I don't get it......

[Sjmar 141]

This might seem like the weirdest question, and might be totally obvious to many of you, but what is the point of straight single women in the lifestyle? Who are they playing with? I get bisexual women as there are couples who look for a unicorn for threesomes, but I can't wrap my brain around the point of a straight woman, are there a lot of couples where a wife likes to just watch her husband with someone else? Again, please excuse my ignorance if this is obvious to those who are more experienced. Just something that I've wondered....

[CostaRica 130]

I often wonder the same thing about straight single men. I mean unless your kink is sleeping with other peoples spouses, what exactly is in it for them?

[J&Wu 408]

It is kind of fun to have at least one lady at a party who wants to fuck all the guys. That is not necessarily one of the single ladies but it often is. We enjoy watching and if Wu can't attend I enjoy pitching in.

[Sjmar 141]

Touché costarica. As I prefaced with, totally coming from a place of ignorance as a newbie. Maybe it's just more common than I think for women to enjoy watching their man with another woman (without someone else to play with, as there would be with either a couple swap or a bi woman).

[Lionheart72 2,189]

This might seem like the weirdest question, and might be totally obvious to many of you, but what is the point of straight single women in the lifestyle?

 

Same as being a straight man... variety, exploration, pleasure, fun.

 

My wife is straight. She enjoys being in the lifestyle because she enjoys having sex with different men. Lately, she's been going to our local club on her own, because it's fun for her to meet new people, talk with them, dance with them and, yes, fuck them.

 

As for other couples hooking up with straight single women... some couples play separately, some women like to watch just as much as men do, some couples enjoy a threesome with a women that does not involve bisexuality, just as some enjoy threesomes with men that doesn't involve male bisexuality.

 

BTW, all honest questions are welcome and, no, I don't think it's the weirdest I've seen.

[Sjmar 141]

Thanks for the straightforward and kind responses guys. I sure hope that nobody takes any offense to my question! For sure there are a million different ways people like to play, and I suppose I'm just curious about that ways that we don't play (as I've just never thought much about it!). Still so new to this, and appreciate all the knowledge here :-)

 

Lol and on a side note, I think sometimes the idea of a stick straight woman makes me scratch my head, just because women are so incredibly beautiful! I don't get how we all aren't just touching and loving on each other all the time haha

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

In my mind, the swinging lifestyle is more about the general notion that sex, even without romantic emotional attachment, is a lot of fun, and something that we can all enjoy. When you think about it that way, the idea of a single, straight woman in the lifestyle seems no more unusual than any other combination- straight guys, bi guys, married couples, polyamorous men/women/couples, or any other flavor of person or people.

 

By the way, your questions are not in the least bit offensive, Sjmar! You bring an open-minded curiosity to the forums, and your questions are a welcome addition to the discourse. Keep it up!

[Sjmar 141]

Coupleinmd79 that makes sense. I guess with most of the sls profiles that I look through, couples all seem to be looking for either other couples to swap with, bisexual women for threesomes, or single males for MFM. I don't think I've ever seen anyone advertising that they are seeking a straight single woman (and as I was looking at the RSVP list for the club we are attending tonight I saw quite a few single straight women, which is why I guess it peaked my curiosity)

 

I "get" that for a lot (most?) people in the LS, a big part of the attraction is simply having sex with new and different people as two of you mentioned. That's not really the case for my husband and I. We are much more about a shared experience than the act of being with someone different (which is why we don't even really get into "pairing off" and instead enjoy a group play dynamic, so that not only are we in the same room together but we're interacting with each other). And I only mention that because it may help explain my curiosity when it's something that's probably "duh!" for most of you lol.

 

Love love all the different ways people are in the LS, all the different ways to play, there's def something for everyone!!

[Guest]

I wished I had known about the lifestyle during my years as a single woman (in my forties, after the first husband died and before my new husband). Instead, I went to a date dot com to meet men. I quickly learned that most of them were liars, either married or with girlfriends, but wanted a week day booty call date. And, unfortunately, I had to admit to myself that dating and having sex on week days was preferable to none at all. Going to a club or house parties to have somewhat more “honest” sex, would have been preferable to dating some that I dated.

[terek 15]

always look forward to the future the good thing your working the path now

[J&Wu 408]

Coupleinmd79 that makes sense. I guess with most of the sls profiles that I look through, couples all seem to be looking for either other couples to swap with, bisexual women for threesomes, or single males for MFM. I don't think I've ever seen anyone advertising that they are seeking a straight single woman (and as I was looking at the RSVP list for the club we are attending tonight I saw quite a few single straight women, which is why I guess it peaked my curiosity)

I would think Club Parties would be the more likely places to encounter Single Straight Ladies. The Distaff Half of chiccouplexx discusses that in the next post.

[empress 19]

If I was single (I'm straight, but I could have sex with another woman if I got caught up in the moment; I'm not attracted to women as a rule), I would go to a swing club just for the experience and for sex with no strings attached to people I would never see again. Having sex with people I know doesn't appeal to me at all.

[angelkin 1,326]

If I was single (I'm straight, but I could have sex with another woman if I got caught up in the moment; I'm not attracted to women as a rule), I would go to a swing club just for the experience and for sex with no strings attached to people I would never see again. Having sex with people I know doesn't appeal to me at all.

 

Very close to my own thoughts, Empress - well said. A few things more...

 

I now consider myself heteroflexible, but mostly straight, and as a single lady in the lifestyle, I enjoyed the company and pleasure with couples while exploring a desire for women. There's also some kind of power (IMHO) in gifting a threesome to a man and his wife...even if both women play straight.

 

Single men are a delightful booty call for a single lady...no entanglement with all the pleasure.

[EastInWest 1,524]

I often wonder the same thing about straight single men. I mean unless your kink is sleeping with other peoples spouses, what exactly is in it for them?

 

Admittedly, this is probably relatively common.

[leecny 23]

I could see the sex with no strings attached angle for a horny single woman and a swing club is definitely a safer environment over say going home with a guy I met in a bar. That being said I don't know how comfortabe I'd be going to a club or hotel party by myself.