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I was just re-reading Julie's thread on "just because I say hello doesn't mean I want to fuck you." A lot of attitudes folks have about swingers, if they find out you swing, is they'll fuck anyone. Do us swingers think that too? Did the recipient of Julie's email take the fact that they received an email that she'll fuck anyone? Then I was thinking about the response threads that reminded us all that sites like SLS are hookup sites, and if you receive an email on those sites, the implication is that you may want to hook up with them. Interesting. When I get those emails, and when I send those emails, the first stage is an exploratory stage. To determine if there's a connection. I don't necessarily think, at first, there will be a hookup (a lot of the time I hope so! LOL). I look at SLS as a directory of like-minded folks who accept swinging. As most non swingers, and even some swingers, think that swingers will do anyone, do they also think all gay people will do anyone? With those attitudes and thought processes, does it then mean that all hetero people will do any other hetero? Do all vanillas do any vanilla? Will bi women do anyone? I like to think of "us" as progressive thinkers. After all, we've all thought through sex and having sex outside of our relationships. That, I think, is pretty deep. So why do we still get caught up in such close-minded attitudes? Why do we find ourselves thinking that swingers will fuck anything or that gay people will fuck anything? This also parlays into the attitude towards bi-males in the lifestyle. Dear straight guy: guess what? Mr. bi doesn't do everybody either ... he can resist you, I just know he can.

Thank you for your kind suggestion regarding a support group, but I have no need for one. My husband is my one man support group, as he has been for over 38 years. I did indeed create this pesky thread to make a point, which has been made in various ways. It has certainly clarified in my mind how to handle herpes and swinging.