Should we quit swinging because of my job...?

[Tia Vampire]

To all of you board members with jobs in the professional fields, Does your job keep you from swinging as much as you would like to? or did it cause you to stop all together?
I'm asking because in about another month i'll be going out for my externship and would hate for one of the patients to notice me from the board or any of the parties that we attend and cause me to lose my job.
Should we quit swinging or maybe not do it here in this small town of ours? All responces will be greatly appreciated and thanks.

[good times]

We both have higher profile jobs in very conservative fields and have never had a problem with this. Thew old saying, "they are here for the same reason you are" has seemed to hold up just fine. All of the people we have run into professionally who know we are swingers have understood discretion enough to keep it to themselves.

[intuition897]

I think the issue arises when they somehow find out when they aren't looking for themselves. For example, they happen to be nosing through their sister's computer looking for a recipe file, and they stumble upon a link to your profile on the web. Something like that. Or if you're out for dinner and sitting (rather too close) to the wrong partner.

We've had some concern about that. We figured that, for us, the risks are manageably small. The odds of it being a huge scandal are slim. However, we do cut the risks by only occasionally meeting people locally, and even then never engage in any rowdy public behaviour. We usually saved all our playing for out-of-town friends. It was just safer that way.

[BiloxiCouple]

Might be surprised how many in the health field are swingers. Some Dr.s also. More nurses.

[good times]

That is so true, it is a toss-up which is the most common occupation for swingers that we have run into, nurses or school teachers.

[BiloxiCouple]

Cops? Down here alot of casino dealers and other casino employees.

[Tia Vampire]

I spoke with a woman at the club last night about being a nurse and being in the life-style. She said the same as many of you here has said. There are alot of swinger that are in the professional fields and keep their job and the life-style seperate. I feel so much better. Thank you all.

[dandawest]

Yes, I would have to agree with the other posts for the most part. The singles and couples in the lifestyle know how to keep it to themselves, because if they out you there outing them selves. Also public safety is a big profession with lots of lifestyle members.

And to more answer your question I the hubby have been outed at my work by another co-worker. No I didnt quit just had to field lots of question about the lifstyle and my arraingment with the wife. So it wasnt that bad but would have prefered to be not in the public so much.

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by good times

That is so true, it is a toss-up which is the most common occupation for swingers that we have run into, nurses or school teachers.

J's a school nurse now. Double score?

-B

[Cpl2share]

Both in Government (as in elected) and we have found that although it does reduce the number of people who will contact us or reply to our ads, we just make sure to never post any pictures on the net. We live in a town of only 2000 people, so everyone knows everyone. When we do echange pictures, we almost always use pictures that could have been gotten from other sources such as the newspaper, advertisements, etc. Thsi way we have deniablity, but can still show people what we look like. So far no problems. Knock on wood.

[BCinIN]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Might be surprised how many in the health field are swingers. Some Dr.s also. More nurses.

You know, I have noticed this too. A very disproportionate number of health professionals are swingers compared to other fields. Then again, perhaps it only seems that way because the medical industry--which is actually comprised of hundreds of different individual professions--is considered as one entity. Or, perhaps it's that after spending the day thinking about the human body in a strictly professional sense, they want to let loose and think about them in the fun sense!

At any rate, we are now going to a club that is over a hundred miles from our house, so it is extremely unlikely that we'll ever run into anyone. If we did happen to see someone we knew, that would be pretty cool--let's face it, vanilla bars are FAR, FAR less fun to hang out in than swing clubs. The atmosphere in a club is so much more relaxed, and everyone is far less uptight, which makes even sitting around talking and having a few drinks a more pleasant experience. The "single male factor" in bars has totally turned us off to them over the years. So seeing someone we knew at a club would be nice!

My advice would be to keep quiet around work and such, but beyond that I wouldn't worry too much--the doomsday scenarios (like the "found a link to your Swing Lifestyle profile while snooping around" one) have about as much likelihood of happening as being struck by lightning. Okay, maybe not that small, but you know what I mean. Be cautious, but not paranoid.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by dandawest

And to more answer your question I the hubby have been outed at my work by another co-worker. No I didnt quit just had to field lots of question about the lifstyle and my arraingment with the wife.

dandawest, how did the co-worker find out?

[dandawest]

the person and there SO are active in the lifestyle........ the problem is that person like to be the center of atention and drma

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Might be surprised how many in the health field are swingers. Some Dr.s also. More nurses.

LOL... We've noticed what we call "The three M's": Medical, Military, and Mortgage (or Real Estate in general).

Mr. WS

[WesternSwing]

I think the worry of being outed is always there, but as others say it is relatively minimal and it can be managed. If someone recognizes you from a party they are as much as risk of being outed as you are, so there is a 99.99% chance they wouldn't say anything.

Mrs. WS and I have had business contacts show-up at parties that we had no idea were in the lifestyle, and other than the initial "oh shit" look on their face when they see us, from there on out it is smooth sailing and we actually have found more in common and have developed stronger business bonds because of it.

Mrs. WS recently went to work for a Fortune 500 company so that we could have affordable health benefits and in the building where she works there are over 4,000 employees that cycle through during a 24 hour period. Given the fact that around 1% of the general population is swingers there are probably 30 - 40 swingers that work there. She's run into three in the past eight months and is simply is a nod and a sly grin as they pass in the hall or in the elevator.

Mr. WS