couplers

Agreed. Not only is each partner different, but also is each pairing. It struck me the first time I saw David with another woman, it was almost disturbing that she had him in another state. As to sounds, the big difference is how much more vocal women are than men, both loudness and variety of songs that are sung.

Yes they do and in every way, from entry to orgasm and withdrawal, and everything in between. And I really appreciate the differences, both their physical characteristics and how they do it. The differences are something to savor. Equally too with the women with whom I exchange orgasms, different, different, different.

"Performance art." A good observation. Sometimes while watching others have sex, it strikes me that way, as an artistic achievement. As a practiced rather than instinctual act. Like dancers or figure skaters. Beautiful.

Please follow-up and tell us how the sex has been between you two. My guess is better than ever, she is grateful and you are excited to get back in there and prove yourself. And no doubt you will want her to continue. Unlike a man, a woman's has the ability to totally satisfy multiple partners. It improves your relationship and sex life as well.

Were either of you ever non-monogamous? It doesn't mean that you had to have swapped, but did either of you have two sex partners going at once? Perhaps in your younger days, transitioning from one relationship to another? Tell us about that. Swingers swap. Being in "The Lifestyle" or "Non-monogamy" encompasses much more.

For me, what I love about the lifestyle is not the difference in body parts among my partners, but their overall attitude and approach to sexual activities. The way each man (or woman) and I fuck is different and thrilling. Although looking at it and thinking about it from the other side, I wonder how other women feel to Red and David: That makes me jealous, which I like. Really? Do you mean to completion? For us blowjobs are almost always foreplay, getting a good erection. Especially when the guy needs to provide round two.

Either both on my tits with her or his fingers very gently brushing my nipples, or one hand on my tit and the other with a finger going round and in my bum hole.

Sometimes, but tongueing in and around the vagina is the usual.

I agree, 69 is exciting to watch, but I prefer one at a time when doing it, especially with another girl, because the position is better. On her tits, mostly, MF or FF. Women tend to caresse his testicles. Second place either way is a finger in the bum hole.

Whether I watch or not, I wonder, how does she feel, different or the same as me, does he feel the same to her as he does to me? I can see and appreciate the way their sex acts are different.

My body count is low, but the amount of sex that I've had with those bodies is high. Perhaps in the regular swingers game, but I had great success early on when we were in our mid-twenties and I decided that I wanted my husband to play in addition to me having a boyfriend. I recruited for among my friends and acquaintances with great success. Maybe because so many of my friends were single at that age (late teens to thirties), my husband is very attractive and polite, he was considered both safe and desirable because he was married, to me, who was giving them permission and saying that I would be flattered if she used my husband. Finally, we weren't pushy, he and/or we would take them on dates and vacations, pay for everything and expect nothing.

My poly family and I are the exception here on this site and in the lifestyle. We have on occasion taken it outside the family, but rarely; we have never been to a club, houseparty, or had sex with strangers. So my experience is not typical and I am unqualified to comment, except I take offense 😄 at the belief I (and Clair and Lora) not only can and do outfuck our same-age men, but we also go at each other. That's why for several years we shared a boyfriend for the extra we needed from time-to-time. This gets to a fundamental truth, men just want to fuck as many women as they can, women (mostly) want sex with men they know, trust, and have a deeper attraction to. That's why, i think, MFMs with regulars work so well.

It is true that most of the people posting here are male, but not all, and the women who do post range from slightly lightly bi to full-on engaging in their Lesbian side, like me. Having said that, however, your friend may do better with an online forum devoted to gay and bi women to get a wider variety of viewpoints.

I've spoken in my above posts. What more would you like to know? And yes, it's become normal (but never boring) for me and the others in my poly family.

Agreed. In our poly family, our experience is that having other intimate relationships besides a single spouse reduces stress considerably. For the above reason, I don't think that is the case.