funcoupledayton

Too funny! JoAnn has swingdar.

It's interesting because there is a group of people I know from the lifestyle who now get together for dinner parties. About half the group no longer swings. I think the Craig's List post reflects the sentiment of many who have tried the lifestyle briefly or who have been in for many years.

I would suggest going with a group. Ask the group leader or travel agent aobut the make-up of the group.

Another vaccination to consider is the Meningococcal meningitis vaccine. Meningitis is deadly and easily spread through kissing and close contact. There have been known outbreaks in gay bars, it could easily happen in a swinger club setting. In our state the vaccine is required for kids at 7th grade and college students. Hep B is also a required vaccination for kids. Hep A is strongly encouraged if you are travelling out of the US to the Caribbean or Mexico. Right now it's influenza vaccine time in the US. Get yours! Adults should also get the new tetanus vaccine that also protects against pertussis (whooping cough). Pertussis is actually pretty common and adults can transmit it easily to young babies who are at risk for death.

I think you should start by talking with your wife about your concerns with the present situation of your sex life and your past experience with your ex and travel. See if you can improve things with the two of you and get reassurances of her fidelity when she's away. Once things are on more solid ground you might talk about swinging together.

By age 50, at least 80 percent of women will have been infected with genital HPV infection.If you swing you are exposed to hpv.

I would offer to meet them at a club or meet and greet.

I like We gotta thing, That couple next door, life on the swing set, the swap fu podcast, and swingercast. My favorite podcast is not all about swinging, rather sex and relationships, it is Dan Savage's Savage Lovecast.

Condoms are extremely useful in the prevention of HIV. They do offer some protection against even skin to skin sti's like HPV and herpes. Saying that condoms are basically useless is misleading. There are research studies that give statistics for reduction of transmission for many diseases. Just because you are not eliminating risk completely doesn't mean you should throw all caution to the wind.

There is a podcast called We Gotta Thing. They have been to some of the DoyouknowGeorge events and really enjoyed them. They sound very nice and upscale. The couple on the podcast are in their 50's. After I heard about their Just for Dinner events I started my own version and it went really well.

I hope you realize that a swinger discussion board is not representative of the general public or most guys your age.

I would write and ask the hosts your questions. 160 people seems like an awful lot,even if it is a mansion and they valet park. Sometimes people run unlicensed clubs and call it a house party. I think you might be better off going to Trapeze. If your friends are on the website you could share their profile with the hosts and ask if they would consider inviting them. If they are not on the website,I wouldn't.

You might consider hiring a sex worker. That way you can get the experience you want. You won't find a single woman in the lifestyle who is interested in the scenario you described. There are women who enjoy fulfilling couples' fantasies as part of their job.

I don't think it's a red flag, but it may be inconvenient, depending where you play. At a club or home it might be fine. If you are going toa hotel, it doesn't usually make sense to get 2 rooms unless you are all planning to spend the night. Until you meet face to face you won't know if there is an attraction. We play same and separate room, but I probably prefer separate room slightly. We know a few really great couples who only play separate room.

I'm so glad you are part of this community!