Exhibitionism how and why

[midlifecrisis 25]

Hi everyone - I recently had an experience on the beach where a woman was, in my opinion, a clear exhibitionist. She was lying sideways in a bikini, and her breast kept slipping out of her top. She clearly knew what was going on, and it happened repeatedly. At one point she looked at me and gave me a small smile.

 

As a guy and complete lover of the entire female form, I not only loved watching it, but was quite turned on by it.

 

My question is this - For those of you who are exhibitionists, why do you do it? Is it just for the thrill? Or does it turn you on? If it turns you on, does it turn you on during the act, or later, when you talk about it with your spouse or SO? How does it make you feel, and are you scared of getting caught?

 

Also, is it appropriate if I were to approach you and chat with you? Or is that creepy and not part of it all?

 

Thanks!!

[Numex 2,201]

Those kind of things I try not to over think, just enjoy it for what it is.

[Guest]

Some side boob falling from it’s bikini top would seem to be such a small speck on a beach or pool scape; how did you notice and why did you keep watching?

[midlifecrisis 25]

Definitely much more than side boob, it was entire boob, and she laid her towel right across from us. I know it's not the craziest thing in the world, and not a whole lot to get worked up about - I'm just super curious about the motivation. It's interesting to me.

[Guest]

Sounds like you do have the correct user name. Not sure how you would cope on a nude or topless beach where there are a hundred or more boobs showing.

[GoldCoCouple 4,030]

So are you complaining? If a woman wants to show her boob, I say let her and just appreciate the gesture.

[GoldCoCouple 4,030]

For those of you who are exhibitionists, why do you do it? Is it just for the thrill? Or does it turn you on? If it turns you on, does it turn you on during the act, or later, when you talk about it with your spouse or SO? How does it make you feel, and are you scared of getting caught?

 

Ms. Gold: Yes, for the thrill, it turns me on, it turns you on, it turns us on later when we talk about it, and the excitement of getting caught.

[HotEllie 87]

Ms. Gold: Yes, for the thrill, it turns me on, it turns you on, it turns us on later when we talk about it, and the excitement of getting caught.

 

Same for me. The more that I do it, the more I enjoy it.

[midlifecrisis 25]

Certainly not complaining, just surprised. I feel that there is a difference between a family/public beach and a nude beach where everyone is nude and you know what to expect. Perhaps I'm just not explaining myself correctly - I'm not shocked, or prudish or complaining. It just seems to me to be very different, exposing yourself where it is not expected, rather than a nude beach - and I'm just interested in the why.

[cplnuswing 4,711]

Not trying to put words in midlife's mouth, but maybe what we are getting at here is the shamelessness and/or sense of freedom that goes along with what he experienced, on both sides?

 

I would take much more pleasure in experiencing what he did than I would for a group of five women's bikini tops to get completely ripped off by a wave right in front of me and they are all embarrassed and squirming around trying to do the cover up the boob with the hands thing while running for a towel. What he experienced, the woman meant to share, or at a minimum, didn't care if she shared. My other example, they obviously do care, and so that just makes it something you see, not something you experience, so not the same thing at all really.

[midlifecrisis 25]

Yes. that's getting at the root of it. I'm just curious about what women feel when they are sharing. Why they do it. I don't know why, but the mindset is fascinating to me.

[Bluespruce1 703]

We are both exhibitionists to the core. When I am at a bar where I know I'll get an audience, I'll choose an outfit that I know that I can "modify" to give a guy a peek. It's a rush for me - its sexual, I can feel the endorphins rush if I notice a guy sees me after I've given a quick and discrete "accidental" flash of my pussy. When we are at the nude beach, we sit by hetero couples and singles that we know are looking. If a group of guys show up, I'll give them what they want - it gets me off. If we are in a swingers club, I'll take it to the max - we'll either use the public room, ask a couple or some singles to watch, or simply leave the door open. It's part of who we are - tough to explain.

[couplers 4,204]

Some side boob falling from it’s bikini top..

I wish that I had side boobs.

[Guest]

We are both exhibitionists to the core. When I am at a bar where I know I'll get an audience, I'll choose an outfit that I know that I can "modify" to give a guy a peek. It's a rush for me - its sexual, I can feel the endorphins rush if I notice a guy sees me after I've given a quick and discrete "accidental" flash of my pussy. When we are at the nude beach, we sit by hetero couples and singles that we know are looking. If a group of guys show up, I'll give them what they want - it gets me off. If we are in a swingers club, I'll take it to the max - we'll either use the public room, ask a couple or some singles to watch, or simply leave the door open. It's part of who we are - tough to explain.

Exactly!

[couplers 4,204]

Obviously I am naked when I am having sex, but I also enjoy being naked at spas where it is totally non-sexual (at least overtly, one never know what's going on in someone's mind). It is just so freeing for me to be nude among all sorts of naked people from children to old people, singles to families, all enjoying the sunshine, water, saunas, pools, steam rooms, and fresh air. I like seeing them and like them seeing me, all of us flaunting convention. This is all when I am in Europe, mostly in Germany and mostly on business when I get a break.

[JandKinBoise 851]

It definitely leaves an impression on the recipient. I can't remember half our swing lovers but I remember every nipple and pussy that was displayed in an inappropriate setting. It's the shock value to see something so unexpected, like a lady bending over, legs spread in the back of a truck 'adjusting groceries" in very sheer yoga pants. And the smile as she looked back at me...Etched

So thanks to you all!

[Guest]

I see a lot of exhibitionism on (free) porn sites where the players aren't asking for feedback. I suppose that most of these videos are made to sell, but it brings to my mind the question of whether there are people on this forum who just want to show off and don't need to watch another couple at the same time, but would like verbal feedback from viewers.

[Sunday 119]

On 7/22/2019 at 5:37 PM, midlifecrisis said:

Hi everyone - I recently had an experience on the beach where a woman was, in my opinion, a clear exhibitionist. She was lying sideways in a bikini, and her breast kept slipping out of her top. She clearly knew what was going on, and it happened repeatedly. At one point she looked at me and gave me a small smile.

 

As a guy and complete lover of the entire female form, I not only loved watching it, but was quite turned on by it.

 

My question is this - For those of you who are exhibitionists, why do you do it? Is it just for the thrill? Or does it turn you on? If it turns you on, does it turn you on during the act, or later, when you talk about it with your spouse or SO? How does it make you feel, and are you scared of getting caught?

 

Also, is it appropriate if I were to approach you and chat with you? Or is that creepy and not part of it all?

 

Thanks!!

I think I can help you out with this as I consider myself an exhibitionist at the sex club (but only at the sex club).

 

It's kinda like scoring a break-away goal in hockey - or hitting a grand-slam home run in baseball, it's just SO much better when someone is there to see and appreciate it.  Like if Michelangelo spent 5 years on a magnificent marble sculpture, he'd want people to see it, right?  Actor's don't rehearse a play - bands don't practice - to perform their craft for no one.

 

Sex, when I'm performing, is poetry in motion to me.

 

So, this beach chick, IMO, is just a little misguided.  She'd probably be a beast at the sex club - or just in a more appropriate setting.  For me, if a kid can be exposed, it's not cool.  She just needs the right guy to come along and show her where she can/should display her "art."

 

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[nusofties 50]

1 hour ago, Sunday said:

I think I can help you out with this as I consider myself an exhibitionist at the sex club (but only at the sex club).

 

It's kinda like scoring a break-away goal in hockey - or hitting a grand-slam home run in baseball, it's just SO much better when someone is there to see and appreciate it.  Like if Michelangelo spent 5 years on a magnificent marble sculpture, he'd want people to see it, right?  Actor's don't rehearse a play - bands don't practice - to perform their craft for no one.

 

Sex, when I'm performing, is poetry in motion to me.

 

So, this beach chick, IMO, is just a little misguided.  She'd probably be a beast at the sex club - or just in a more appropriate setting.  For me, if a kid can be exposed, it's not cool.  She just needs the right guy to come along and show her where she can/should display her "art."

 

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Are you in this pic?

[Anon321 486]

19 hours ago, videoeditor44 said:

I see a lot of exhibitionism on (free) porn sites where the players aren't asking for feedback. I suppose that most of these videos are made to sell, but it brings to my mind the question of whether there are people on this forum who just want to show off and don't need to watch another couple at the same time, but would like verbal feedback from viewers.

My GF is definitely an exhibitionist.  She has fantasies of having sex on a stage.  It's probably a combination of the thrill and maybe the attention but she loves it both in appropriate and inappropriate places.

[adamgunn 1,457]

My wife Mary is an exhibitionist. She enjoys putting on a sexual show for me when we have MFMs, or for others when we're in a suitable situation, such as a foursome where I and the other wife are done and she and the other husband are still going. Or in orgies. She tells me that being watched is very sexy for her, and that in and of itself is all the rationale I think is necessary.

 

When we are in a naturist situation, on a beach or at a coed spa, she is not an exhibitionist. In those places she realizes men are gazing at her, but other than simply being nude she does little to whet their appetites.

 

Me? I'm a naturist, but not an exhibitionist. Having people watch me during sex neither heightens my libido or turns me off; the presence of other people has little impact on me. On the other hand, I won't wear clothes if I can get away with not wearing them. 

[PeterJ 835]

I’m both a bit of a voyeur and an exhibitionist. I may have mentioned this incident on another thread on this board, but perhaps not.

 

A few years ago at an orgy kind of party in a hotel suite all the beds were completely filled so I was fucking a woman missionary position on the floor of the living room. A few feet away from us the male half of the hosting couple and another couple were engaged in a conversation about sports (the NFL if I recall?) paying us no attention. A while later, while my partner and I continued to thrust against each other, I looked up to see the conversation had ceased and the couple were slowly masturbating while they watched us intently. I was already pretty aroused — I mean this was in the middle of a fuck — but the knowledge that this couple was turned on by watching us, and sufficiently appreciative of what they were seeing to physically stimulate themselves (and not just start playing with each other) was both gratifying and a further turn-on for me. Within a minute or two I was unable to further delay my orgasm. 

[PeterJ 835]

My wife has some exhibitionistic impulses but these days generally represses them. She’s good with nude beaches, particularly over the past couple of years, after getting into better physical condition, losing some weight and coming to grips with becoming elderly. But she’s now uncomfortable with even the idea of having others watch us have sex.
 

Thirty years ago, when we had only recently begun dating, she was more exhibitionistic in her behavior. Her favorite erotic video was the orgy scene in “Behind the Green Door” where the Marilyn Chambers character is ravished before a large audience. In those days she would masturbate at our nearby nude beach (Gunnison at Sandy Hook) if we were far enough away from other beach goers that her actions were not too obvious. And she was cool with fucking sitting in my lap one evening in our car parked in the Vince Lombardi rest area on the New Jersey Turnpike while a man stood by that side of our car, looking in at us.

[bbarnsworth 2,545]

5 hours ago, Sunday said:

 For me, if a kid can be exposed, it's not cool. 

This is a tripping point for my wife and I as well. We don't mind being exhibitionists; it can be a lot of fun. But, we don't do it when there are unwitting 'victims', most especially kids. If it's consenting adults, absolutely. Adults that have no idea...depends.

 

[J&Wu 374]

In our nudist life over the past 30 years we usually leave the curtains open when we fuck as long as there are no children in the area. When we used to stay at Paradise Lakes and Desert Shadows we got it off a few times outdoors as well and on cruise ship patios. Before all the Wu would get naked in the car so I could masturbate her on the freeway, drove slow but sometimes we couldn't stop until right up to the front door. Wonderful memories!

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,141]

Exhibitionism and swinging seem to go hand in hand.  When i first met my wife she was working part time as an artists model posing nude for art schools arts groups and private artists - and that TOTALLY turned me on.  When i asked if she got a little turned on by the exhibitionism she smiled shyly and confessed "Yes".  At that moment i knew i had a keeper!!

Regarding whether it's Ok to approach: No. That's a good way to ruin it.  Just sit back and enjoy the show.

[Shore2Please 543]

Our start of swinging followed a day at a nude beach while on vacation. I never considered that the visit to the beach was me being an exhibitionist. It was something new to do while on vacation and doing it with people we just met and figured wouldn’t see again. Looking back it was more voyeuristic, and what I saw outside of the group we were with is a site I would love to forget. 

Having sex in front of others is a thing I hated hated hated when I first did it. You ask why I did it, maybe pressure. I had just slept with a man I just met, my first ever since married. I know it was done with fun in mind, did I say I hated it. I went along because the night before was wonderful. My new lover was a different man that next day. He was being an exhibitionist and not a lover like he was. I also saw my husband enjoyed watching. The next morning almost ruined everything that I enjoyed before. 

I still don’t think I am an exhibitionist, I hate to be considered an exhibit instead of being a person enjoying others. I have become more accepting of sex in front of others while still making love privately. Some will say swinging is something we should do as a couple, I say swinging is allowing each of us to enjoy sex with others. 

[Numex 2,201]

9 hours ago, Shore2Please said:

I say swinging is allowing each of us to enjoy sex with others. 

Indeed, that's why we do it.  My wife and I agree that we get something out of the others with whom we play that we don't get from each other, but it's ok, because it is one dimensional.  The relationships that each of us married couples has with our spouse is far deeper and more complex than any sex play.

[JessicaJamison 843]

Honestly we like the attention, personally I like knowing I've got some guy's attention and that I've turned them on.  If I can see I got them hard, I often think that's my boner, I made that.  I enjoy showing off my body, I always have.  I rarely care about getting caught, after all that's the idea.  I think everyone wants to be desired, so that is my goal, make you desire me.  It absolutely turns me on, in the moment, I generally get pretty wet, pretty quick.  As far as interacting, for me exposing myself is a form of flirting, and if a guy showed me attention thats what I want.  So fell free to chat me up.  

[JennySwallows 45]

I do it to get things going, honestly. I find these progress faster if I initiate physical touch, whether it's a touch of a shoulder or if I rub my knee against his crotch during conversation. A slip of a nipple from across the room is also a great ice breaker as any.