Thanks, Bruncouple. Your reply certainly eases me a bit by knowing that there are some couples like us, or rather, there are some wives like me who have similar thinking (initially). In Singapore, it might be a bit difficult (though possible) to get to know other men with similar interests, and to initiate the first move. Besides, there might still be some conservative cultural thoughts here, though Singaporeans are more open-minded as compared to its neighbouring Malaysians. Well, since my husband and I are going to New York next month, we hope that that trip would be a memorable one for us.. sexually, that is!!
My other concern is on sexually-related diseases. Can the HIV virus transmit through oral sex? How can I find out from a prospective male partner that he is not HIV+ by not offending his feelings? I mean, there might be people out there who do not know that they are HIV+ until they are tested. I don't mean to discriminate HIV+ carriers here, but I want my babies to be safe when I wish to start a family in future.
More help & info needed here!!! Thanks!