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You should tread carefully. She may be giving you an “it’s fine.” To see if you’ll go for it. Communication is key and if this a test and you fail, could seriously harm your relationship. single women are unicorns. You can’t swing a dead cat without hitting a single guy looking to fuck. you have to bring your A game. Hygeine and taking care of yourself is way up there. A huge dong can’t hurt. Most of the couple profiles I’ve seen looking for single guys wants 8+ and in shape. most of all, single guys need to know what a woman or couples want, know their place, and don’t cross boundaries. you need to be able to communicate with both people and be sincere. If you think that “hey girl, you are so hot…blah, blah, blah” unlikely to get anywhere. Ignoring hubby or making him insecure won’t either. Cuckold porn is hot but unsure how often it plays out in real life. but starting out, you should try any of the many lifestyle sites. Become a paid member, have something interesting to say and post pics (not your dick). Depending on where you live, some parties host single guys but not all. I would suggest neighboring town to avoid running into anyone you might know. Even if your wife is cool with it, she may not be cool with friend, family, coworkers finding out.

Some couples have arrangements like that. Are you thinking about doing it and are you really sire she's OK with it?

Back in the 'golden age' of porn (80s-90s), there pretty much was only one option and that was to be a star in porn movies. There were no other alternatives, and if you didn't become a star, you were already close to the end of your rope. Also, social pressure, society, and stigmas cause more than a few porn stars who more often felt either trapped by situations or due to the abundance of drugs and the party culture of the time, to turn to drugs and alcohol as a crutch. These days, there are so many different options to make money in porn, it no longer is a 'do or die' proposition. There are still movies, but now there are dozens of other choices, and all of them can be profitable if you are looking to make money with it. Probably the biggest is Only Fans and other similar sites, but there is also personal websites, subscription services, selling adult products, streaming, photography, audio, 'custom' (making something for a specific kink or specific person), VR, erotic stories, and many others. Revenues of the adult industry are difficult to determine, but a 1970 federal study estimated that the total retail value of hardcore pornography in the United States was no more than $5 million to $10 million. But by 2011, pornography was becoming one of the biggest businesses in the United States and in 2014, the porn industry was believed to bring in at least $13 billion a year. As of 2023, the global porn industry made over $97 BILLION dollars and it is expected to exceed $120 billion in 2024. People are no longer looking at porn as a last resort, but in many times, a first resort. Kaden Kross was attending Sacramento State University (as a psych major) when she quit school to become a 'porn star'. She later moved behind the cameras to become a director of porn movies. There are constant stories in the news of women and couples making 6 figures on Only Fans and other similar sites, in addition to their day jobs. I think the bigger problem here is when something...anything, becomes an addiction. Be it drugs, alcohol, porn or anything else. To much of anything can easily end up being a bad thing...for both the creator and the consumer.

This is also a good point - she turned 50 last year and is still in the evil clutches of menopause - both things have affected her moods / confidence - she's used to being the most desired in any room that she enters and it's hard for her to adjust to the (perceived in her head - she is still highly desired) change. Thank you also for taking the time to respond!

First of all good luck! You will need it. Single guys are a dime a dozen and not very high up in most swingers list. Married guys playing alone are probably even lower on the list. Be prepared to make an outstanding profile on whatever site you are using. With good pictures that are not cock pics and a well written bio. If you are not in good shape you might want to start working on it. The competition is huge. Without that you probably will not get any responses. Also be prepared for people to want your wife to verify that you have permission to play alone. Lots of guys claim this, but few are being honest. If you are looking for the easy way there isn’t one. You will be fighting an uphill battle.

I rather watch a woman suck me. I even enjoy watching my wife sucking me.

Personally, for me, it is her pleasure that excites me. I would not swing alone.

Mrs. Curious likes this comment and that has given us pause for reflection. Thank you for taking the time. Apparently I (Mr.) am more fussy and less willing to take one for the team, so she feels that she has to (although I have repeatedly said that I am OK not to play and on one specific occasion I didn't play and she did with 3 guys ++ we have also had a couple of MFM's). I'm now actively looking for younger hotter guys without particularly thinking about the lady - we'll see where we end up. Much appreciate your feedback here.

Unlike others on here I don’t enjoy watching my Angel suck her friends. Our sex lives are open to meeting others alone. I see most swingers do things together where we meet others apart mostly. I much rather see her eat a woman.

It makes one think why we enjoy watching anything. I only enjoy if she is enjoying.

Numex, indeed. My first wife had very little sexual experience prior to the beginning of our relationship. Although attractive she hadn’t dated in high school and very little as an undergraduate. I think I recall correctly that she’d had quite brief sexual liaisons with three guys. We knew each other for two years through an extracurricular organization, and I’d had the hots for her from literally the first moment I’d set eyes on her. I wanted to date her so bad, but other than a couple of desultory friend-zone dates, she just wasn’t interested. Until she suddenly was. She’d graduated but several months later was back in town with nothing really going on in her life. I asked her to a party at the off-campus house where I was living for my senior year. We’d had just enough wine to be relaxed and then the kissing started. Within a few days we had begun having sex. A lot! Like, I quit going to class and for a couple of weeks we primarily stayed in bed and fucked. She had so little prior experience; had never masturbated or had an orgasm. This was her first serious romantic or sexual relationship and she was keen to explore. And I was happy to do so with her. We married about 18 months later. She continued to be interested in exploring sex. I think she always was a bit envious of my much broader sexual experience coming into our relationship and felt as though she’d somehow missed out, While she was in medical school, beyond the soft swing with another couple (the wife in that couple and I have now been married for 34 years) and her affair with her classmate, we discussed swinging (or as it was then referred to, "wife swapping" 🙄). She expressed interest in having sex with a couple of other guys she knew from school and I gently encouraged her to pursue that interest. We also discussed looking for MFMF possibilities, but the logistics in those pre-internet days were daunting for a couple who were in medical school and grad school. So yeah, @Numex, "what might have been." After a decades-long period of relative estrangement following the sad end of our marriage we are now again quite close friends. We have lunch every couple of months and speak on the phone weekly. We had lunch last week with our spouses and a mutual friend who was visiting. She clearly deeply loves her husband, who is a terrific guy. She has implied that she’s no longer sexually active, but did so in a way that suggested she didn’t miss sex. If circumstances were different I’d still want to have a sexually intimate relationship with her as well as enjoying our close friendship. It’s probably best t she’s in a loving marriage that is apparently celibate by choice. Or we might get in trouble.

An update for those who are interested. Joe and Shannon visited this past weekend and got a hotel room near us. They know that we are busy with the kids and house on weekends, so they stayed there. They arrived Friday around noon, got into their room, and let us know that they were there. We sort of rotated over there for our fun. The interesting things for me were primarily psychological: On Friday, Lora and Red, their favorite couple to swap with went over. Red and Lora have really bonded over this. Saturday, was the main event that Joe was particularly looking forward to, David and Red double teaming Shan while Joe watched. I was lucky enough to be the one woman there when that was going on. It certainly wasn't love making, not even really sex, more like performance that both Shan and Joe enjoyed. David explained that Joe like it because it makes him feel as though he got the high performance model in his wife. Shannon just likes getting attention (and dick) from different men, both one at a time and together. From my perspective it was odd watching because I wasn't jealous at all, despite seeing Red, David, and Shan all having some pretty intense orgasms. I was also the one teasing Joe as he watched what his wife was doing, until he cam in me then I went over and had Shan eat her husband's cum out of me as David fucked her. Fun. We rotated through some other permutations, but nothing unusual for the people on this Board. If there's interest, I post whenever we get together with them, but the uncertainty of where this was going when it started is gone.

My wife says I can swing but she won't