beardedone 50 Posted July 24, 2015 Ok, long and short of it - 61 year old, single male, overweight (of course), and I'd like to know how many of you are turned *off* sexually because of those three facts? I've been to several parties over the last couple of years, and everyone has been friendly, and I rarely get turned down for a dance or two, but I've not been invited to anyone's room for fun lately. Fearing the 'single male' stereotype, I have resisted inviting a couple or more into my room because I don't wish to seem pushy or as too aggressive. That is possibly all in my head, I admit. I'm not ugly, according to most (polite) women. So, I hope that isn't a factor. I try not to be rude, obnoxious, or cavalier. People will cut up and we all have some laughs but that is usually as far as it goes. I'm not sure if I'm sending the wrong signals or even sending any at all! Dazed and confused. Thanks for your honesty. Quote Share this post Link to post
tribbles 490 Posted July 24, 2015 Invite people to your room. Might have to invite 20 to get one to say yes but that yes will be awesome. Quote Share this post Link to post
angelkin 1,326 Posted July 24, 2015 I'll admit, age is somewhat of a factor for me. The weight, it depends on how much and how you carry it. Single, doesn't bother me at all. I'm with Tribbles, ask couples if they would like to join you. The worst thing they can say is 'no' and if they do, then you're not any worse off having asked. Nothing ventured nothing gained. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Guest sandraandalex Posted July 25, 2015 I had a friend who would always say, "She's out of my league." Finally I told him to let her decide that. After all , if you argue for your limitations, they are yours. Quote Share this post Link to post
Twilighttap 168 Posted December 5, 2016 If you don't ask, you can't get turned down. Unfortunately getting turned down happens in the LS and that includes couples, so keep up being a good guy and ask if people want to join you. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
beardedone 50 Posted December 5, 2016 Oh, I understand, "no" and it's not normally a problem. I've had more yes'es than no's but that was years and pounds ago. Mostly, I just don't want to come off as pushy or anything equally repulsive. Of course, some women LIKE pushy... :) Just getting back into the lifestyle after a 23 year hiaus (marriage where she did not want to swing.) Quote Share this post Link to post