My fiancée and I are considering trying swinging. We currently have a great sex life but I would like to explore the lifestyle, and think that she would enjoy it as she is a very sexual person, especially once she becomes aroused. She has been open to fetishes that I have introduced her to, and can honestly say she has found them enjoyable and we include those in our sessions. Personally, my experience with the swinging lifestyle has been limited to discussions with swingers I have met in the past which typically focused on "big picture" discussions not the intimate details. I am now looking to fill in those details and ask for your assistance given your experiences. BTW, we are both straight.
In discussing swinging with her, I have mentioned that we would certainly take small steps into the lifestyle and start with only soft swinging. I have told her that could involve simple fondling or mutual masturbation. Am I correct in saying that? Personally, I would be happy with the aforementioned as long as there is a happy ending.
While she says that see can easily see herself being pleasured by someone new, she is a bit skeptical as to what sort of fulfillment the typical male partner would seek. Again, we would not seek to have intercourse. Her thought on her offering oral sex is that she feels as though she would need an emotional bond, of some sort, before feeling comfortable. I am still at the fondling and mutual masturbation level and have stressed that. My experience with different fetish groups has shown me that each person has a different level/requirement before obtaining satisfaction (physically or mentally). I would assume that is similar in the swinging community... some people are happy with simple things while others need the whole enchilada (forgive the cliche).
Again my two questions are:
#1 What activities does a pair typically engage in during a soft swap?
#2 Would a male partner be simply willing to be masturbated or fondled by a female partner .
Thanks in advance.
