Here is alittle about us. I am 45 she 43 we both are very fit. We are empty nesters just resently. We just started going out again really last 20 years or so we been home riasing the family. Now there gone and we are just starting to spread are wings again. We try to find thing to do dinner,movies,dancing. We really like dancing my wife gets a few glasses of wine and she like dancing with other men though she would never admit it. Afterwards she is always very turn on. It turns me on also. Always great sex afterwards. Here is the thing though. She says she is against swinging though I did get her to admit she would like to have 2 guys at once. So i think the thing is she is to shy to say she would like to swing. How do i get her to take that step? I mean to really meet and move to swinging.