Pictures on SLS

[JandC78 16]

I was curios what everyones thoughts are on pictures to put on their SLS profile. We want to stay somewhat anonomous, but also know that one of the first things people look at are what someone looks like. We was thinking of a G rated photo but with no face shots. What is everyone elses opionion

[exploringRM 305]

Many have anonymous pictures as public but we won't consider meeting anyone unless the other couple shares non-masked pictures at some point; either via email in SLS or opening up private pictures to us.

 

That being said, we won't contact anyone first unless we see non-masked pictures of the male and female of the couple. Just avoids the awkward "ummm never mind email".

 

We also don't jump over to Yahoo IM for picture exchange. Been burned by fakes and pictures collectors.

[LagniappeDC 313]

We agree with the above poster. Now, we certainly agree that personality goes a long way for us with whether we proceed with a new couple, but looks do play into that equation. There are just certain things that work and don't work for us and given how busy we are we'd like to know that we are at least physically attracted to the couple.

 

Now...back to the original topic There are no rules that say that you have to have pictures, but you'll find that you'll have a lot more interest/options if you do. Take some time to go through the site and see how others do it. We prefer pictures where the couple is either looking away to hide their face or use a photo editing software to do something creative. We find the pictures where the couple is just cut off at the next a bit odd IOHO.

 

Also, don't forget that most sites, including SLS, allow you to have private pictures that you only open up to couples you are interested in. You can use those to show your face in a way that allows you to guard your pictures a bit more closely (though there are no guarantees in life). Just put up what you are comfortable with in case they ever 'got out.' And don't forget, if a friend, colleague, etc, comes across your pics, just ask yourself what it was they were doing on the site in the first place

 

And one final plea...put pictures up of both of you. So many couples only put up pictures of the female. That's only half the equation. If we don't see pics of both then we simply take a pass.

[DiscreetDesires 32]

Pictures on SLS, we keep our faces hidden but our profile lists that we have pics to share.

On other swinger sites, we are open about who we are because they have different restrictions to those who can view. SLS is just a bit too public of a site for us to have face shots up for the general public, and since we don't generally meet the most of people from that site, we do not see the need to have a paying membership.. hence we cannot store private photos.

 

When we do see pics of a couple on a profile, we like to see both clothed and unclothed. The unclothed isn't that big of an issue really, but we do not care for all the "Here I am all wide and open" shots.

Not that there is really anything bad about it, we just do not care for those type of shots.

A little left to the imagination is always a good thing!

[Pensacolapair 394]

On Swing Lifestyle, we have several full-length pictures with faces pixilated that are viewable by all members (public). A couple of her, a couple of him, and one of us together. With the exception of the pixilated faces, the pictures are recent, clear, and not shot from 500 meters away without a zoom lens. The rest of our pictures are in private galleries.

 

If we contact another couple, we enclose the picture of us together without the face pixilated in the 'Hello' email. If someone contacts us, and we are interested, we enclose that same picture.

 

We sometimes get 'Hello' emails from others where they have opened one of their private galleries as part of their introduction. Again, if we are interested, we have a private gallery that we open in turn.

 

And one final plea...put pictures up of both of you. So many couples only put up pictures of the female. That's only half the equation. If we don't see pics of both then we simply take a pass.

 

AMEN! Isn't it funny how so many think the 'wife-as-bait' thing works?

 

M

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

Sending a message to a Swinglifestyle profile having no picture has worked to our advantage only once. We stopped doing this. When we receieve a message from a profile saying "our yahoo address is . . .", we say, "No, thank you."

 

This is the twenty-first century. For anyone who claims that they don't know how to use or cannot afford to buy a digital camera or a full Swinglifestylee membership, too bad. You'll leave us wondering who is going to be picking up the tip at the restaurtant table. The way things are set up at Swinglifestyle, there is no excuse. You can keep private pictures at a private gallery. The only people who need to see are the ones you want.

 

~Michael

[trekal 15]

Pictures for us are now a must. We have sent couples messages in the past . but when we meet in person they did not look anything like their posted pictures. We get along with everyone and can hold a conversation and have fun, however when playing with other couples there needs to be some type of attraction. Pictures start off the couriosity if we want to persue conversations.

[Trace Ekies 186]

We have public pics that give people a very good idea of what we look like...and private pics that remove all doubt.

 

We don't know how to swing without pics...we're looking for nice people who look the way we like so we can have wild sex. Without pics we can't make a pre-date judgement regarding looks.

 

We have VERY explicit pics in our "For Pervs" gallery...we do that just for fun...almost everybody wants to see pics of a pretty girl having sex. We don't require anyone to have them...just some clear, close, clothed photos so we know what you look like.

 

Trace

[Brian and Jo 344]

We have G-rated pics with our faces blanked out in the general pics part of our SLS profile. Our private pics which we share with couples who interest us are quite different - there you will find pics with faces, both of us nude front and back view, singly and together. Our nude pics are full body shots with no close ups below the belt. We have found that this approach works well for us.

[JandC78 16]

We decided (well the wife put it there) to just put one shot of us together showing our body and face. It is not blanked out or anything. I guess if we are going to do this, it might as well be the right way. We do get a lot of people wanting us to send pics, and will send one of two that we have with face shots, but we are yet to get any back. We may have to rethink sending pics to people.

 

I have been talkind to a few people but most of them seem to be going no where, other then someone we meet here. Still talking and trying to plan a meet and greet.

[divenaked 325]

We have clothed pics showing a variety of activities we participate in. We also have nudes, both candid and professional. All are public pics, we do not have any private pics. We think if someone we know sees them, they are there for the same reason we are.

[coolcouple51 15]

We just started a swing lifestyle profile last week. We really like the site but we don't have pics up yet. We are considering putting our pictures on there we just aren't sure yet. Does that really effect are chances of getting people to notices us/respond to our messages?We have pic a few pics that we can share with those that are interested. Wish we could more, note to everyone a digital camera in a bag along with a bottle of diet coke is a really bad idea.....

[divenaked 325]

We just started a swing lifestyle profile last week. We really like the site but we don't have pics up yet. We are considering putting our pictures on there we just aren't sure yet. Does that really effect are chances of getting people to notices us/respond to our messages?We have pic a few pics that we can share with those that are interested. Wish we could more, note to everyone a digital camera in a bag along with a bottle of diet coke is a really bad idea.....

Yes, pics make a big difference in the number of people who browse your profile. I usually just skip over the ones with no pic at all.

[sexcupid 809]

Does that really effect are chances of getting people to notices us/respond to our messages?

 

 

In one word: Yes.

 

On SLS (and I'm sure other sites, SLS is the only one we really use), you can limit your search parameters to only show profiles with pictures...I know we do, I'm sure lots of other people do too.

 

Does that mean we may potentially be passing over compatible playmates that just don't have pictures posted (but would be willing to share)? I'm sure it does. On the flip side of the coin, does that mean that we are more easily dismissed as potential playmates b/c people can see what we look like? Probably...but it does resolve the issue I know others have had where conversation is going along great and then a picture gets sent or a webcam gets turned on and then all of a sudden your're manning your own personal version of a SETI telescope...your're sending out signals, but no one is responding. Or they've just been called away for an emergency.

 

The thing is, you will show up on more searches with pictures than without. If someone doesn't like the way you look, they can pass on you without ever making contact. Shallow? Perhaps....but we are looking for someone that we would like to have sex with, so being attracted to the package the personality comes in can be sort of important.

 

The question to those that don't post pictures on their profiles: do you exclusively look at other no picture profiles or do you gravitate towards profiles that have pictures?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

My first choice would be a g-rated full body picture that shows faces. BUT, I understand why some would not be comfortable doing so, so I'm ok with faces being blocked so long as the rest is shown. I'd still rather see a g-rated full body shot as it's what I would most likely see in real life when we met and shows much more about who you are and what you look like than any posed, naked, sexy shot will.

[LikeMinds321 1,527]

...We want to stay somewhat anonomous, but also know that one of the first things people look at are what someone looks like. We was thinking of a G rated photo but with no face shots. What is everyone elses opionion

I like to remind people that there are more things than your body/face that can identify you to others.

 

Since you wish to remain anonymous keep this in mind. You can be recognized even when you don't show your head or faces if you include these things in your pictures:

 

- enough of your home, or objects in your home to identify you by.

 

- a tatoo

 

- certain clothing or jewelry

 

- a car, boat, or motorcylce that you own

 

I think pictures are very important and I encourage you to post them. You can have fun taking an afternoon drive to some places not far from home that make nice backdrops for pictures. Ask other people who are there if they will take a picture of you together. (they'll think you're tourists) Full body pictures with your clothes on are fine. Dress to impress and be sure to look happy.

 

LM

[The Fuse 1,012]

We just got an email on AFF from a couple with no pictures on their profile. It just said they liked our profile and wanted to say hi, and gave a Yahoo address. I could reply with ours and ask them to send pictures, but then I've engaged in a dialogue. Frankly, I don't want to spend the energy unless we already think there are possibilities. So rather than ignore their message, I thanked them for it and said we normally don't engage in a dialogue unless a couple has pictures.

 

It's a nice idea to take an afternoon drive to take pictures, but it's even easier than that if you just pose in front of a beige interior door (or some other closet door that's not easily identified as being in your home). Wear a plain but flattering outfit, and block the faces or do the headless horseman thing. At least people can get an idea of your body type. If the couple in the paragraph above had done that, then we'd at least know if we might be interested. I don't feel like we should have to jump through extra hoops for people. If they start off requiring us to make extra effort for them, I think it would only get worse.

[AskMeOk 148]

For good reasons, we simply don't do face pics. Do a lot of folks pass us by? Sure.

 

You need to decide how important it is to meet the "face pics are mandatory" folks vs. your comfort level with being outed.

 

FWIW, any viewable pictures on SLS (or anywhere else) can be captured and saved. Disabling right-click is nothing.

[coolcouple51 15]

Yeah we talked about it and put a few pics up on sls. We will see how it goes, it kinda feels like putting ourselves out there. Just clothed pics with faces however.

[MsGoneWild 181]

we have a variety of pics, most of them are of me.. but thats because i get my picture taken a lot more often (i do some fine art and fetish modeling for supplemental income when the opportunities arise).

 

Some are shots of me, pg-13 rated, some are shots of both of us, and we have like one of him alone. I wish we had more of us together, because i like those. Any public pics have no faces, i just feel alot better about it that way. Our private pics have several of both of us, + faces + regular pics and some boobs lol.

 

When i do searches, i only search for profiles with pictures.

[TwoAreLooking 58]

The question to those that don't post pictures on their profiles: do you exclusively look at other no picture profiles or do you gravitate towards profiles that have pictures?

 

Actually, we don't gravitate towards profiles with pix.

 

We have a vanilla image of each of us that we will share. Similarly, we are willing to get an image sent to us. If they sound attractive on their profile, we're willing to do the extra work (and that work is usually on my part) to seen an image.

 

I have no problem saying, hmm, let's stay in touch but I don't think we'll get together right now. Since we have a policy of meeting in person in a vanilla setting ALWAYS, we build in non-clicking escape hatches, too, I guess.

 

M.

[shy_couple 458]

Many have anonymous pictures as public but we won't consider meeting anyone unless the other couple shares non-masked pictures at some point; either via email in Swing Lifestyle or opening up private pictures to us.

 

That being said, we won't contact anyone first unless we see non-masked pictures of the male and female of the couple. Just avoids the awkward "ummm never mind email".

 

We also don't jump over to Yahoo IM for picture exchange. Been burned by fakes and pictures collectors.

 

Can't give much better advice than this.

 

Our front page has lingerie, cleavage, and the obligatory ass and feet shot. We also have a picture of us from about the knees up with the top half of our faces obscured. This is just so people can get an idea of our body types. We have the unedited face and more lingerie pics on the general private pictures pages. Still clothed, face and body pics. This way if anything does "leak out" we dont have nudity and face pics together. Then our personal gallery there are nude and face pics. NOBODY gets access to these until we have chatted, met, or know for sure we will be meeting with a high likelyhood of playing.

 

Just like the above poster we dont email pics to private email. We even state in our profile about pics, "We are happy to chat or exchange a few emails, but we must see PG face and boby pics of both of you before we agree to meet."

 

We also have a disclaimer about our pics, "We will gladly open our pics here but we dont send our pics to private email because we dont know what will happen to them. We are not interested in cyber, cam, or pic exchange."

 

If these couple of rules take us off the list for a couple of legit free members, it is worth it to avoid the dozens of flakes and pic collectors.

[ALilOEverything 901]

If these couple of rules take us off the list for a couple of legit free members, it is worth it to avoid the dozens of flakes and pic collectors.

 

I made our profile invisible to free members, makes it easier all the way around.

[sweet_tna 680]

We keep our faces hidden from our public pictures in a variety of ways. We try to be creative, but sometimes we just end up using the photo editor on sls. But I think we do a decent job of showing both our body types. If we send the initial email, we of course, open our private gallery so they can get the unmasked views of us.

 

If we are contacted by someone, we prefer that they open their face pics for us, but if there's enough to get a good idea on their profile, we'll still talk to them. Otherwise . . . not so much. As stated earlier, it saves us from the, "Oh, never mind," emails.

 

=)