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How about always ask for permission before doing something and what we think is the absolute golden rule: No means no. At the same time, not answering does not mean yes.

Our five golden rules: 1. The couple, specially the woman, decides who and what she should accept or not accept. 2. Condom is essential. 3. If the swingers partners are not close, avoid talking about politics, religion and other controversial topics.4.Lesbianism is allowed and welcome.5. Respect to all swingers.

I didn't even know my wife liked being spanked on her ass til I saw the way she reacted when some other guy did it

The feel of a swingers club? I was walking around Trapeze in Florida with rubber beach shoes. There was a squeaking noise from stepping in ejaculate. I thanked the Lord that I brought the shoes. Would not want to take that walk barefooted.

I 100% agree, and said nothing to the contrary. Consent is key to everything here, not just the spanking and choking. My point is that there is a strong "all rough sex is shameful and bad" vibe developing here, and that's just plain untrue. It is judgmental in exactly the same way that people here wouldn't tolerate if it were aimed at them.

One female partner told me I wasn’t rough enough. Fitlake’s post above reminded me of it, because the play fizzled out at that point. Interestingly, we ran into her at a house party down the road and she apologized profusely to me. We did try again and it went better. No rough stuff, it’s not how I roll.

I agree with this. The most effective form of communication in these scenarios is verbal communication. Signaling that you don't like something should be good enough but saying that you don't like something is very cut and clear. If you're not going to discuss it beforehand then a safe word is a must (even if you do discuss it I would have a safe word). My GF is really into the rough sex and I always advise on having at least 2 safe words/actions. Have one safe word and then one safe tap. The safe word could be anything and the tap could be something like hitting their leg 3 times. This is because sometimes you might be gagged and unable to talk or you might be tied up and unable to tap.

Based on personal experience I agree with all of this.

Disrespectful, no quite the opposite. Dangerous, potentially but in the way any hard contact sport is potentially dangerous. For people interested in learning more about BDSM, I would actually highly recommend Stjepan Sejic's graphic novel series Sunstone (great sex positive love story, great art and a lot of "this is what BDSM is really like"), but I'm a geek.

Trust. The primary sign of a great relationship is trusting your partner. Your partner trusts you alone with others, you giving him the same trust. I trust my wife to have sexual fun without me watching her or even asking her afterwards. She extends the same trust to me. The sexual dynamic alone with a partner is extremely opposite of having someone else included.

The sex club we went to was a pool party, it smelled from chlorine, lotion and pot.

I think the hair pulling plays into that rough sex porno thing as well. Rough sex has really gone mainstream in porn I think. My opinion is to just lay down the rules. If you don't lay down the rules beforehand then I think you have to be willing to give guys a little bit of wiggle room as they might try some different things to see what you like and don't like. But once you tell them no or signal them to stop and they continue - that should be the end of it.

I know exactly what you're talking about and I have a hard time explaining it with words.

Hilarious...and true. This is a great question, very creative, thanks for posting! Some we've been to didn't really have any special smell one way or another, but the ones that did, I really don't even know how to describe it. Maybe college bar + sex? Sex is hanging in the air at a college bar of course, but at a swing club, it's not just hanging from hoping it will happen, it is happening, so easier to pick up on. So, beer + liquor + smoke + perfume + cologne + sweat + sex + cleaner + that heavily air conditioned smell. No particular order there, and mixed together with none so strong they are off-putting, it smells like fun

The funny thing is that the spanker we spent a good deal of time with that night talking at the bar in a swing club. He was actually very shy, his wife was the more outgoing. That was one of the reasons it took me totally by surprise. I'm usually a good judge of character. The choker we met while in the playroom of same swing club, different night. He was also a bit quiet, his wife was the one pursuing us. My husband seemed to be completely unaware both times but I informed him that he needs to be more tuned in in the future. Lucky for them both, I was not drunk because i"m not as easy going when I am. I appreciate the responses, I did feel very disrespected and wanted to hear how I should have handled it. Next time I'll deck the guy! (Just kidding)

I heard, never went, about that club. Don’t think it’s there anymore. Have fun with your friends old and new. Be safe around a pool, who knows you may meet great new people. Think about it, they are just like you, looking for a fun day.

Please Don’t Make This a Covid post. ? Not afraid, just cautious. Thank you. No disrespect, we are educated. We aren’t sure about that. From what our friends told us, and they don’t know first hand, their friends said to expect anything and everything. It is a private party and the club closes down the day after for cleaning. I believe it because that is what the rumors were about the club when I was younger. The story was the pool was closed for a full heavy chlorine load and filter. Condoms were found all around and in the pool. I hadn’t thought about those stories until this invitation. I wasn’t there and only heard guy stories about it. That club no longer exists, only notorious stories.

I just read your pegging story and really enjoyed it. Have you heard of a 'Feeldoe'? It's just one of the strapless dildos. My wife and I had one and really enjoyed it. When she had it on, well in, I could give her pleasure by sucking it like it was her cock. My sucking caused it to move in and out of her just enough to give her pleasure. But the nicest part was when she was fucking me with it. The movements had us both being fucked together. And, without the harness, it just seemed so much more natural. We even had her wear it inside her panties a few times when we went out. It was fun sneaking feels of her cock.

Yes. My gf got 4 pussy creampies, 3 different dudes for her birthday last month. (one blew in her twice and another super deep, she took all 8.5 inch shaft to his sack while he creamed her ) And the month before that we had a threesome and she let a mutual friend drop a full nut inside her for a going away present before he moved across county. I regularly dump my load in her as well. She's been on birth control. Nothing has happen. Surprisingly, she's still super tight which I find amazing since she has been getting railed and passed by big cocks lately. Birth Control works so don't worry, get your creampies on!! Or in

I like the variety of having sex with more than one guy. I usually pick clubs that allow single guys so I can have 5 to 15 in one night. I prefer gangbangs but sometimes that doesn’t work and you have to invite them one at a time.

My wife is a lot more into quantity than quality, if you know what I mean. Once we went to a Club in a very rainy night and at the end we were the only couple there so she ended up being the only woman around to satisfy everyone. First we did it on our own, then she got back with 3, and later with the 2 remaining dudes. It was funny, the seven of us nude in the bedroom, she being the only woman and center of the attention of 6 hungry men !

I’ve had several creampie gangbangs with no problems.

My wife loved to go to Clubs in singles' nights and loose herself there. Her one night record was 15 that I counted - she said it should be more, 17 or 18, because we did not stay together all the time - that in 3 or 4 trips to the rear orgy rooms over four hours. On another night we went into a room with 5 other guys, and she took them all non-stop, when one finished another took his place, front or back. She loves anal and all during that time she was never without at least one cock in their holes, we all DP'ed her, and she only left the room because one of them ripped his condom and she does not play bareback with men we don´t know well.

I have had several gangbangs. My suggestion is a swingers club that allows single guys. That is what I do. I usually have 5 to 10 guys in an evening.

I cannot figure out the percentage but I (Mrs) had a DP on my second MFM. I watched some porn flicks that have DP and I always enjoy some clips with DP so I tell my husband we should try DP. I tried with my hubby and toys but not the same as 2 persons Usually my husband is the "smaller" one so he would do anal while other do vaginal. It is quite an experience!!!

It's not as common as you might think. But in my case, if I am really horny and a bit tipsy, it happens all the time. I enjoy anal sex to begin with and can handle really big ones in my ass almost better than in my vagina. Not to say I don't like a big dick in my pussy, but extra large have to go in my ass.

I was facing the same dilemma with my man, he got a kick out of large dicks, even though he was large himself. He wanted to see even bigger guys fuck me. I need to be really horny and a bit tipsy or more to let go and all has to go slow. I am also into anal sex and there we were after a while able to let really big guys to enter and do me hard. In any case, take your time, she knows what you like, now don't push and let her move at her own comfort level. Have fun you guys

I have had 20 guys in one night. I really enjoyed it.

Of course we are particular with who we allow. It's always exciting to see another guy or group of guys cum in my wife. So much fun.

I always have the guy cum inside me. I particularly love guys coming inside me in a gangbang. I have had as many as 20 guys cum inside me in one night.

I have several guys that I play with every week. My husband is always there. He has a couple of girls he plays with also. We have a rule that the other partner is always present when we play. I also try to have at least two new guys each week for variety. I know it’s slutty to have different guys each week but I get bored if I have the same guys each week.

I (Female) swing only for sex. I am not looking for a friendship. There are plenty of people like me that are in it for the sex. You should have no problem. My advice is to be upfront about it, that way no one gets the wrong idea.

I am the only one that swaps. My husband is there for support. I never use condoms. I am allergic to latex and I hate the way condoms feel. I always have the guys dump their load inside.

Mrs. H and I had a group experience a few weeks ago that was out of this world. We were at a local swinger's club drinking and hanging out with old friends, as well as some new ones. We were sitting and talking with 3 couples that had a definite vibe going on, and they soon were getting up to go upstairs to one of the group rooms. Offhand I said, " Uhhh... Can we come, too?" "Sure!!" was the reply, and soon we were climbing the steps with a bunch of giggly people. We went into the big group room first, but I don't think they liked the vibe in there, because we went in search of another one. The other one is called the " Five or more" room, and has a small window, which I wasn't sure how I would react to, as anyone walking by can watch. Not going to go into details, but clothes came off and the eight of us went through all the oxygen in the room in about 30 seconds!! Girl/girl, girl/guy, girls/guy, guys/girl.... everything but guy/guy happened while we were in there. Mrs. H and I did many new things that night, and it was ALL good!! The only strange part of the experience was Mrs. H and I being thanked by lots of people downstairs afterwards, mainly single guys. I shouldn't have been surprised, as I got up and opened the door a crack to let some more air in, and I think I hit about 20 people with the door! We all must have put on one hell of a show, but with the lights on the window looks like a mirror, so I forgot it was even there. Yeah, I think I'm gloating a bit...... Sorry...

I have gangbangs with strangers all the time. I usually go to clubs with lots of single guys and let them take their turn. I would recommend starting with three or four the first time. Over time I grew the number of guys and know I do as many as twenty in one night.

I start my gangbang as soon as I get there. I don’t really socialize at swing clubs. I’m pretty much there for sex with as many guys as I can.

I mostly swing with single males at swing clubs. I like to try several guys and get off with the one that feels the best. Since I like to have at least 5 guys in a night single guys work the best for me. If they feel good to me they will take their time and if not I can ask them to finish quickly. I also find that for the most part single guys at swing clubs are very nice.

I only go to clubs that allow single men. In my case I am the only one that plays; my husband watches. I do not like the drama that occurs in couples-only clubs. My experience with single guys has been only positive: They are polite, respectful , and attentive. I love having sex with more than one person in a night; only the clubs that allow single guys provides this opportunity – it just doesn’t happen in a couple-only atmosphere. Clubs that allow single guys as well as couples provide the best mix for everyone: There are plenty of couples for those looking only for couples, yet there are enough single guys to mix things up for people like me.

I enjoy multiple guys cumming inside me. It also helps with the lubrication.

Here is my experience with Gangbangs. I frequently have them and really enjoy them. My husband and I travel all over the country and try every swing club we can. We only attend ones that allow single men. My experience is these are usually the only true swing clubs. Couples only clubs are very cliquish, and the people rarely swing. My first experience with a gangbang was in Miami, Florida. My husband was by my side (he is always with me when I swing). I laid down on a doctor’s exam table they had in one of the rooms, put my feet up in the stirrups, and began to play with 2 couples and a few single guys. I began to enjoy the attention the women were giving me and the stroking of the penus inside me so much that I wound up having 14 different men (I had no idea how many men there were: my husband kept track). I had planned to use condoms, but it felt so good that I let them all cum inside me. This experience made me realize how much I enjoy feeling different men inside me. I now enjoy as many men as I can. I encourage any women who have a fantasy of a gangbang to try it. Don’t worry about the number, because it just doesn’t matter – anyone who says different is just being a stuck-up. You’re having fun – that’s what it’s about. Life is too short not to live it.

Question: What the heck is up with those couples who go to a swing club and all they want to do is dance & have a few drinks? My husband and I observe this behavior all the time. We see couples come in to a club, dance a while, then leave. I thought the whole point of going to a swinger's club was to swing! Seems like a no-brainer to me.

I'm new to this forum, but I just had to respond to the question about black guys. I'm a white girl, and I love black men. They are the most kind, considerate & sincere guys I've met. I'll hook up with a black guy before any others! They're just too sweet to pass up!