What terminology do use to describe yourself?

OhioCouple · 01-03-2003, 04:39 PM

What terminology do use to describe yourself?

It seems that there are just as many terms for this "thing" that we do as there are for those that describe themselves as bi-sexual. And each of the terms seem to mean different things to different people. I have heard a lot recently the following things.

A Swapper is an outdated term from the 50's and is exclusive to those that actually swap with other couples.

A Swinger is one that plays with both singles and couples and is the modernized term.

A Lifestylist is one that considers themselves as being devoted to swinging and is the most modernized term. But yet many do not use that term as they don't consider it a priority in their lives (which is how the view that term).

A Poly is commited soley to the same partners.

Please vote in the poll and then tell us whatever you voted for means to you.

We describe ourselves as swingers. How do you describe yourself?

Don't you guys just love all these bizarre questions? I really need a life.

Lori

**Alura** · 01-03-2003, 05:42 PM

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Originally posted by OhioCouple

Don't you guys just love all these bizarre questions? I really need a life.

Lori [/B]

I think you've found one... stirring things up on the Swingers Board. Thanks, Lori! Your topics always get people communicating; isn't that what swinging or swapping or whatever is all about?

Well, I screwed up in voting. I clicked "swingers" before I read your definitions. Swapping with one other couple is all we've ever done. Not to say that we wouldn't consider some of the other options. We just haven't yet. Does that help your survey?

Mr. Alura

OhioCouple · 01-03-2003, 06:10 PM

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Originally posted by Alura
I think you've found one... stirring things up on the Swingers Board.

Heck Mr. Alura, I am just curious by nature. I have been all my life and I suppose some things never change. The nice thing about it though is I never stop learning, therefore I continue to grow.

Lori

yhungry · 01-03-2003, 09:16 PM

A Swinger is one that plays with both singles and couples and is the modernized term.

We describe ourselves as swingers. How do you describe yourself?

Lori [/B][/QUOTE]

This thread is going to open pandoras box. You say that you are swingers and by your defination a swinger plays with both singles and couples.

You have also said in other threads that you will not swing with single men. Or is it just single women that ya all play with?

Rich

OhioCouple · 01-03-2003, 09:40 PM

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Originally posted by yhungry
This thread is going to open pandoras box. You say that you are swingers and by your defination a swinger plays with both singles and couples.

Actually it wasn't my definition, but one that I have heard repeatedly. Since we had considered single males (though in the last few days I am now real opposed to it for many reasons) and we originally began seeking the elusive single female, I feel we are swingers as opposed to swappers.

The definitions I gave were based on what I have read lately, not my own. It is just another one of those questions that I am trying to understand.

Lori ~ Who waits for Julie to cut her off from ever posting bizzare questions again....

***JustAskJulie*** · 01-04-2003, 10:38 AM

Good question. I think that your descriptions will confuse people tho. Because while they use one term, they may feel they have to select a different answer because of your descriptions.... when in reality the question is "How do YOU describe yourself", not "which term fits you best".

Chicup · 01-04-2003, 11:13 AM

swing·er ( P ) Pronunciation Key (swngr)
n.
1-One that swings: a good swinger of baseball bats.
Slang.
2-A person who actively seeks excitement and moves with the latest trends.
3-A person who engages freely in promiscuous sex.
4-A member of a couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges sexual partners.

We are swingers, version 4

OhioCouple · 01-04-2003, 11:35 AM

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Originally posted by JustAskJulie
Good question. I think that your descriptions will confuse people tho. Because while they use one term, they may feel they have to select a different answer because of your descriptions.... when in reality the question is "How do YOU describe yourself", not "which term fits you best".

Actually that is why I asked people to come back and say what their perceptions were in addition to the poll. It is just another one of these things that boggles my mind since it means so many different things to everybody.

Lori

Flori_DAMAN · 01-04-2003, 11:57 AM

People that just have a lot of sex are also referred to as swingers. I guess the GAD (generally accepted description), lol, would be a couple that has sex with other couples and/or singles. Or a single that has sex with couples although the latter is often debated amongst "pure" swingers...

Then it boils down to what type of swinger you are. This is a good thread because I don't think some swingers are even categorized. Newbies often have a vision of swinging that doesn't even exist so categorization and definition are really important...great thread Lori, John.

Flori_DAMAN · 01-04-2003, 12:01 PM

OH, and what am I now? I guess I am a swinging advocate. I have decided to step out of any physical participation until I get my head screwed back on. John.

OhioCouple · 01-04-2003, 12:39 PM

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Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN
OH, and what am I now?

Well John, I suppose you are an *other*, meaning another* open minded caring person.

Lori

Lorrie · 10-08-2003, 11:50 PM

I'm Polyamorous!

WesternSwing · 08-09-2004, 06:10 PM

We call ourselves "opportunistic swingers". We swing when the opportunity presents itself.

Mr. WS

**good times** · 08-09-2004, 06:22 PM

I picked swingers, and define that term as someone who has sex with people other than their partner with their partners consent.

Mrs Spoomonkey · 08-09-2004, 07:20 PM

Boy can this all get confusing or what!!

I voted that we are Swingers but we use the term lifestyle or lifestylers also. For the swinger term I'd define us as having sex with couples (mostly) and singles. We, by OhioCouples found definition, are not lifestylists in that we are not "devoted' to swinging.

We use 'lifestylers' to define the fact that we are swingers and prefer to widen our field of friendship to include more swingers/lifestylers. We feel more ourselves around swingers and people in the lifestyle so to speak whether or not we actually "play" or are just good friends. There is a certain freedom that you have in conversation etc. with lifestyle friends that you don't and can't have with anyone else (i.e. co-workers, family, vanilla friends).

Anyway that's my help on confusing the definitions even more

Mrs Spoomonkey

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View Poll Results: What terminology do you use to describe yourself?
I (we) are swappers	8	4.15%
I (we) are swingers	127	65.80%
I (we) are lifestylists	25	12.95%
I (we) are polyamorous	12	6.22%
I (we) are other, please describe other	21	10.88%
Voters: 193. You may not vote on this poll

01-03-2003, 04:39 PM	#1 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	What terminology do use to describe yourself? What terminology do use to describe yourself? It seems that there are just as many terms for this "thing" that we do as there are for those that describe themselves as bi-sexual. And each of the terms seem to mean different things to different people. I have heard a lot recently the following things. A Swapper is an outdated term from the 50's and is exclusive to those that actually swap with other couples. A Swinger is one that plays with both singles and couples and is the modernized term. A Lifestylist is one that considers themselves as being devoted to swinging and is the most modernized term. But yet many do not use that term as they don't consider it a priority in their lives (which is how the view that term). A Poly is commited soley to the same partners. Please vote in the poll and then tell us whatever you voted for means to you. We describe ourselves as swingers. How do you describe yourself? Don't you guys just love all these bizarre questions? I really need a life. Lori
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01-03-2003, 09:16 PM	#4 (permalink)
yhungry Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 156 Location: Long Island Status: couple	Re: What terminology do use to describe yourself? A Swinger is one that plays with both singles and couples and is the modernized term. We describe ourselves as swingers. How do you describe yourself? Lori [/B][/QUOTE] This thread is going to open pandoras box. You say that you are swingers and by your defination a swinger plays with both singles and couples. You have also said in other threads that you will not swing with single men. Or is it just single women that ya all play with? Rich

01-04-2003, 10:38 AM	#6 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Good question. I think that your descriptions will confuse people tho. Because while they use one term, they may feel they have to select a different answer because of your descriptions.... when in reality the question is "How do YOU describe yourself", not "which term fits you best".
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01-04-2003, 11:13 AM	#7 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 4,093 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	swing·er ( P ) Pronunciation Key (swngr) n. 1-One that swings: a good swinger of baseball bats. Slang. 2-A person who actively seeks excitement and moves with the latest trends. 3-A person who engages freely in promiscuous sex. 4-A member of a couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges sexual partners. We are swingers, version 4

01-04-2003, 11:57 AM	#9 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	People that just have a lot of sex are also referred to as swingers. I guess the GAD (generally accepted description), lol, would be a couple that has sex with other couples and/or singles. Or a single that has sex with couples although the latter is often debated amongst "pure" swingers... Then it boils down to what type of swinger you are. This is a good thread because I don't think some swingers are even categorized. Newbies often have a vision of swinging that doesn't even exist so categorization and definition are really important...great thread Lori, John.

01-04-2003, 12:01 PM	#10 (permalink)
Flori_DAMAN Previously of MichiganCouple Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 2,100 Location: Vero Beach Florida Status: Single Male	OH, and what am I now? I guess I am a swinging advocate. I have decided to step out of any physical participation until I get my head screwed back on. John.

10-08-2003, 11:50 PM	#12 (permalink)
Lorrie Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 282 Location: Manhattan, NY USA Status: Cock Sucking/Cum Swallowing Expert	I'm Polyamorous!
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08-09-2004, 06:10 PM	#13 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,973 Location: Utah Status: Single Male	Re: What terminology do use to describe yourself? We call ourselves "opportunistic swingers". We swing when the opportunity presents itself. Mr. WS
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08-09-2004, 06:22 PM	#14 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: What terminology do use to describe yourself? I picked swingers, and define that term as someone who has sex with people other than their partner with their partners consent.
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08-09-2004, 07:20 PM	#15 (permalink)
Mrs Spoomonkey Disney!All rides are open Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 1,758 Location: Ohio Status: Married Swing Lifestyle Name:spoomonkey	Re: What terminology do use to describe yourself? Boy can this all get confusing or what!! I voted that we are Swingers but we use the term lifestyle or lifestylers also. For the swinger term I'd define us as having sex with couples (mostly) and singles. We, by OhioCouples found definition, are not lifestylists in that we are not "devoted' to swinging. We use 'lifestylers' to define the fact that we are swingers and prefer to widen our field of friendship to include more swingers/lifestylers. We feel more ourselves around swingers and people in the lifestyle so to speak whether or not we actually "play" or are just good friends. There is a certain freedom that you have in conversation etc. with lifestyle friends that you don't and can't have with anyone else (i.e. co-workers, family, vanilla friends). Anyway that's my help on confusing the definitions even more Mrs Spoomonkey
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