SaskSwing 20 Posted February 16, 2016 My wife seems to have a lady issue the last few months and maybe someone has a thought. Every time after sex no matter how gentle or hard she say the her vag is sore inside. Like we had rough sex. We are both clean people and haven't had any other partners so I don't think it would be an std. We do have a doctor but not one that she can talk to about this. There is a language barrier that is rather hard to overcome when it deals with this area. So I figured I'd put it on here to see if anyone has anyone idea. Quote Share this post Link to post
two4youinswva 3,068 Posted February 16, 2016 I'd see a different doctor. It could be nothing major (and probably isn't), but you need a doctor that you can discuss this with so that you (and we) aren't guessing, incorrectly most likely, and it can be quickly understood and dealt with. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
SaskSwing 20 Posted February 16, 2016 Thanks for the reply... we have looked at new doctors but it's taken over a year to find the one we have and other then that we have and few walk in places but then your back to the language barrier and they just want you in and out.. there's a big doctor shortage here. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
two4youinswva 3,068 Posted February 16, 2016 Do you use condoms or spermicides? Have you changed or added new medications recently? Has she used new or different feminine hygiene products recently? Quote Share this post Link to post
SaskSwing 20 Posted February 16, 2016 We don't use anything and the only thing that has changed is I had a vasectomy about 4 months ago... and this issue has started about a month or two after that. Quote Share this post Link to post
two4youinswva 3,068 Posted February 16, 2016 Here's what WebMD has to say about it. Female Pain During Sexual Intercourse: Causes & Treatments They list about a dozen possible causes, and I'm sure that is nowhere near all the possibilities. Quote Share this post Link to post
SaskSwing 20 Posted February 16, 2016 I figured there would be a ton of reasons... I guess I was hoping for a "hey I've had that, try this" lol.. Quote Share this post Link to post
N&G 206 Posted February 16, 2016 Are you able to translate? Maybe you can go with her and talk with the doctor together. As long as you are able to answer the doctor's questions beforehand he/she should be able to proceed with the examination. Quote Share this post Link to post
SaskSwing 20 Posted February 16, 2016 That maybe a translation of some sort is only way... thank you everyone for your help! The people here are great! We're gonna have to try to see a Dr some how, and get this solved. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnuswing 4,711 Posted February 17, 2016 Wishing you the best of luck on getting this resolved as speedily as possible. Problems like this that interfere with intimacy can really be depressing, especially when you are struggling to figure out the problem to start with so you can start fixing it. Quote Share this post Link to post
funcoupledayton 2,707 Posted February 17, 2016 Have you tried using lubricant? I would try that and see if it helps. Many people like coconut oil or a lube made specifically for sex that is glycerin and paraben free. Don't use vaseline. Quote Share this post Link to post
njbm 2,728 Posted February 17, 2016 Lube is a great idea, but they should go to a doctor for a diagnosis and find out what the underlying problem is. If the nationalized health service is slow, can you pay a doctor for a consultation? Quote Share this post Link to post
funcoupledayton 2,707 Posted February 17, 2016 Speaking as a medical professional, it is entirely reasonable to try lube before seeking diagnosis and treatment. "Have you tried lubricants?" one of the first things a professional will ask you. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Fundamental Law 2,823 Posted February 17, 2016 Another medical professional weighing in... 1. Lubricant is a first step. If it relieves the symptoms, fine. 2. Infection, yeast or bacterial, would be the second concern. Either infection is readily treated. Neither of these are STDs/STIs. They reflect subtle natural changes in the chemistry and biology of the vagina. Yeast infections are treatable with various creams available over the counter, or with a couple of pills (fluconazole). Bacterial infections often require topical and oral antibiotics. Both can follow tampon use, and a different brand of feminine hygiene product may be helpful as well. 3. There are other, rare but still important problems. If she has not had a recent routine pelvic exam and pap smear, she should have one. Understanding that SK is remote,Regina is a city of 190,000 and someone there must be able to provide well-woman care. Keep us posted. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
GuyInMD79 1,500 Posted February 17, 2016 I was going to suggest try lube as well. ThIs is an especially good idea if Mrs. SaskSwing is not getting very wet on her own during sex. Of course, I also agree that an actual Doctor is going to give you better advice than we can! Quote Share this post Link to post
sunbuckus 3,565 Posted February 18, 2016 For those of you who are in the medical field, could this be related to the onset of menopause? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
cpl36996 91 Posted February 19, 2016 I would think if there's not discharged of any kind along with pain or itchiness is not any std/ship's, but is always good for a peace of mind to chk with a DR. Quote Share this post Link to post
enhancer 1,544 Posted February 19, 2016 Welcome neighbors in Sask! You are totally correct that finding a good family doctor here is not an easy task at all. There are just not enough of them for the amount of people here in this part of Canada. I do suggest you do keep trying to find one though. If you hear about a new clinic opening up get in there quick, because there will often be new doctors taking on new clients. Not sure what your language bearer is, but you seem to be able to communicate well so you could always accompany her to help with that part and I am sure they would try and work with you the best they can to try and help you two figure it out. Also agree with trying the lube comments! We do quite often even though Ms Enhancer has no problem in the getting wet department being a squirter. It just helps being able to play longer and more often without having to deal with the rawness that can come along with it. Good luck to you two! Hope you can get it figured out. Quote Share this post Link to post
Baconheads 397 Posted February 19, 2016 I was also going to say, "Find a new doctor that you feel comfortable with." But then I saw your location. Canada. Say no more. Oh well, we will be dealing with the same thing here in the states soon enough. Try some different lubes. I like the silicone ones, although the stain the sheets horribly. Quote Share this post Link to post
Baconheads 397 Posted February 19, 2016 I was going to ask how old the misses is... Although I am not that kind of doctor. Quote Share this post Link to post
SaskSwing 20 Posted February 24, 2016 Wow! Thanks for the replies everyone. Mrs SaskSwing is going to see if she can be referred to a gyno to see what's going on, but talking about it last week it dawned on her this started roughly when they changed her birth control pills from a brand name to a generic brand, also her friend chimed in stating she had the same problem a few years ago, and she had the doctor change the pills and she was fine. So Mrs SaskSwing is going to go off her pills for a month to see if there's a difference while waiting for a referral. Our doc is from over seas and sometimes can be very hard to get thru too. She seems to think pills fix all but we like a more natural approach to life then get pumped full of meds! Quote Share this post Link to post