A Bi date with her

[Shore2Please 543]

I often write about our first swap with a couple and my night alone with him. The next day I had a very uncomfortable bi experience, something I never wanted to do. I never had any sexual attraction to women and certainly had never planned to explore. As it was our first swing I just went along not wanting to ruin my experience from the night before. 
Over the years since that first time I have had contact with bi sex in very small doses. Normally it was done as part of another playtime thing. I became less afraid of being with a woman, still not giving totally to being bi. 
Our friend who we met on vacation years ago, our first and primary play partner was coming to NYC on business and said she was going to have free time and wanted to meet in the city for a Girl’s Day. She was on business and finished early and the weather was perfect. I agreed to meeting, we had become very good friends and I never spent time with her without our husbands. 
She booked a Mani/Pedi and massages for both of us. Her treat. Lunch outdoors in great restaurant, walking and talking. I always wondered if we were their first, I told her they were too relaxed that first time, she swore we were, they had agreed before the cruise that they would approach a couple. I told her how often I think about that night and how romantic her husband was. She told me they have played with others and she always thinks about her first also. 
A beautiful day, we had drinks at a rooftop bar and talked and talked. She mentioned that her hotel was great and invited me to stay the night. She read my body language as not being onboard, and said we would be alone, no putting on a show for the men. Give it a try, I could always leave. 
After big hesitant minutes, I gave into lust. My friend is a beautiful person, as romantic as her husband. With my inhibitions taken away, we made love for hours. Made love to a woman for our own benefit not for men watching us. I still don’t think I am bisexual, it was a magical day. 

[lovefest04 687]

Congrats, sounds lovely.

[Goodbicouple 173]

share the details of the sex 

[cplnluv1 814]

2 hours ago, Goodbicouple said:

share the details of the sex 

Details of her sex? Pretty sure it’s what most women do when alone. 

[Shore2Please 543]

On 5/21/2021 at 12:04 PM, Goodbicouple said:

share the details of the sex 

The night with her was very similar to a night with her husband with one major difference. 
When we first met and we swapped husbands I had a hard time liking her. She didn’t do anything to make me dislike, I enjoyed my time with her before the swap. I wasn’t ready for sexual advances by a woman. I had a very difficult time responding and even harder time touching her. Over time they became very close friends, at a distance, and I love spending time with them. I am a drop more comfortable with her sexually, not totally loving it. The things we have done were always part of other play we all did. 
This was the first time alone with her, no help from the men. I had a good time, you can guess the thing I missed most. 

[couplers 4,204]

On 5/21/2021 at 8:12 AM, Shore2Please said:

I still don’t think I am bisexual, it was a magical day. 

It doesn't matter what you call it, so long as you enjoy it.

[couplers 4,204]

4 hours ago, Shore2Please said:

I had a good time, you can guess the thing I missed most. 

I'm being dense, please explain.

 

If it were me, I would miss having a man, either yours or one of mine.  FFMs are my favorite.  Having a second guy available is nice, but only after the first one leaves, which they can usually be persuaded to do after cumming.

[Shore2Please 543]

11 hours ago, couplers said:

I'm being dense, please explain.

 

If it were me, I would miss having a man, either yours or one of mine.  FFMs are my favorite.  Having a second guy available is nice, but only after the first one leaves, which they can usually be persuaded to do after cumming.

You aren’t dense, you know what the difference is between sex with a man and sex with a woman. 
You enjoy sex with multi people, I enjoy being alone with one person. Sex with a man is very natural to me, something I have done my entire adult life. I know how to touch a man, I know what the men I have been with enjoy. I am still very new to pleasing another woman. It should come natural, I know what pleases me and try to replicate the things I respond to. 
I missed a man, a penis specifically. I know how to please a penis, how to touch a penis, how to orally caress a penis. I enjoy having a penis in me. Swapping has allowed me to enjoy the differences I had not enjoyed since marriage. I think most on here enjoy the newness of being with a different partner. The different touching, different scent, different taste and the different motions. 
My head between the legs of a woman is a foreign experience. I was looking at a body part differently than I ever did before. Differently than I ever saw my own. I saw this one before from this angle, just not the same way as this time, alone with her and not being watched. You would think you would know what to do distinctively. 

[couplers 4,204]

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. 

 

13 hours ago, Shore2Please said:

You enjoy sex with multi people, I enjoy being alone with one person.

Both have their pleasures.

[cplnluv1 814]

On 5/23/2021 at 8:38 AM, Shore2Please said:

My head between the legs of a woman is a foreign experience. I was looking at a body part differently than I ever did before. Differently than I ever saw my own. I saw this one before from this angle, just not the same way as this time, alone with her and not being watched. You would think you would know what to do distinctively. 

Thank you for sharing an experience. If you read my posts you know that I have been with women who are exploring a new experience. Almost all the women are having sex being watched by both their and my husband, not under the best circumstances to enjoy their own sexuality. I always concentrate on giving pleasure wanting a first experience to be memorable and positive. I’m not a therapist, I do enjoy talking after to the woman knowing it might be a life changing moment. It troubles me when they ask if they did right, did I enjoy, or they look to the husband for his approval. 
Being alone, no husbands or as I call them Sightseers is a different experience. My advice has always been to enjoy, it’s about them, not me. Be able to verbalize your likes, nobody knows exactly what feels good to you. I also know receiving is much easier for them, giving pleasure to a woman is alien to what has been learned. I normally guide them to places I enjoy being touched, externally and internally. Oral sex is the primary pleasure act even when toys are involved, it’s also the hardest act to start. 
If you can, you said your head was between her legs was a foreign experience, what went through your thoughts, what did you focus on, did she respond the way you wanted? 
I understand your want for a man, I enjoy men more as well and enjoy my man, this new part just adds to enjoyment. As I say to other women, don’t do anything because someone wants you to do it, do it because you want to do it. If you enjoyed her and think you will enjoy being with women, I say Enjoy! If you don’t enjoy, stop, I am sure you have tried other things once and never tried again. 

[MidwestHoneys 339]

1 hour ago, cplnluv1 said:

what went through your thoughts, what did you focus on, did she respond the way you wanted? 

I don’t know what Honey does alone with women, only what she does when I’m there. We share pussy and we compare. Sweet pussy, stanky pussy, juicy pussy, clits, lips and screaming loud sex. 
If she is fucking and I watched I have no problem saying the guy has a fat cock or a small cock or man he went forever. Someone who shoots a big load on her I think I notice more. 
Always fun to talk and share what we were thinking. Got me thinking do you look at a pussy like I do. 

[ROCKlandCpl 441]

On 5/24/2021 at 10:08 AM, cplnluv1 said:

I always concentrate on giving pleasure wanting a first experience to be memorable and positive

A first experience is the hardest choice a couple can make and I know for me I was shaking not only being touched it was watching my rocker having sex with another woman. I have full knowledge of him worrying and having performance anxiety, he didn’t. 

[herpob 523]

On 5/22/2021 at 8:04 PM, couplers said:

It doesn't matter what you call it, so long as you enjoy it.

Amen to THIS!!!

[Numex 2,201]

On 5/23/2021 at 6:38 AM, Shore2Please said:

My head between the legs of a woman is a foreign experience.

Interesting, since my wife's earliest sexual experiences (oral sex and finger fucking) started with other girls in junior high school.  Daniela said that even the totally straight girls justified it as practicing for when they started with boys.  Her Lesbian interests and activities have never diminished.  I guess there is a learning curve you had to climb.

 

There are significant distinctions, however.  She has never sought a relationship with a woman as she has with men, only sex.  While she is dominant towards men, she is very submissive to women.  And while she likes older men, Daniela is attracted to college girls.  Do you now have preferences for attractiveness in women?  Are your feelings different having sex with men and women? 

Edited August 2, 2021 by Numex

[couplers 4,204]

On 5/23/2021 at 6:38 AM, Shore2Please said:

Sex with a man is very natural to me,.. I am still very new to pleasing another woman.

I was never interested in sex with other women until I became comfortable with my husband having sex with other women, two years after I was being poly with him and my boyfriend/ex-fiancé.  Then I really wanted to watch, participate, and play with them.  Sex with these women, the ones who were bi, was "reclaiming" sex as much as it was for me to get back with hubby, looking into her vagina, licking her, bringing her to another orgasm.  I guess I'm fucked up in a way, it was (/is, I'm still that way) just as important to me to show that I could bring her sexual pleasure as it was/is for me to please him.  But it's all good, they like what I like to do as much as I do.

[TricianMike 733]

On 8/2/2021 at 7:53 AM, Numex said:

Interesting, since my wife's earliest sexual experiences (oral sex and finger fucking) started with other girls in junior high school.

At 15 my friend and I competed to be the first to be with a guy. I had boys “feel me up” and had one grind so much he left with a big stain. My friend dated an older boy, her brothers friend and she used to tell me what they did. I was kind of envious of her but too scared to do what she was doing. She told me he licked her and she gave him a blow job. I knew about all of that yet I was thinking how can you do it. She said it was fun and offered to do something to me, my first oral experience. 

[MidwestHoneys 339]

8 hours ago, TricianMike said:

At 15 my friend and I competed to be the first to be with a guy

Who won? 

[TricianMike 733]

6 hours ago, MidwestHoneys said:

Who won? 

Ha! She did. She did it with that friend of her brother and gave me the details that weren’t that exciting. The big scare was I had heard it could hurt and getting pregnant. 
I had a boyfriend, my age, that almost took my prize, he may have with a finger even if it wasn’t the big event. I was willing and he wanted to, then he lost it before the main event. Think it bothered him that we didn’t go all the way. 
The following week my friend talked me into going with her brother who was so called experienced. He did know his way around a female body in a good way. It wasn’t as painful or bloody as I was expecting. I think my boyfriend may have been the one who took away the virginity just not the way I thought it would be.

[Shore2Please 543]

On 8/2/2021 at 7:53 AM, Numex said:

There are significant distinctions, however.  She has never sought a relationship with a woman as she has with men, only sex.  While she is dominant towards men, she is very submissive to women.  And while she likes older men, Daniela is attracted to college girls.  Do you now have preferences for attractiveness in women?  Are your feelings different having sex with men and women? 

I have never sought out a relationship with anyone male or female. I never sought out sex, sex happened as part of a vacation that was for pleasure other than sex with my husband. We never sought out a couple for sex, just friendship. I would never consider myself dominant nor submissive, I consider myself engaged as equals. I never thought about age, we were attracted as friends to another couple similar to us. I would consider saying the people we have met are attractive hoping they would say that about us. College student are too young for us to be intimate. 
Sex with a man and a woman is totally different. I am one that rather be alone with the right man, my husband being very right. Being with a woman still doesn’t come natural for me, I do to much thinking. Receiving is less thought provoking as I have learned to relax and enjoy. Giving I think too much. I try to do to her what I enjoy getting. I was matching what she was doing to me. Also there was no thought in stopping with her, there is no other act after, no other sex expected to complete the act. With men I hope for prolonged and various positions, with her the ultimate was going to be done orally. I was very intent to bring her to the same point she brought me to. 

[Numex 2,201]

On 8/5/2021 at 7:58 AM, Shore2Please said:

College student are too young for us to be intimate. 

Me too.  Daniela is significantly younger than I and less than a decade out of college.  Now that we don't play outside our group, she's no longer looking.  Back when she was looking, the problem she had is that those younger women weren't into to dominating her.  (Except a few of the athletes.)

 

She gets what she wants from the couple she primarily plays with: Daniela dominates him and is submissive to her, something they don't do with each other.  For me it's strange to watch, because Daniela and I don't do that thing either. 

Edited August 9, 2021 by Numex

[couplers 4,204]

Before our current poly arrangement when I was seeking women to play with hubby and hopefully me, it was surprising how many women were open to discussing a sexual arrangement initiated by me, the wife.  There is empathy with another woman, and like many other transactions, dealing with an intermediate makes the back-and-forth easier, and a sense that if she married him he must be at least OK.