Been discussing this swinging thing with the boyfriend some more. He said that we are in it together & that he thinks that we would enjoy it but he doesn't want to make me do anything that I don't want to. He also said that I have the final say in who we pick. He realizes that I have a hang up about being cheated on since I have been cheated on in the past. He's been cheated on in the past as well so he knows the hurt that goes with it. What I find so interesting, is that we are able to communicate so well about this compared to the kind of communication that I had with my ex when we were married. Apparently my boyfriend really cares about me & my feelings & just wants us to be able to go & have fun together.