I think that some men find their way to the lifestyle (myself certainly) because they're guided by a sincere, natural desire and appreciate and adore the company of women and would like to meet socialize with like minded others.
A single man first finding access to many beautiful women who may be as intoxicated by the headiness of pleasure and seduction as he is, can get a bit excited and perhaps even a little aggressive. Sort of like a kid in a candy store.
That doesn't mean that he's is only a horny, one track minded surface swimmer.
He may want to send a message to several women that he truly finds sexy and lovely. Being attracted to different women of different types doesn't mean he's full of it or that his attraction isn't genuine.
Single men that are new to the lifestyle can't help but feel a little awkward at first by including the man of the couple in his desire to romance the woman.
In the world of monogamy that is the last thing you're supposed to do.
It's a different game than we're used to with different rules.
After reading the different posts, I get the feeling that there are some angry women out there.
I guess it's understandable considering some of the men they encounter but it wouldn't hurt to be a little nicer.
As a single man trying to get involved in the lifestyle, rejection is pretty much a given.
I'm like a one eyed cat peeping in a seafood store.
I don't mean to speak for all single men but there are those of us who believe in ladies and gentlemen and would find great pleasure in getting to know the woman, the man, the couple.
Perhaps couples could take this into consideration.
Just because a kid goes wild in a candy store, doesn't mean the kid doesn't really appreciate candy.