i think all of these points .. point ... to one thing ... your personality, what you feel comfortable with and what you don't.. Obviously, you know how you feel , so , i'll try and give you some insight into how and why i make the choices i make..
(1) at what point , do i decide to have sex with someone?? pretty much immediately. it depends on my gut feeling , and what i see when i look in their eyes . being online is a lot harder , cuz people can pretend to be what ever you're looking for. i'm not sure if your age is listed , but at my age , i always presume that the guy i've just met, and is makin me wonder what it would be like to have sex with him, has other relationships , others who are close and dear to his heart. i never presume that i am the first , nor the last person that feels this way in his presence. my next decision has to do with regret. if i never am able to see this person again , will i regret giving myself to him sexually?? will i regret the fact that he prefers to be with whomever he's been with before me?? and so i decide , yes, being with this man , if only once , will be worth it ... will somehow enhance my life , and brighten my outlook.
IF you're the type of person that is always in need of reassurance that you are lovable , or feeling that "your" guy is giving "the other woman" more attention than you, the LS will only magnify , if not intensify those thoughts and feelings.
(6) i'm not a swimmer, but in every aspect of my life , i , too, also answer that voice in my head. like when i lost my virginity. i remember thinking ... "am i really ready to wait for a lifetime commitment ( not to mention the doubts i had about anything lasting a lifetime ) to experience sexual passion and physical desire" .... i gave my virginity at the age of 17, to a 17 yo guy, that i had never seen before , and haven't seen since. my only connection to him was his older brother.
sorry, i get so wordy , but once i get on a train of thought , i just go with it ..