My wife and I (married 20 years) started talking about all of this a few months ago. We both have had very limited other sexual experience. While we have tried to explore, we have found we are stuck at the point of intimacy. I don't have a problem with her having sex, but I do have a problem with her being intimate with others. I mean, talking on a deeper level, or having soft sensual sex ( i.e. Kissing and lots of touching/caressing) with someone. She says she doesn't really need these things but says she enjoys herself much more when she can. I believe I'm being selfish about this, that's to say, I don't mind sharing parts of her but not all of her. Has anyone had to deal with this, and if so how? I've been reading a lot of posts and comments after and some have helped. But I can't find anything like this yet.