clear when someone starts "talking s--t" that I don't like gossip and won't be a part of it. It also makes me wonder if that person is a good friend to ME -- what are they saying behind MY back? Trust your instincts. You had a bad feeling about this woman at the begining. Don't talk yourself into being friends with anyone.

Oh lord what a poll! I (ryan) love to keep my privates clean and crisp. No hair, I shave it clean. For anyone who needs advice on this... I use the same electric shaver I use on ym face. I have the Remington auto-clean shaver deal... I just stick it in the cleaner after every use. She (erin) likes to keep her area very clean shaven as well. We both use my shaver to do the job. I enjoy helping her every once in a while. There is nothing like a freshly shaven set of genitals and heading off to the shower, and then the bedroom!

We are new to this swinging thing... We have had one experience and loved it and are now looking for another. To us, we could care less who knows about our sex life with a few exceptions. She works at a zoo and doesn't need to be discrete, but is and that's the way it is. She doesn't feel the need to tell anyone about these activities, but if they were to ask her... it would depend on who was asking. If it was someone who she felt did not need to know, she would ask them an equally personal question and then say "Now, how does it feel to be asked something so personal?" I work in a restaurant. Anyone who has ever had a food service job knows that nothing is sacred. I could care less who knows. I don't care if they think less of me or us, nor would I find relief in knowing that they "support" me and our activities. In fact, most of my co-workers do know that we like to swing and are looking for some action. Nothing seems to have changed after they came to know this. As for our friends and family... there are two sides to that coin. Friends: Many of them know but not all of them. It's not like we made an announcement to everyone once we figured out we enjoyed the lifestyle. If it comes up, we will discuss it. We have no reason to hide it from any of our friends. Family: Well, not like we got on the phone and told our mothers about this either!!! My Mom would find it weird, but would understand and even support us. Her mother would freak out a bit, but then would just want to not hear about it. nothing would change in their relationship. I think that it all boils down to a number of factors; 1. Who is it that is going to find out? - Boss - Family (Mother / Father) 2. What is their relationship to you? Professional / personal? 3. Does your job depend on staying in? 4. How comfortable are you with others knowing? I'm sure there is much more to this, and I attempted to be as in depth as I could for being a newb... SO... to answer the question, we are psuedo-outed. And no, we would have no problem with most anyone knowing.

As someone else said... I have had this circumcised penis all my life, making the other option weird to me. I could not imagine what it would be like without having had it done.

ISTP Introverted Sensing Thinking Perceiving 11% 50% 38% 11% Slightly expressed introvert Moderately expressed sensing personality Moderately expressed thinking personality Slightly expressed perceiving personality Seems I am 1 of only 5 ISTPers...