hello Chloe,
Just thought I would put my two cents in about your concerns. I was in your shoes about 2yrs ago. My husband and I had been married 11yrs when he brought up the idea of swinging. At first I was extemely upset by the idea. I truly thought he wanted my permission to cheat on me. However, he told me it was to spice up our sex life, which had become a little predictable and routine. But more importantly he wanted us to take our marriage to another level of intimacy. I told him I would have to think about it because the idea of him with another woman didn't sit well with me. He showed me the sls site, along with other swinger sites he found and told me take my time. I looked up many articles on swinging and marriage---and read many good things as well as bad. But to make a long story short, the more I read the more I understood what swinging was about and over time i said we could see what it's like. We had a condition that if one of us was uncomfortable or didn't want to swing, we would stop. 2 years later, our marriage is just as great as it was when we started if not better. So only agree to swing if you are 100% sure. If you have any doubt, then you must not go ahead with it. If you should decide not to, then ask your husband why-if he gets mad at your decision. Swinging is not for everyone. My husband got mad the first time I said no to swinging, and til this day I still couldn't understand why when he brought it up to me out of the blue--how was I suppose to react---Men--go figure. We have fun now, and I am glad my husband gave me the time I needed to decide for myself. It was one of the best decisions I made. Good Luck in choice and just remember, BE 100% SURE.