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Responding to the other topic started under this title.

 

When I suggested this to my wife (about a friend of ours), she obviously thought that I was joking. When I told her I was serious, she was very surprised. Doing it with another man with me watching or participating was something she just couldn't imagine. We dropped the subject, till a few weeks later during sex she raised it again. My excitement just went through the roof! She said it had been going around in her mind all this time. She said she had kept on thinking about it and gradually started fantasizing about doing it with our friend. I came in my wife as soon as she said this!

 

Then we did it with him (our friend had always been interested in my wife and had told me about it). I can tell you that it was the best sex I, my wife and our friend had ever had. He had intercourse with her, while my wife rubbed my hard-on. We both sucked on her breasts at the same time. Both my erection and my friend's are much harder in the threesome than when we have just one partner sex.

 

My advice is, just let your wife think about it. You might be as lucky as I was.

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Thanks for sharing your 3some experience with us! Erotic fantasies come true...Wow!

 

Before we were involved in the lifestyle, I remember when my hubby first shared his FMF 3some fantasy with me, automatically my thoughts went into "defense mode"! OMG! How COULD he even THINK such a thing?!! Sheessshh, now that I think about it...*lol*

 

The levels of processing for me was this...

 

1) First came the initial SHOCK! "Am I hearing what I THINK I'm hearing?! How COULD he..."

 

2) Then the "quiet" period. Some call it the "silent treatment", but what we're REALLY doing is "analyzing the situation". REALLY. *lol*

 

3) And then we analyze this even more. And for those of you who are even more analytical than some, this process takes even longer. So PATIENCE grasshoppers, patience... :D

 

4) By this time, given the patience we need to come to our own comfort zones of excepting this, or not...We either except it, and fantasize other sexual erotic pleasures that was stimulated by this in the FIRST place! Or we NOT except it, and just say no. BUT, maybe we're just not ready to except it yet, and we need to go back to step #3.

 

5) FINALLY, we share our thoughts. Whether it be MORE fantasies, rules, comforts zones, etc...We're almost there! But this level of "processing" takes lots of time and patience! Obviously, right? HHHhhmmm....*LOL*

 

And the moral of this IS...*lol* Communicate with openness, sharing truthfully & honestly, with compassion & respect of each others feelings, sharing the newness of the idea, and doing whatever it is that the both of you do best in comforting each other and consoling together...

 

Going through the levels of process together with patience and communicating openly, your relationship is strengthened, making the bond between husband & wife MUCH stronger, before taking any further steps into making both your fantasies come true. And even THAT, is a fantasy come true all in itself, stronger relationships! :)

 

Good luck & keep us posted!

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Threesome Man,

 

Your experience sounds EXACTLY like OUR first-time MFM threesome. It was so erotic, so sensuous, so utterly EXCITING!!! We loved and enjoyed it so immensely we've done it a lot more since then!! And CyberMWCouple has it right, COMMUNICATION is definitely the key to it all. We talked it over for a long time, then my wife just had to imagine it, then fantasize about it. Hey, it was WORTH it!!!

 

Our first FMF threesome was a result of the other lady's husband getting too excited and blowing it all waaaay too soon!! LOL So, there I was, surrounded by two very hot women!! He just had to settle for the role of photographer for a good while. I don't know how I managed it, but I took both women on singlehandedly and actually pleased BOTH of them!

 

I probably couldn't EVER do that good again... but I am certainly willing to give it a try again!!!

 

Hey, Dan, we burned the whole county down again last night, man!! You and Janette should move closer to Tennessee!!! LOL

 

We FINALLY met a couple we get along with great in every way, from the first meeting it was like we had known each other for years and the chemistry was perfect, no nerves, no bad vibes no negative anything! This is the 3rd weekend in a row they have been here since they only live an hour away. It's big shot in the arm for us I guarantee it! We were starting to think we'd never meet a compatible couple that was in our area!

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The MFM threesome idea was how got into the whole scene in the first place. It had always been a fantasy of mine to see my wife give head to another guy and see his look of utter pleasure as she swallowed his cum after an incredible 30 minute BJ.

 

I had broached it with my wife years ago, but she was quite put off for a long time and it never came up again. Then all of a sudden 6 years later she told me she had engaged ina spontaneous CyperSex session with a guy in Virgina. She couldn't stop thinking about actually doing it with another guy after being monogemous for 8 years.

 

Well we talked about it more and I realized that her initial rejection years ago was because she thought I was just trying to end up with another woman in the bed and she thought I was just being sneaky about it. After she saw my reaction to her confessed CyberSex experience she realized I was being very honest.

 

One thing led to another and we ended up swinging. Most of our sessions have been MFM combos. All sorts of positions and expereinces including a Vaginal DP. My wife has turned into quite a sexy vixen and I must admit it really blows my mind to have her take control of 2 guys and make us satisfy her. We have had couples involved as well, not just single men, and to be honest we prefer couples because it seems single men begin to think they can just drop over for a quickie even when I am not home. My wife always refuses these offers, but they are annoying just the same.

 

But it takes a special couple to have the other wife feel comfortable alone for a while. And since my wife has developed a Bi taste she usually makes up for the lack of attention to the other wife. Some of you may say "why don't you return the favour?" I offered, but the other husband didn't want to do it for some reason. Any ideas on that one?

 

Enough rambling for now, just my 2 cents worth.

 

Medi, the male half of the couple

 

 

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Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:

.....But it takes a special couple to have the other wife feel comfortable alone for a while. And since my wife has developed a Bi taste she usually makes up for the lack of attention to the other wife. Some of you may say "why don't you return the favour?" I offered, but the other husband didn't want to do it for some reason. Any ideas on that one?

 

Medi, the male half of the couple

 

Thanks for sharing that story with us!

 

Now, I'm sorry, but I don't quite understand your question here. *lol @ myself, trying to get this straight* The other hubby didn't want his wife engaged in a MFM 3some with you & him? Yes? Did you & your wife have a full-swap session with them, or soft-swing only?

 

The only way to "know", is to just ASK him about it.

 

Communication needs to be done openly & honestly at all times, even with the other couples and/or singles.

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Yeah you lost me on that question as well. Maybe you can explain the situation better.

 

I read it that (possibly) your wife likes to receive oral but not give it to the woman and you offered to do so in her place but was declined?

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Julie and CyberMWCouple... sorry to be a little vague there. Although the posting time said 1:15 a.m it was really 2:15 a.m. (AST) and I was a little cloudy in my thinking. I am sick right now and couldn't sleep.

 

To clarify.... Our encounters with this other couple were always Full Swap and no holds barred fun. There were probably 7 or 8 nights together before the MFM situation. After the MFM threesome with my wife, I suggested that myself and the other husband do the same for the other wife... He refused though and indicated that he would rather just spend time with my wife instead of his own. That is where my question lies... do other couples share this feeling? He said something along the lines of "I have her every night, I would rather have fun with your wife tonight"

 

As for the Bi actions of my wife... she will not allow anyone but me go "Downtown" so to speak, rather it was her providing services to the other wife to make up for the lack of attention. Like I said before, "Gaia" is a real dynamo in group settings.

 

Anyhow, the question I had was directed at understanding the other Husband's feelings in this case. I would love to have asked him directly, but we have stopped seeing them. To be honest I think it was jealousy on the other wife's part at being left out. This is why I wanted feedback on other's feelings out there. They had swung for years before us, and continued after we stopped with them. I got the feeling though that "Gaia" excited him more than his own wife and she didn't like it. Why this was not a problem before or after us I don't know.

 

Any ideas would be appreciated.

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Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:

Anyhow, the question I had was directed at understanding the other Husband's feelings in this case. I would love to have asked him directly, but we have stopped seeing them. To be honest I think it was jealousy on the other wife's part at being left out. This is why I wanted feedback on other's feelings out there. They had swung for years before us, and continued after we stopped with them. I got the feeling though that "Gaia" excited him more than his own wife and she didn't like it. Why this was not a problem before or after us I don't know.

Any ideas would be appreciated.

Medi, the Male half of this couple.

 

I could definitely agree with that assumption as to what happened with them and see where the female would feel left out in that situation. At least tho your wife was nice enough to try to make it up to her in other ways. Sounds like the guy had some issues.. and needed to think more about what his wife would have liked than what he liked.. then again maybe she wasn't interested in a MFM threesome and he knew that and rather than her stating it he did.. there's really no way to know.

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Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:

.....After the MFM threesome with my wife, I suggested that myself and the other husband do the same for the other wife... He refused though and indicated that he would rather just spend time with my wife instead of his own. That is where my question lies... do other couples share this feeling? He said something along the lines of "I have her every night, I would rather have fun with your wife tonight"

 

.....I got the feeling though that "Gaia" excited him more than his own wife and she didn't like it. Why this was not a problem before or after us I don't know.

 

Any ideas would be appreciated.

 

Medi, the Male half of this couple.

 

I think that it was very selfish of him to ask this of you & Gaia! And I can see why his wife may have felt some jealousy there. Can you blame her? :(

 

Julie is right, he has issues that needs to be worked out, and before they continue any swinging. If ever you're approached by them to "play" again, I would suggest to steer away from that "scenario". Not until they've ironed out their differences, and new "ground rules" are set, if you know what I mean. :)

 

How did Gaia feel about this, when the other hubby asked, if he could have "fun with your wife tonight", instead of having a FMF 3some with his wife included? This would've made me feel uncomfortable, and I would have to decline. Especially since, hubby & I only play TOGETHER, and not separate.

 

How did YOU feel about his approach?

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Hmmm.. Question.. What was the other wife doing while the other 3 of you were playing? Just watching? I can't imagine that would make her very happy. I mean I guess she could really be into that.. but I would think she will feel left out (at least a little). Seems to me like this guy was one of those that was more concerned with his own desires than with fulfilling anything with his wife. (just out for a piece so to speak).

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Originally posted by CyberMWCouple:

How did Gaia feel about this, when the other hubby asked, if he could have "fun with your wife tonight", instead of having a FMF 3some with his wife included? This would've made me feel uncomfortable, and I would have to decline. Especially since, hubby & I only play TOGETHER, and not separate.

 

See.. I think this was a hidden issue. Our playing was together (all 4 in the same room), but we did on occasion split up into different rooms with opposite spouses. It didn't bother me or Gaia at the time it was said. But as time went on it was more evident that when we swung He wanted only to be with Gaia and not his own wife at all. I brought it up in a question once, but he accused me of having a jealousy issue and I let the matter drop.

 

Gaia was uncomfortable and tried to steer him into a 3'some with his wife. When this happened he just sat back and didn't participate. The other wife seemed to want to, so no I don't think it was him defending her choice at all, as was postulated by Julie above.

 

You see, these people were our only couple experience at the time, and He came across as some experienced guy who knew all the answers and Gaia and I went along becuase we thought that was how they did things. It wasn't until after we stopped seeing them that I began to think the other wife may have felt threatened or something.

 

It is hard to explain really. We had lots of great times together, but there was that one time that everything got awkward and nothing quite felt right again afterwards. In hindsight I think he was out for his own desires, but he would put on this attitude like he was the teacher and we had to learn his way or something. He also got a little demeaning after a while and would say little comments that were smug. Like when Gaia and I would cuddle together after swapping, he would leave the room and say "Excuse me! I guess you need to Nest right now. Let me know when you are done"

 

Last point and then I will go. Julie asked what the other wife would be doing when we other 3 were together. She would watch and masturbate. I called her over a few times, but she just smiled and waved me off.

 

All in all, we are confused about this. Maybe I am not making the points clear to you all. But I did get the impression that he was bored with his own wife and she knew not to intrude on his fun. Gaia and I would play with her, but never with her own husband.. he always just backed off.

 

BTW, he did meet up with us for drinks one night without his wife. He wanted to come home with us and when we asked where she was, he told us she was out of town but knew about the get together. We begged off from him that night. I later found out that his wife was in fact just sitting at home watching TV. We never heard from him again, and she ignored our phone messages afterwards.

 

The original post in this whole thread was getting a wife to try a MFM 3 some, and I guess we moved onto quite a bit more details of a problem. I am hoping that there are couples that can have fun with this because we do want to do it again and again. Like I said in the earlier post, just having single guys is not the answer, so another couple is our preference. Any Hope?

 

Medi

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Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:

Last point and then I will go. Julie asked what the other wife would be doing when we other 3 were together. She would watch and masturbate. I called her over a few times, but she just smiled and waved me off.

 

... But I did get the impression that he was bored with his own wife and she knew not to intrude on his fun. Gaia and I would play with her, but never with her own husband.. he always just backed off.

 

The original post in this whole thread was getting a wife to try a MFM 3 some, and I guess we moved onto quite a bit more details of a problem. I am hoping that there are couples that can have fun with this because we do want to do it again and again. Like I said in the earlier post, just having single guys is not the answer, so another couple is our preference. Any Hope?

 

Medi

 

It definitely sounds like an issue of a guy out for his own fun/ bored with his wife and not really caring if she has fun (and her knowing better than to intrude on his). I've seen this before with couples where they are really only in the lifestyle for one of them.. but rather than that one going off and swinging by themselves as their chances would be slimmer of "hooking up" (for lack of better word), they go as a couple.

 

Personally, I think that if you are looking for a 3some your best bet is going to be a single. If you are with a couple, your best bet is to either swap or find some way that all 4 can be involved. And a person can still have their threesome fantasy realized with a 4th person involved.. just takes some creativity when coming up with positions :)

 

But the idea of having a group of four and leaving one person out.. that bothers me. Unless they are just a total voyeur who gets off on seeing their partner going at it.. but even at that case I can't imagine they would stay completely uninvolved the entire time.

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Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:

I brought it up in a question once, but he accused me of having a jealousy issue and I let the matter drop... Gaia was uncomfortable and tried to steer him into a 3'some with his wife. When this happened he just sat back and didn't participate. The other wife seemed to want to, so no I don't think it was him defending her choice at all, as was postulated by Julie above... but he would put on this attitude like he was the teacher and we had to learn his way or something. He also got a little demeaning after a while and would say little comments that were smug.

 

Pardon my language, but what an asshole. He sounds very pushy the way you describe him and after 5 minutes with him, I would have told him to go fuck himself while the three of us had fun.

 

We chatted on the phone last night with another pushy one. Almost the first words out of his mouth were, I want pix of your wife. As an afterthought, he added, 'and you'. I told him No. We don't send pix. He came across with some comment about how strange that was. I simply told him that we don't do that and if it was going to be a problem.... He then did an about face and seemed to try and friendly us into coming over to their place. As I look back on it now, we never heard his wife, we have only seen a pic online, and that may not even be her. At this point, I feel that his being pushy and insistant about pix have put him on our 'No way' list. Another freak bites the dust.

 

CyberHusband

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Originally posted by CyberMWCouple:

At this point, I feel that his being pushy and insistent about pix have put him on our 'No way' list. Another freak bites the dust.

 

I can certainly understand your feelings.... on Webpersonals this week alone we have received 8 inquiries from single men that sent us their pics unasked for. Then they send a message that says to the effect "I sent you my pic now you have to send me yours"

 

Pretty pushy there! Oh well, at least it is easy to ignore their messages.

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We've encountered MANY picture collectors. You can spot them right off, and we don't oblige any of them. Our pics are up on our website ad, they have seen them, and if that's not good enough then tough!! LOL

 

We have a couple of friends who were contacted by a couple of interest here. The pics they sent our friends were of someone else, probably twenty years younger than the couple was in real life. Well, our friends met them at a restaurant and were shocked when these folks were about seventy years old AND not the people in the pics!! The man simply asked them if they'd meet someone who looked like them if they had sent their real pics....

 

Talk about an infraction of the rules!!!

 

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

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Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:

.....The original post in this whole thread was getting a wife to try a MFM 3 some, and I guess we moved onto quite a bit more details of a problem. I am hoping that there are couples that can have fun with this because we do want to do it again and again. Like I said in the earlier post, just having single guys is not the answer, so another couple is our preference. Any Hope?

 

Medi

 

Of course there's HOPE! Proof right here...*Raising our hands, pointing to all the other couples here as well...* Patience & time... :)

 

As for this other couple that you mentioned here....

 

Now that you've both had this experience, you & Gaia should only do what's COMfortable for the BOTH of you! Don't ever let anyone else push you two into doing something THEY think is right, which is usually THEIR way, and they're not considering the thoughts & feelings of others either. Sad, but it happens, obviously... :(

 

Julie is right, sounds like this guy was out for his own "glory", and being VERY inconsiderate of others, especially his wife!

 

And btw, if anyone gave hubby & I that rude remark of "nesting" while snuggling together, whatsoever, they would've been HIStory, I tell ya! That should've been another "sign" right there...It sounded as if HE was the one with the "jealousy" issue! You're both better off withOUT them.

 

Good luck!

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And btw, if anyone gave hubby & I that rude remark of "nesting" while snuggling together, whatsoever, they would've been HIStory, I tell ya! That should've been another "sign" right there...It sounded as if HE was the one with the "jealousy" issue! You're both better off withOUT them.

 

Thanks for all the feedback everyone. It does certainly reinforce my own feelings on the outcome. I had felt that perhaps I was too inflexible and it was me that held back the 4 of us from getting (or cumming ;) ) together again.

 

However, after reflection on the situation I came to the conclusion that He was perhaps better suited with a Master/Slave relationship as opposed to an open equal one. It even went to the point that if we went out as couples to an event, he wanted to drive, arrive, socialize and leave with my wife and have me do the same with his. I mean I don't mind being together in a regular way, but this seemed a bit extreme to me.

 

Oh, well, now that we are looking again, we are taking a great deal more time to ensure compatibility.

 

Enough of Beating this Dead Horse I guess.

 

Medi

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Originally posted by Gaia&Medi:

...Oh, well, now that we are looking again, we are taking a great deal more time to ensure compatibility...

 

Medi

 

That's cool... :)

 

And good luck in your continued search! As a matter of fact, we hope things work out for you & Gaia with Dan & Janette! ;)

 

Keep us posted!

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Thanks a lot to all who shared of themselves in this post,it is very re-assuring to me how helpful everyone is!

 

My Wife and I have been talking about a threesome for about six or seven years and just this last couple of months She has decided that She would like this very much.

 

Her main concern seems to be that I will get Jealous when after all it was me who suggested it,even though I have had a couple of experiences in the past. I do not feel anything but arousal at the suggestion of it and the idea of enhancing our sex lives in this fashion is one of my biggest turn-ons!

 

I do understand how jealousy can creep in especially if you are worried that she is enjoying the other fellow more than it "seems" that she enjoys you,but the idea of being with her and knowing that she is able to be with someone else and still not diminish what we have is intoxicating to say the least!

 

As I am an older (38) guy and have to "Husband" my resources the thought of a little "help" with my particular Domestic Goddess is a very welcome one not to mention a big turn-on for yours truly!

 

Again thank you all very much for your experiences and if any of you should feel you'd like to write please feel free to do so.

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ElricDeMelnibone,

 

You say you're very old (38 years old??) LOLOL Hey, I wish I was 38 again!! Knowing what I do now, I'd certainly have a lot more fun than I did....

 

Just keep in mind that it's a give and take thing. Your wife can and will enjoy herself, and you will also enjoy yourself. That's what it's all about! But you aren't doing it to replace each other, you're doing it to share your feelings and your love. You'll enjoy seeing her giving someone else immense pleasure, and she will delight in seeing you do this.

 

Just remember, when all is said and done, you will both have each other. Any new techniques you have both learned from others can be tried out by the two of you on each other. You will both appreciate each other a lot more, too.

 

Just remember, NO JEALOUSY!! Always communicate your feelings with each other. The number one reason most people have problems is from a communication gap.

 

Good luck to you and your wife! Keep us posted on how things go!

 

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

 

 

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I apologize for bringing up an old thread but I'm new here and was having a look around when I noticed this thread.

 

Like Threesome man, I too have a strong desire to see my wife have sex with another man. Until I fond this board I wasn't sure if I was perverted or just exceptionally generous! ;)

 

The MFM scenario is the definite turn-on for me. I'm not interested in having sex with anyone else but my wife and my only interest in in watching her please and be pleased by another man.

 

My wife has agreed to do this but we are both moving slowly to make sure it's the right decision for us, and that we choose the right man for her. I want her to feel totally comfortable and safe and that's difficult to do when the other man is a total stranger.

 

I'm looking forward to the day I can watch her have sex with another man and I appreciate the comments and experiences I've seen posted here. It makes me feel much more confident that this can be a very rewarding experience for us.

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