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A little background on us if you don't mind. We've been together for about 14 years and both previously married. I'm 47 and she's 51. Our sex life out the gate was just amazing. I've never been with anyone like her or since her. We've played with straight mfm threesomes in the past, some very good in my opinion others not so much. Guess my issue is that I'd still like to play occasionally but the wife gets upset if I suggest it and it usually turns into an argument therefore I've let it be for the most part but not the only one that brings it up if even in a roundabout way..  I understand that we've both got health issues that keep us from being all acrobatic and such lol. Even though I don't bring it up there's times she does but not in a yea let's do it sorta way, more along the lines of just past enough tequila when It used to happen to now why isn't she enough? Not trying to be a complete asshole but I enjoy sharing her and she's very good when she gets into it. Just wondering how to calm down my inclinations or play with out hurting her?

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GoldCoCouple    4,023

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If she is no longer interested, then you need to find out why. If you can't have a talk about this without causing a problem, then that is a different (bigger) problem that needs to be worked on. For whatever reason it sounds like the communication has broken down and that needs to be repaired. At the same time, she is also entitled to not want to do it any more, in which case, you need to honor her choice. But first, fix the communication and then find out why she isn't interested.

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On 8/6/2021 at 9:43 AM, GoldCoCouple said:

she is also entitled to not want to do it any more

Agreed, but she likely feels that she is being pressured to do something she doesn't like or prevented from doing something she wants.  As advised above, talk and make clear that she controls the activities. 

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