sweetsnspeed 52 Posted February 22, 2017 We are curious about something. We know that they say women hit their sexual peak much later in life (late 30's or so we think we heard. For us, it happened when she was in her early to mid 40's). He has always had a high sex drive, and she was no slouch either, or at the very least a willing participant. However, around 2012 or so, it seemed like she could not get enough, like 3 times a day or more if possible. That may not sound like much, but mind you, this was between all the normal stuff that was already happening when you have 3 kids in grade/high school, jobs, eating, etc. She had an ablation a few years before this (for health reasons), and that pretty much eliminated that old aunt named flow from coming around (and still not showing up). So we aren't sure if she has gone though the change of life, although around this time she also started experiencing hot flashes etc. For the older crowd, did the lady of the couple have an unexplained turbo-charged sex drive during the change? Unfortunately, it dropped off that peak pretty quick when another family member (in-law) had an impromptu operation (that could have waited), and we were tasked (mostly her) with taking care of that person in some capacity. Don't get us wrong, we are still really in to it, but pace dropped down from a couple times a day to a couple times a week, which with our current schedules still works for us (remember those grade school kids are now high school or older and still living at home (college), so they make it a lot more difficult to be foot loose and fancy free when it comes to adult play time. So ladies (mainly older), did you experience a period where you were insatiable (like 10+ times more) than you normally were? Guys, don't you miss it? Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,508 Posted February 22, 2017 Mrs. E and I have a bit of an age difference, I am mid 30s and she is late 40s. I can say that when we met, I was sometimes almost afraid I couldn't keep up with her. In another thread I mentioned taking a little too much Cialis on a lark and her being a good soldier about it over a long weekend, and that's an understatement: I ran out of cum and was chafing by the end, and it didn't matter. We had a personal situation that put us under a lot of stress a few years back, and that did take a toll, but we're back in the saddle these days. It's hard to say what's age-related, what's her getting her frustrations out of her system, and what's just settling into a relationship, we're probably averaging once a day, commonly twice if we're off work. With that said, it hasn't impacted her interest. She's always happy to fuck until I can't fuck anymore. She's less likely to wake me up in the middle of the night just because I'm hard and she can't pass it up, though. Hormone replacement is definitely a thing that commonly comes up whenever this topic is discussed, although I don't know what the effects are really like. Quote Share this post Link to post
SA_NewtoLS 163 Posted February 22, 2017 I'm 36 and she's 32, so maybe not as useful information, but we find we go in cycles. Depends on a lot of different things but there will be weeks where we are doing it every day, 2-3 times if we have the time away from daughter and the rest of life then there will be times where we will go 2-3 weeks without anything at all. Normally it's closer to somewhere in the middle, 2-3 times a week. Just sometimes it picks up and sometimes it slows down. Sometimes it's me pushing for more sometimes it's her. Sometimes it's me who is just not really in the mood for days at a time, sometimes it's her. There's not really a rhyme or reason to it, it just is what it is. Quote Share this post Link to post
funcoupledayton 2,707 Posted February 22, 2017 I would say 35-40 for me. I'm 43 now. We started swinging when we were 38. I still enjoy sex much more than I did in my 20's, but not as often as in my late 30's. I'm still very happy, so everything is good. I had an ablation also a few years ago, but I think based on my family history I am probably a good decade away from menopause. Quote Share this post Link to post
Sexykitty6364 38 Posted February 22, 2017 I have been on bio-identical hormone replacement for over 3 years. I am a COMPLETELY different person. My mind wanted sex but I had no "drive". The pellets made all the difference. FWIW, hubby goes weekly for his testosterone shot. We are in our early 50's and have sex almost daily. Quote Share this post Link to post
njbm 2,728 Posted February 23, 2017 I do not want to be negative, but are there side effects of the hormone therapy? Quote Share this post Link to post
Scaredstiff 128 Posted February 23, 2017 My wife is soon to turn 42 and I'm very keen to see her with another man. Not because I find it a turn on, just so I can have a bloody rest. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,456 Posted February 23, 2017 I, for one, don't believe that there's any such thing as a standard age for sexual peaks for women. I've known women in their 30's and 40's who couldn't care less, and women in their 50's and 60's who were going at it strong. I've also seen the reverse, of course. My own hotwife was a virgin when she was married at 23, didn't get into sex with her first husband, had an affair in her late 20s then after that divorce went crazy. We got married when she was 33, had great sex for the first few years (she didn't have any affairs at that time that I know of,) then it got tired and boring. When we got into swinging then hotwifing when she was 52 she couldn't get enough. I don't keep in direct contact with her anymore, but I get the feeling from friends she has several gentlemen that she is active with. (She's in her mid 60s now.) That's one story, I'm sure others will explain a different pattern. Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,012 Posted February 24, 2017 For every exception, there is a rule (I know I'm saying it wrong, but it works either way). Instead of a single peak, there seems to be multiple (emotional) peaks depending on what is happening in one's life. The 'physical' peak may be whenever, but it's the emotional peaks that come and go. Being in a long standing relationship where there is plenty of security and no judgement coming from your partner makes it easier for a woman to let down her guard and explore more of her sexual side. Quote Share this post Link to post