I'm a bachelor who plans to stay that way. With that said, I would suggest that you ask him why he does not like the idea of you being touched by another man. Maybe his feelings toward you are proprietary, maybe he just doesn't like to share, I don't know. On the flipside, maybe you could tell him what it is about the swinging lifestyle that turns you on so much. I realize that I have no real experience of what marriage is like, but I hope that this helps, even a little bit. Hopefully, the couples who post here can be of more assistance.