Thank you all for your wonderful answers. They are appreciated and will be taken into consideration.
I can admit that I am interested on a certain level but only because of previous experiences. To explain, when I was not with my husband and single I had been to a couple of parties where there was drinking, music, and other singles. We used to come up wih some interesting games to say the least, one was the number three game. one girl, three guys, three minutes anything goes unless she says no and vice versa. I can honestly say my experience was hot but it was a spur of the moment thing and I was single. my husband knows about this experience and he has never had an opportunity like it.
I thought our relationship was pretty rock solid but then he started talking more about threesomes and group sex and it made me question myself. Im glad he wants to share his fantasies and I like to share mine with him but to me thats all they were fantasies not something to become reality.
I can also admit when I got pretty upset about it, I left for work and asked if he needed anything on the way home and he looked at me and said " a blonde and a red head", not such a big deal but every day i went to work that was the answer. Finally I looked at him and said "you know it wouldnt be so bad if you would just say once, you know, all i want you to bring home is your wonderful brunette self!"
He didnt say anything and since he hasnt said anything about a blonde and a redhead.
I didnt mean to turn him off the conversation, I want to be able to talk to him about these things. I know what turns him on and what doesnt but bringing another person or people into our sex lives doesnt seem to be the answer for me about anything.
Someone asked about it sponatiously happening: to me its different than being preplanned. Its just something that happened and isnt necessarily going to happen again. Im not sure how to make that make sense.
We have talked some more about certain things, like what we would allow if the situation did happen, like he would not want me to give another guy a blow job nor have another give me anal.
I think my issues may also stem from me feeling im not getting enough sex and here he is wanting to add more people, when i feel i am not getting it enough! To me that doesnt make sense. Thank you all for talking to me. I may have him read this since he is the one who directed me here and may be that will open up more discussion.
southbond, that just seems terribly mean to do to him when all he did was talk to me!