We were there Saturday night and know exactly what you mean. Upstairs in the main room there was lots of socializing, but no interaction at all. In the hallway by the restrooms there was a very loud group discussing birthdays and trying to get somebody to give up their panties.
My wife and I were in the back room with three other couples where were there to have fun, but the party crowd was really kind of distracting. We still had a fantastic time at Menages, as always, but it would be nicer if the people not interested in participating would stay downstairs.
Oh, and how about the new cutie tending bar upstairs;)