SuAndBud 21 Posted February 15, 2007 Have raised this before, but been wracking our brains on how to develop a sign (such as the Masonic Handshake) that would allow a fellow swinger to inform us of the fact and let us tell them that we are swingers, too. A badge or tattoo or jewelery or other physical sign is not our style, a handshake or a word, if remarked upon by a non-swinger could hopefully be explained away as an error on either part. The tabloid press would have it that the swinging community is huge and growing exponentially. What a shame to miss opportunities to have fun with those to whom you're attracted and who might be as equally attracted to you, because neither knew that the others... Quote Share this post Link to post
couple85602 45 Posted February 15, 2007 Actually, though you said jewelry isn't your style, I think some enterprising individual has an opportunity to make a BUNCH of money. All that is needed is for a design to be decided upon and then lapel pins could be produced rather cheaply and then sold at an enormous profit. The pin could be worn on the lapel, a hat or as a necklace. Of course, the person coming up with the design and actual product would have to be someone thoroughly trusted by the community. Like maybe the Swingersboard? Quote Share this post Link to post
spectraschain 21 Posted February 15, 2007 Someone on SLS suggested "friends of Ellis" (LS). Spectra & I find that mentioning "Negril" in conversation is usually all it takes... Quote Share this post Link to post
SuAndBud 21 Posted February 15, 2007 They already exist, but too obvious. U'd get some proper funny looks dropping the kids off at school. lol. They also ain't that attractive. Good thing about a handshake, if you met someone who gave you the shake when u met, but you weren't sure, u could simply not respond. If during the course of the evening or whatever, u changed your mind you could make a point of reciprocating as you shook hands to leave. Actually, more and more people give Personal Business Cards (or Personal Cards) out these days wiv contact 'phone numbers etc. Might be good to get some printed with a little design that could be read in a number of ways depending if someone was in the know &/or wanted to reveal themselves &/or wanted to play. Quote Share this post Link to post
TNT 1,155 Posted February 15, 2007 The problem with a sign/hand shake/secret phrase/whatever... is being able to make it known to all those that are swingers. Believe it or not, there are more swingers that don't know about this board than there are that do Coming up with a secret code/sign of some sort is the easy part...getting the word out to everyone in the swinging lifestyle would be the hard part. Teresa Quote Share this post Link to post
rc toys 15 Posted February 15, 2007 We've been thinking about this one too. And we think we have found the perfect solution: A way to tell when a couple that you've met is a swinger or not! It seems to have been working, every swinger we've met fits this description so far. If you have just met a couple, and both of them are smiling, happy, and loving towards each other, and they seem confident with their partner....... Then they must be Swingers!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post
TNT 1,155 Posted February 15, 2007 rc toys said: We've been thinking about this one too. And we think we have found the perfect solution: A way to tell when a couple that you've met is a swinger or not! It seems to have been working, every swinger we've met fits this description so far. If you have just met a couple, and both of them are smiling, happy, and loving towards each other, and they seem confident with their partner....... Then they must be Swingers!!!! You might be on to something there. Teresa Quote Share this post Link to post
edmustang 19 Posted February 15, 2007 Coming up with a secret code/sign of some sort is the easy part...getting the word out to everyone in the swinging lifestyle would be the hard part. ...keeping the word away from the media, jerks, religious far right, etc.. would be the nearly impossible part. I love the idea. I just don't think it is practical. Quote Share this post Link to post
Spoomonkey 419 Posted February 15, 2007 TNT said: Coming up with a secret code/sign of some sort is the easy part...getting the word out to everyone in the swinging lifestyle would be the hard part. Plus the fact that there is such a turn over, you'd constantly be struggling to communicate it. I am willing to bet that if we did come up with something, in a couple of months, on some other message board, someone would say, "hey, we need a uniform signal!" rc toys said: If you have just met a couple, and both of them are smiling, happy, and loving towards each other, and they seem confident with their partner....... Then they must be Swingers!!!! I love it! At least they are the kind of couple we'd be into Quote Share this post Link to post
Mr. Truelove 81 Posted February 16, 2007 Spoomonkey said: Plus the fact that there is such a turn over, you'd constantly be struggling to communicate it. I am willing to bet that if we did come up with something, in a couple of months, on some other message board, someone would say, "hey, we need a uniform signal!" I love it! At least they are the kind of couple we'd be into There are other message boards? I didn't even look for any others. Quote Share this post Link to post
cubnamy1995 124 Posted March 29, 2007 As for a secret signal or handshake, how about flipping the bird with your left hand, then sticking it in your left ear... Quote Share this post Link to post
blondie77 17 Posted March 29, 2007 I love the wrist bands! 7946437....I never thought of that before. Hmmm...would be interesting to have a few, though where I live no one would ever know what it meant. Quote Share this post Link to post
Cpl2share 147 Posted March 29, 2007 Of course we mustn't forget the teenage boys (and girls) who would find out the secret, tell all of thier friends and then we are all outted by CNN Quote Share this post Link to post
prettylady 221 Posted March 29, 2007 When Dog was stationed somewhere, I can't remember, he's always talking about being stationed here or there. ANYWAY, i guess at one of the posts, when people shook hands they stroked the palm of the opposite sex with a finger, it the stroke was returned then we have a party in the making. Then again, that could go horribly wrong if the "vanilla" person thought it was an advance and choose to pursue you behind spouse's back. Quote Share this post Link to post
fun4Ds 1,097 Posted March 29, 2007 We have the t-shirts with the big apple and the bite out of it that says: "for those that want more than one bite out of life" we do get a few looks and an occasional wink. I think the logo belongs to NASCA. We had ours printed at a local custom print shop. Also, funny as it seems...and unsuspecting and unknowing... my daughter bought me a shirt with a monkey and the phrase "LOCAL SWINGER" on it, believe it or not as a birthday gift. At wal-mart I think Maybe k_mart Quote Share this post Link to post
Happypair 15 Posted March 29, 2007 Many of the major swing clubs are affiliated with the umbrella organization NASCA International (National Association of Swing Clubs of America, I believe) which has as its symbol a stylized red apple with a bite out of it. NASCA's motto is, "For those who want more than one bite out of the apple." If you belong to an affiliated club, the symbol may be reproduced on your membership card. The apple (with permission, of course) could be made into cute little earrings or lapel pins, but as someone suggested about this board, what percentage of active swingers actually know about NASCA or its apple? One swinger friend of ours didn't. He and his wife were at a lifestyle camp-out where they were giving out t-shirts with the apple on them. The apple covered the whole front of the shirt. Although very private about his lifestyle activities, he had no idea what it meant, and was wearing it in public, here, there and everywhere. After we told him what it meant, we never saw it again. A secret handshake, if it were known throughout the lifestyle, would be discreet, at least. I suspect any apparel, jewelry, armbands and so forth might attract way too many questions from the vanilla crowd. The coloured armbands might be great ice-breakers at a meet & greet, but who wants to explain what those numbers mean to his mother-in-law? Quote Share this post Link to post
cubnamy1995 124 Posted March 30, 2007 I suspect any apparel, jewellry, armbands and so forth might attract way too many questions from the vanilla crowd. The coloured armbands might be great ice-breakers at a meet & greet, but who wants to explain what those numbers mean to his mother-in-law? Who cares? The beauty of this kind of thing is that you don't have to wear them around your in-laws. Look, I know that such a fluid group of people is not going to agree on one thing, and that's fine. I would just like to own something myself that others recognize. If you are concerned about vanillas, then do your own thing. We don't care what vanillas think of us(in-laws included), but we do want those in the lifestyle to recognize us. To each their own. I just want a symbol that is recognizeable by folks in the lifestyle, that should we chose to display it, others would know we are "on the market." If that's not your cup of tea...fine. Help yourself to whatever you want to do. Quote Share this post Link to post
flkeyscouple 21 Posted March 30, 2007 The coloured armbands might be great ice-breakers at a meet & greet, but who wants to explain what those numbers mean to his mother-in-law? I thought that too, but I figured I'd just say that 'that's the number of people in the US that were starving on the day that such and such an organization had their fund raiser' or something equally as lame. No one wants to talk about starving people or whatever else you want to assign to the bracelet - so that would end the conversation. Mrs. FLKeys Quote Share this post Link to post