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Do you keep track of how many swing partners you've had?

Do you keep count of how many swing partners you've had?  

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  1. 1. Do you keep count of how many swing partners you've had?

    • Yes, I also keep a list of names
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    • Yes, but just the count
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    • No, it's not about the number
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    • No, I lost count too long ago to care.
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Do you keep track of how many people you have sex with?

 

Does how many fuck buddies you have on your list play a role in your swinging satisfaction?

 

If so, do you equate it to a score that represents how you're doing as a swinger, i.e., the more people you fuck the greater a swinger you are?

 

I see where some people--in their ad profiles--say they aren't looking to put notches in their bedpost. Other's profiles give me the impression that for them, the more swing partners they have, the merrier they are.

 

LM

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Some may, we don't. Why does it matter how many people you've had sex with? I guess if you're looking for a virgin wife it would, but It's never been an issue with us. Funny you should post this, though. We were just talking about this exact subject a couple of weeks ago with some friends. And that was their feelings too.

 

Some like the variety of many people, some like the comfort of just a few. All personal preference I guess. :)

 

Mr. WS

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We don't keep count at all. Never really saw any need to. In fact I reckon both of us would be hard pushed to work out just how many we have been with. It certainly has no bearing on how successful we feel we are in the lifestyle.

 

CB

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When I try to mentally caluculate who I've slept with (over my entire life, that is), I always manage to forget quite a few people. This selective memory tells me that it's not the quantity that makes me satisfied, but the quality that satisfies me.

 

As far as swinging is concerned, I keep track of the numbers now. But I think it's normal, this is new territory for us. Once the newness wears off, I'll be less inclined to keep track.

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We are kind of like everybody that has posted so far in that we don't keep score. In fact it would take a bit to sit down and come up with a number even though we haven't had that many different couples. We just don't think about it that much I guess. Our quest is centered more around finding couples we both enjoy and have fun with than the quantity of people we can have sex with.

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Geez, those are the scary ones. We're not looking at swinging just for sex, but the friendship as well as the good times.

 

Cheers.

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Yes, we have this counter in our bedroom...you know, like the one's at the deli counter..."Now serving number 69!" :lol:

 

Seriously though, I can't see what quantity has to do with anything. It's the quality of the experience that matters to us and we think that 'repeat performances' with people are likely to lead to better encounters. It takes time to find all the erogenous zones and what tickles people's fancies.

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We are also very new, so like Vespertine said, its hard to not be aware of the numbers. But its certainly not the point... having a great time together is.

 

What came out in this thread I want to comment on is about just what you are looking for in a couple. Way back in our early days, (like say last October, :lol: ) if you asked us it would have been people sort of like us. Same education, life experience, etc. Looking for people we could be good friends with first of all.

 

Just yesterday we were talking about how, sort of unconsciously, that has changed. We are now drawn to people we have fun with and are attracted to physically. Period. If they become friends, fine. But if we never see them in a vanilla setting thats fine too.

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It's just way too easy for us to count: five couples in twenty-four years, twenty-five come Easter. We're still looking for couple number six.

 

Mr. Alura

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Quality over quanitity preferred here. It's not about the prowess or the conquest or signifigance of a list to me. I'd rather fondly remember that one night of unbridled fun for all than constantly be reminded of a bunch of miserable experiences.

 

Mr. Funk

Already burning my list in the fireplace

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We keep a list, but it is also our phone number and e-mail list. We don't look at it like a count keeper, but a address book. We tend to play over and over again with most couples we meet.

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I could count our swing partners pretty easily if need be and that's the way I would like to keep it. I wouldn't want to get so lost in this lifestyle that anyone would forgotten. The quality of the experience gets better and better with the repeat experiences of the two regular couples we play with so that I have no desire to seek out first time experiences very often.

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Geez, those are the scary ones. We're not looking at swinging just for sex, but the friendship as well as the good times.

 

Cheers.

 

Friendship has nothing to do with the number of partners. We don't keep track of how many partners we have been with but we know who our friends are. Our friendships started out as just sex but evolved into a closer relationship later on.

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I don't really have that kind of energy.....I'm not in this to impress anyone with numbers of my sexual prowess....just here to have a really good time and make a fre friends.

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I've seen some posts around here that make it obvious that some people are keeping track and that it is very important to them how many they've had as well as how many others have had. Also reminds me of one of the couples in the Sex with Strangers "documentary" that had a goal of (I think) 7 over the course of a weekend.

 

Numbers have never played an important factor for me. It's about fun, and math has never been fun to me.

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We are also very new, so like Vespertine said, its hard to not be aware of the numbers. But its certainly not the point... having a great time together is.
Numbers will never be too important. But WHAT I have experienced will be--whether it is with five couples over my lifetime, or fifty. I will receive my greatest pleasure in recalling what took place between people I enjoyed being with.

 

 

Quality over quanitity preferred here. It's not about the prowess or the conquest or signifigance of a list to me. I'd rather fondly remember that one night of unbridled fun for all than constantly be reminded of a bunch of miserable experiences.

 

Mr. Funk

Already burning my list in the fireplace

I proud of you Mr Funk, burning your list. ;)

 

With the little experience I've had I already know it is the mutual pleasure between/among playmates that stands out most to me. When I know everyone is enjoying themselves, that is a moment to remember, that is what I strive for.

 

LM

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Do you keep track of how many people you have sex with?

 

 

What? We were suppose to be keeping track? :eek: No one told us that :lol:

 

Like others have said, it's not about the numbers to us, it's about the fun we have and that's all that matters.

 

Teresa

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We were recently asked by a couple we were meeting socially for the first time how many couples we had met. That we couldn't honestly say, not having kept count, actually seemed to work against us - there seemed to be an assumption that we hadn't actually played with anyone else before because we couldn't put a number on it!

 

Yup! It takes all sorts in this game....

 

CB

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lOl at the moment i guess you can say we keep count but how hard is it to count to 1 in two different catagories? we have been with 1 cpl and with 1 single male for a mfm 3some twice. so at the moment even if we didn't try it would be very hard to forget as the single male is a good friend that we even see out of bed too.

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We use to keep track but once we had to start taking our shoes off to count that high it just didn't seem worth the effort. :lol:

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We use to keep track but once we had to start taking our shoes off to count that high it just didn't seem worth the effort. :lol:

 

I can count up to 21, IF I take off my shoes AND my underwear :cool:

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It's not about numbers, we keep track because we play with several couples on a regular basis. We've become friends with many of them outside the bedroom.

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We have little punch cards to help us keep track. Every 10th couple earns us a free video rental . . . NOT! We'd rather enjoy the memories of the good times we've had than keep track of numbers.

 

=)

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we don't keep track, if you put me on the spot I could likely count it out, but its not about numbers its about qulity and in a few cases the friendships we made BETWEEN the bed post... sides you can't knotch it if your tied to it ::P:

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You give out rental videos? We hand out raffle tickets and every month we hold a random drawing. The winner gets a pretty awesome gift basket.

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I know the ballpark number lol no names being that i really don't remember about 75% of there names::P:

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Being a compulsive data keeper, of course I do (did). It's the engineer/math geek in me.

 

And I kept dozens, maybe hundreds, of the love letters from a swing partner that I am still in contact with. A few years ago, I burned it all.

 

There was a time when looking back on that list of names was a thrill. Remembering each woman, her softness, her peculiarities, her touch was a trip down memory lane. Recalling how many times we made love was a thrill. I have a special soft spot for all of the women I was with more than three times.

 

It's not the numbers that count; it's the warm memories which the list helped me recall. Now that the list is gone, it is ever more difficult to recall some of them. That's a shame, but life goes on.

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Bob use to keep track of the count, but it got to get out of hand,lol. when younger and at parties I would please 30-40 men a night and most of them more than once, now its always 8-10 a week often more. Most of the time its only oral ,thats my favorite pastime

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Do you keep track of how many people you have sex with?
I (Michael) sat down this afternoon with a pencil and paper and went about the task of listing the names of all females with whom I have had intimate contact since embarking on this Swing Lifestyles adverture. When I realized I could not easily recall all of the names, I began to think, "I'm out of control." As with so many other things in my life, I went to JoAnn for help. Together we completed the list; and another list for her as well.

 

An informal analysis:

- JoAnn and I have had the same number of partners, though this does not mean all were a result of a straight-across partner exchange.

- 19% eventually proved to be a "one-night stand".

- 30% of encounters have evolved into some sort of enduring relationship.

- 12% of the men are entirely incapable of having an erection.

- 0% of the women are incapable of having an orgasm.

- 54% are contacts made through on-line advertising.

- 21% are contacts made at meets-n-greets.

- 19% are contacts made at house parties.

- 4% are contacts made at swingers' clubs.

 

Percantage of encounters we regret -- 0%

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I admit it, I keep a list, of names and number. I enjoy doing it. I do it for both sexes.

 

It's not something I show anyone though, or that more than one person knows (who also keeps a list).

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I can name them all extemporaneously. It's a weird ability. Mrs FC4L has a list up until we got married.

 

Mr FC4L

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Percantage of encounters we regret -- 0%

 

There are some things in life that money can't buy... for everything else, there's Mastercard. ::P:

 

Nice post.

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We lost count somewhere around 250 playmates in the third year we were together. It's been slower since then. Nowadays, we have only a general sense of how many it's been. We still more or less track how many guys L has in an evening, but have long since lost track of how many there have been total.

 

The numbers are interesting, but it's about the heat and fun, not about the numbers.

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We voted "No, it's not about the numbers", not because we can't recall the names or great sexual experiences, but because we can count the number of couples we have played with on fingers of two hands. Then it's not too hard to remember at least first names of those we have swapped mates with for social fun as well as for sexual intercourse.

 

It is somewhat analagous to the dates one has had before hitching your wagon to one's present mate. Again, since the number of girlfriends/boyfriends prior to marriage has been under a dozen, it's easy to remember at least the first names. And, the ones we distinctly remember are those with whom we have had sexual intercourse after a date. The most memorable ones are the ones where intercourse happened on the very first date or those who were particularly awesome in bed.

 

We suppose the swinging experiences are no different. One selectively tends to remember couples that were or are great social and sexual mates. The ones we swapped mates with for play followed by sexual intercourse are etched in the memory, particularly if swap partners were sexually adept.

 

So, overall its about quality of the social and sexual experience and not about numbers of couples you have played and swapped mates with for intercourse, social as well as sexual.

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Just like I don't weigh myself, or wear a watch, I don't keep up with the number of partners I've had. I try not to be ruled by numbers.

 

Pepper

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Do you keep track of how many people you have sex with?

 

By keeping track of the amount of restraining orders currently issued against me.

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Hello

We lost track many years ago, We are both retired now, and always seeking new play partners. Mostly seeking men as I am very oral. If in our area and want to meat email us. Can be bi or str8

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Yeah, I keep a list with the dates I went to a club, and note with slashes (/) if something has happend

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We have been swinging for over 30 years now and lost count of the number of partners we have had a long time ago. However we do keep a separate address and phone list of our swinging contacts and there are currently 34 names listed. But we have not seen most of them for a few years. For us it is not the number of couples we have swung with that is important. What matters to us is the quality of the relationship, both sexual and friendship, we develop with our swinging partners. We most certainly like some sexual variety in our lives but we are also looking for a friendship which extends beyond the bedroom. When we started swinging in the late 1970s we met with a lot of couples once or twice. But over the years we have narrowed our circle of swinging friends to a group of six couples with whom we meet on a regular basis, sometimes with just one other couple, other times with two or more and occasionally all six. Nowadays we rarely swing outside of this group except when we are on vacation.

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