Why do many swingers prefer MFM?

[njbm 2,863]

I notice many veteran swingers bring in a second male instead of swapping with another couple. What are the advantages of this set up? Some seem to prefer it.

[Trophy1802 132]

Simply put......It is not always easy to find a couple where all four people connect and/or are attracted to each other. Plus, as we both are straight, we have found many couples whereby the female is either bi-curious or bi-sexual and wants to have some FF action. Not judging or knocking anyone, but this will not work for my wife.

 

In our case, as we live in an area where there is not an abundance of couples that are in the LS, so it makes the couples connection more difficult. When we first started in the LS, we were only considering other couples, and never ever considered the MFM threesome experience.

 

However, after our first MFM experience a couple years ago, we both realized that this facet of the LS really works for us. Never ever thinking that I would be, I have come to realize that I am really turned on seeing my wife being sexual with another guy. My wife knows this and really plays up the flirting with both the other guy and myself whenever we invite a guy over. Plus, my wife really enjoys the attention of two guys, be it playing with both at the same time, or playing with one of us at a time while the other guy watches.

 

Basically, it is much easier to connect in a threesome situation and there is always an abundance of interested guys to which my wife is attracted to.

 

May not be the same for everyone, but that is what works for us and the reason why we enjoy the MFM threesome experience.

[njbm 2,863]

FMF sounds interesting but for the rare availability of unicorns. I also agree that we rarely connect with both partners of another couple. We are lately favoring house parties where we play as individuals.

[bbarnsworth 2,636]

I concur with comments others have made. I remember there was a survey here some years back about preferences for MFM vs. FMF. MFM outweighed FMF 2:1. There's another aspect to this as well; it is far easier to find men willing to join an MFM than it is to find women to join an FMF.

 

As for preferring it over couples? Hmm, no, not prefer. I don't think that's the right word. It's a different experience. My wife loves being the center of attention of a three-(or more)-some. Her favorite thing in all of swinging is having sex and giving oral sex at the same time. If we swap with a couple, it is certainly fun but it tends to be more 1 on 1. That's fun of course, but not quite the same as being the center of attention.

[2lovers 87]

However, after our first MFM experience a couple years ago, we both realized that this facet of the LS really works for us. Never ever thinking that I would be, I have come to realize that I am really turned on seeing my wife being sexual with another guy. My wife knows this and really plays up the flirting with both the other guy and myself whenever we invite a guy over. Plus, my wife really enjoys the attention of two guys, be it playing with both at the same time, or playing with one of us at a time while the other guy watches.

 

Basically, it is much easier to connect in a threesome situation and there is always an abundance of interested guys to which my wife is attracted to.

 

People in the LS have different reason to go with MFM but that is exactly what we feel and why we prefer MFM

[couplers 4,582]

... Never ever thinking that I would be, I have come to realize that I am really turned on seeing my wife being sexual with another guy...

 

As a woman I can say exactly the same thing - I never knew how much I would enjoy seeing my husband with other women until it happened. So I think the prevalence of MFMs is for the other reasons that have been given. Men may start out thinking it will be mutual fun and they want other women, but like me, get hooked on the burn of seeing their spouse having sex with another. Afterwards men are usually the ones more aggressive in pursuing what they want.

[asncpl 728]

Availability is big factor, in terms of a large pool of single males, ease of connection, and setting up a time to meet. We also enjoy cuckold fantasies so MFM is perfect for that. I really enjoy the attention too.

[MrDiscover 802]

No difficult reasons, it is just something we both like to do.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I prefer focusing on giving and watching my wife receiving sexual pleasures without being distracted.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

I prefer focusing on giving and watching my wife receiving sexual pleasures without being distracted.

 

I know this thread is about MFMs, but I have to say, this is why I wish we could have more FMFs, too. It's a lot more relaxing to give pleasure to Mr. Sun, while he is the center of attention!

[njbm 2,863]

I am up for FMF as a M, but it doesn't happen much. I have had a little fmf at house parties. Would not mind more.

[couplers 4,582]

I am up for FMF as a M, but it doesn't happen much. I have had a little fmf at house parties. Would not mind more.

 

With two guys (not bi), three women (all bi) in our poly family, FMF is the second most common arrangement other than MF. Although there is a fair amount of switching around in the beginning, the two decisions that need to be made when we get to the point that we are going to climax is which woman gets the penis in her vag and who is going to do oral on the third. It falls into place.

[Guest]

It was our starting point, it was less threatening to me than the other possibilities. After a few, we tried couple swaps and foursomes but those possibilities frequently don’t work well unless you go to a couples club. MFM just can happen most anytime you want it too and more exciting, happens on the fly; some guy starts talking to you one evening at a bar and it goes way past your exceptions.

[Alura 2,773]

Normally, we did our variations with our playcouples. This included MFM and FMF, often when the missing spouse was unavailable.

 

Our first happened when Mrs. Playmate called from London, where she had gone on a business trip. She told us she had just gotten off the phone with Dr. Playmate and he was uncomfortably horny. Since she was not due back for some time, she asked Mrs. Alura if she would ease the problem in her behalf. They agreed that we'd invite him over for an MFM threesome, which was something Laura had wanted to experience. Mrs. Playmate promised to return the favor upon her return. Her idea of "returning the favor" turned out to be an FMF threesome with Laura and me while her husband watched, a fantasy he had entertained for some time.

 

Dr. Playmate was a college professor so he was able to arrange his schedule to have some free time the following morning. Laura answered his ring wearing a negligee. Without even saying,"Hello," she put her arms around his neck and kissed him deeply.

 

It was an exciting morning, especially for Laura.

[Sheiscurious 19]

For me I prefer MFM because my favorite part is my partner's pleasure. I love to see her get off. Having that much attention. Being able to get a different visual.

Also it seam easier to come by as opposed to another woman...who is straight to add to our fun.

And maybe less pressure? I am confident by the most part and I am not really intimidated by another guy but I can be intimidated by a woman....soooooo 2 can really be intimidating lol.

Really a bigger turn on is me sharing my wife not her sharing me. It just is.

[FunOzCouple 40]

Simple! Singles males who are ready and willing to pleasure are readily available. Finding a couple where both couples are attracted to one another is much much harder.

 

Having tried normal bars to meet potentials the women we have approached give us bizarre looks. The men on the other hand take one look and are like "your place or mine"!

[adamgunn 1,460]

Another thing is that women can go on forever, while men after they come have to take a break. With two guys, she can have a lot more fun if she's oriented that way.

[oc1234 435]

Another thing is that women can go on forever, while men after they come have to take a break. With two guys, she can have a lot more fun if she's oriented that way.

 

I agree with that and additionally my wife really enjoys it when one man is giving her oral sex or having intercourse with her, while the other man is kissing her breasts and ears and rubbing her all over. It's the quickest way to give her a string of orgasms. And after a couple of minutes, she is ready to go again.

[FunOzCouple 40]

Recently the majority of our swinging experiences have been MFM. Hubby always jokes that he loves it as he gets to rest while someone else does the work!!

 

I definitely enjoy it because of that reason as well. After hubby and me make love then I have a strappingly handsome young man to sink my teeth into ... then once he's done hubby takes over and then once again the younger man takes the reins! It's like a merry-go-round!

[Psyrex 56]

I didn't ask my wife to swing so I could have an excuse to fuck another woman but I did ask for a selfish reason: I want to watch my wife fuck another man. My wife is very sexual and the thought of her fucking and sucking someone else or watching him use her is mental viagra for me. She would also love the attention from four hands, two tongues and two cocks so it's not like she isn't receptive to the idea.

 

An MFM 3way will more than likely be our first experience together because, as has been mentioned, it's probably easier to organize and because I want to watch, join, then have her all to myself afterwards.

 

So to answer the question: because

[JandKinBoise 856]

I love group sex. My wife enjoys group sex but is very jealous of me having sex with a woman. I'm orally bi, and she is uber straight. This leaves mmf. Fortunately, it's also the easiest to get going.

I have to say that fmf is for marathon runners with numb dicks. Very difficult to satisfy 2 women.

[machiavel55 81]

Another thing is that women can go on forever, while men after they come have to take a break. With two guys, she can have a lot more fun if she's oriented that way.

Sorry, I know this is a year old but this is just not true for every man, they're are all kinds of men out there....I had a FWB over last night late, i started with oral on her, she had a lot of fun(don't like to bragg), we started intercourse, I eventually came, she was thirsty, had some lemonade and i just made a joke and told her that I could not just lie there looking at those lips and not just be close to them, she laughed and let me start very softly on her again....then more intercourse, cuddling, carressing, kissing and boum we started again...bathroom break but I still had not had enough of her....euhhhh...lips, you know....the lips...she said she was probably out of O's...well with patience and passion, anything can happen and it did with more of everything in the mix. Close to 4 wonderful hours had gone by...we decided to spoon and sleep a bit except that spooning turns me on big time and well, she did it for me this last time....and then we slept.

I'm not a stud, very average down there and 30 lbs overweight that I'm working on losing.

Hopefully some of these pounds will be gone mid-July when I turn 62.

[Dont.Stop 339]

(don't like to bragg)

 

[VegasNudeCouple 167]

As a wife of 15 years with even more years in the Lifestyle, I can say that I have always loved the attention of two cocks. This started in college when my freshman boyfriend had a roommate with a reputation for a monster cock, and it turns out he did. I have enjoyed the love and attention of two guys as much as two women, as long as I am in the middle. I have had several bisexual boyfriends and now my husband has shared in my love of two cocks in a DV, DP or all out orgy. I am one of those wives who loves to see two men make love, as many more of us will admit now that it is more popular in the Lifestyle. I love and am in love with my soul mate, but we can share others of both genders without jealousies or hangups. Works well for us.'

Laura

vegasnudecouple

[machiavel55 81]

 

Well at least I made you laugh....

[Hotcouple2627 25]

I would say both are very fun and exciting, but I prefer MFM, I am not a cuckhold and always participate in the action but for me there is just something about pleasuring your wife to mutiple orgasmas that can't be accomplished with 1 person, and just seeing my wife with someone else is better then any porno, the sounds and sights of her are amazing and can't forget DP for her is an intense orgasm.

[Guest]

Because their wife won't consider MFF.

 

Personally I find most women are okay with MMF, they will at least consider two men pleasing them, but ask for another women to join in and most women freak out, they become jealous, erratic, moody, insecure when you ask for another women. Yes there are exceptions, yes some women are fully bisexual and enjoy another girls company, but of were speaking about your average women in a relationship then NO they do not want any other women near you at all and become emotionally unstable if you even suggest the idea.

 

I think a lot of MEN start with the idea of MMF to get their wives / girlfriends use to the idea of sharing, they secretly hope that after having enough MMF situations with other guys their wife or girlfriend will then consider the idea of MFF.

 

That after sleeping with enough guys she will suddenly let another female join you in bed, but in most cases she won't, and even if she does she will become do pissed off about the friendship she will destroy it before its even started .

 

I have dated enough women who are okay with the idea of two men, but go nuts when you suggest another women.

[findinganswers 369]

Our group tends towards as many ffm as mfm. This may not be the norm for all

[VegasNudeCouple 167]

Finding,

As far as we are concerned, it is the norm. Most in our several groups in California, Hawaii and Nevada find ffm and mfm fairly equal. Much depends on the years of experience and the desires of all. Hell, we've gone on fmfmfmfmfmfmmffmfmmmff before!

Laura and Dave

vegasnudecouple

[cplnluv1 870]

We have met many couples that are new to swinging. Because it is our preference to meet couples with curious women there are many experiences that involve both ff. I think many of the husbands are more comfortable watching their wife with a woman.

[Numex 2,386]

Two different answers. Most people both men and women would like to fuck around and still keep a relationship. So for a woman if a guy suggests MFM she gets the best of both worlds, a marriage and playing around with sex. And no worries about another woman and her guy.

 

 

For guys it's a bunch of reasons. My reason is just to keep the wife happy, I suggested it not her, because she told me about how before we got married she liked to keep several guys available at any given time, including when she's out of town. My wife having extra sex doesn't bother me, so I told her she can keep seeing guys she likes to fuck. She especially needs it when she travels for work for a while and I'm not there. Once I started sometimes watching/getting involved it wasn't an abstract thing any more and I enjoyed it along with fucking her afterwards or joing in.

Some guys really like the idea of their wife cheating, or being really appealing, or just being porno. Some guys are into mental DSBM or whatever because it DOES actually bother them. For me though, it's just a big 'why not' if that's what she wants?

[Butchj 65]

Being a dominant female having a husband/slave who enjoys anal stimulation and strap on sex it was a no-brainer to find a skilled guy with a big cock that enjoyed fucking a guy. I love coordinating all the action telling the boys what to do and how to fuck. I only allow my slave to suck cock and take it in the ass and if his top desires my pussy he has to shower me with gifts or get nothing at all. I enjoy lesbian sex but prefer to be in bed with my girlfriend alone without distractions. Screwing my husband with a dildo was a lot of work so I decided it would be easier to find a Hung guy and take over for me. I love watching my husband squirming and squealing when he takes it in the ass. We finally found an exclusive male partner so that we can bareback without the worry of STDs. My favorite is sucking my husband off first giving him a French kiss feeding him all of his come and then making him bend over and take a hard fucking from our buddy.

[1XcellentXtra4U 29]

Great topic I look forward to reading about. I'm a single so not much I can say from a couple's perspective.

Go for it y'all... Give us the low -low

[Erik13 157]

(m) I don't prefer, it's just easier to find single guys.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I know this thread is about MFMs, but I have to say, this is why I wish we could have more FMFs, too. It's a lot more relaxing to give pleasure to Mr. Sun, while he is the center of attention!

 

I wish that were true for me too. It seems to be easier to have a MMF than a FMF.

 

I'm the one arranging a MMF encounter. It would be on her to have a FMF encounter. When she finally agreed to have sex with another man she confessed she couldn't stand for me to have sex with another woman. I wasn't interested in reciprocation and wasn't talking her into doing it with other men so i could have sex with other women

[VegasNudeCouple 167]

As a half of an open Bi and Lifestyle Couple, I can say that I used to love MMf and MFM, but also like a horny gal to like my pussy and kiss me along with my hubby, Multiple Cocks is nothing new to me, as I like MMF to gangbangs with my hubby watching. FFF and FMF are also great for us

 

Laura

Dave and Laura

[PSULioness 826]

I think I can understand that for some it may be easier to find an M to join. For us we started with my husband and my girlfriends. I wasn't looking for sex with two men. My husband who was just my fiancé at the time seemed to be very happy with that situation. I thought he would have a hard time sharing with another guy. I was surprised when he suggested his friend join us. We had already been to a party and he had said he was fine watching another guy with me. For me a fmf is more fun.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

My take is couples prefer a extra female. In venues like Craigs List, or on swinger web sites the advertising leans heavily towards a woman for a third. Where they are asking for a man it often means the husband is bi & will be having mm sex.

[adamgunn 1,460]

GMO, yes, from reading ads and such, it would be easy to think that couples want FMF. However, among experienced couples, I would suggest that most couples want FMFM, followed by MFM. Unicorns are just too hard to find, and many if not most women aren't bi anyways.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Most women aren't bi, but in my observation it's become extremely common for younger couples to invite another woman that they know well. This is far less controversial than MFM with vanilla couples and isn't considered swinging.

 

With that said, MFM is just easier to set up.

[Erik13 157]

GMO, yes, from reading ads and such, it would be easy to think that couples want FMF. However, among experienced couples, I would suggest that most couples want FMFM, followed by MFM. Unicorns are just too hard to find, and many if not most women aren't bi anyways.

We're finding the opposite..almost every couple we come across on sls has a bi girl, and a few have rejected us because my wife is straight.