My wife and I are newbies and have yet to swap. We have discussed it in much detail sharing a lot of fantasies and are looking to go to a Swingers Club out of town in a couple of weeks and a clothing optional resort in Cancun in October. Since we are new to this, we want to start out slow and see what happens. With that being said, we have agreed we do not want to have intercourse with another couple, just some play and soft swap. Will this be a problem if we initiate something or if another couple initiates something with us? Is this normal to have intercourse a a boundary as you start the lifestyle?