Couple meeting a single, who pays?

VanHlebar · 03-03-2006, 09:12 AM

Ok,

So, we are meeting up with a single this evening for dinner and drinks and MrsVan and I have a quick question. When we have met other couples it was pretty simple, everyone went dutch. However, when meeting a single (guy or lady) I feel that as the couple we should pick up the bill, but I am not sure if that really is the case.

I don't want to offend anyone, but part of me says we should pick up the bill. So what are the thoughts and what to others do?

Thanks,
-Van

MarriedNY'ers69 · 03-03-2006, 09:14 AM

Hmmmmmm I have no advice. I am wondering too

good luck guys

ItTakes3 · 03-03-2006, 09:50 AM

It depends on who did the contacting and who suggested the place to meet. We've paid sometimes and the single has paid other times. Sometimes we go Dutch. Usually, one will take the bill and the other do the tipping.

**TNT** · 03-03-2006, 09:58 AM

Go dutch.

We always go dutch when we are getting to know people...especially the first meet. There are a few people, single and married, that we have gotten to be good enough friends with that we will pick up the tab one night and they will pick up the tab the next time we go out....these are people that we have known for years and see on a fairly regular basis.

Teresa

sexyshelby · 03-03-2006, 10:12 AM

I agree, go Dutch. I think it will be more comfortable for everyone.
I always prefer to go dutch, no matter how well I know the person. I just think it's easier and no one gets stuck paying more than others.

Good luck, hope it goes well!!!

~SS

Thrax · 03-03-2006, 10:19 AM

In my experience it's most common to go dutch. However, one couple that contacted and invited me, and picked the restaurant for lunch, picked up the lunch tab and I paid the tip.

Hope you have a great time!

Thrax

VanHlebar · 03-03-2006, 10:32 AM

Thanks folks for the responses! We did contact her and then we all agreed on the place for dinner, but it looks like majority says go dutch.

So that is what we will plan on unless something changes during dinner.

Now the next step and hopefully all goes well... if not, well we still get dinner

Thanks again!
-Van

Pinmonkey · 03-03-2006, 10:40 AM

If you feel like you want to pick up the tab, you could always ask. Something like "Would you mind if we paid for your dinner?"

looking4ward · 03-03-2006, 12:31 PM

Now the next question might be: If we decide to get a motel room to continue the acquaintence, would we split that bill 1/2 and 1/2 or 1/3 and 2/3? Not to be picky but what would be acceptable?

VanHlebar · 03-03-2006, 02:11 PM

In that case I would get the room myself

If it got to that point then I would say that as the couple that asked the single out, we would pay for the room..

-Van

NakedInSeattle · 03-03-2006, 06:18 PM

Everything should be split 50/50 between the guys. He should be more than willing to pay 50% of the bill for the lady he's gonna have sex with, for shit sakes. I know that I would if the situation were reversed. Another way if this is awkward is for one guy to pay for dinner and the other guy pay for the room.

VanHlebar · 03-03-2006, 09:42 PM

Well dinner went just fine, but I will admit, I picked up the tab. The waiter asked if it should be on one or two checks and I just couldn't bring myself to say two checks. She was fine and said thanks so I guess all was fine.

Thanks again folks for the help!

-Van

lovedoctor · 03-04-2006, 02:40 PM

So...what's the plan from here on out? Is there an interest there? You will have to let us know how it goes...

VanHlebar · 03-04-2006, 03:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lovedoctor

So...what's the plan from here on out? Is there an interest there? You will have to let us know how it goes...

Is there any interest....um yup.

MrsVan actually sent out a message to her this morning, but we knew she would be working all day so there won't be a response until later this evening or even tomorrow.

The biggest obstical at this point with the three of us is that our schedules are very difficult to get them to match. It took us about three weeks or so just to get the dinner date done.

We will see what happens from here and keep everyone posted.

-Van

WesternSwing · 03-04-2006, 04:35 PM

It may seem discriminatory, but we've usually gone dutch with single guys and paid for single women, or at least offered. We had a single girl recently offer to pay for us. It just seems we want to really take care of them since they are so rare.

Mr. WS

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03-03-2006, 09:12 AM	#1 (permalink)
VanHlebar a.k.a. Stifler Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 550 Location: Cincinnati Status: Married Male SLS Name:MrMrsVanHlebar	Couple meeting a single, who pays? Ok, So, we are meeting up with a single this evening for dinner and drinks and MrsVan and I have a quick question. When we have met other couples it was pretty simple, everyone went dutch. However, when meeting a single (guy or lady) I feel that as the couple we should pick up the bill, but I am not sure if that really is the case. I don't want to offend anyone, but part of me says we should pick up the bill. So what are the thoughts and what to others do? Thanks, -Van

03-03-2006, 09:14 AM	#2 (permalink)
MarriedNY'ers69 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 119 Location: New York Status: Married couple	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. Hmmmmmm I have no advice. I am wondering too good luck guys

03-03-2006, 09:50 AM	#3 (permalink)
ItTakes3 Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 98 Location: NTex	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. It depends on who did the contacting and who suggested the place to meet. We've paid sometimes and the single has paid other times. Sometimes we go Dutch. Usually, one will take the bill and the other do the tipping.

03-03-2006, 09:58 AM	#4 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,187 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple SLS Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 31	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. Go dutch. We always go dutch when we are getting to know people...especially the first meet. There are a few people, single and married, that we have gotten to be good enough friends with that we will pick up the tab one night and they will pick up the tab the next time we go out....these are people that we have known for years and see on a fairly regular basis. Teresa __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

03-03-2006, 10:12 AM	#5 (permalink)
sexyshelby It's not easy being easy. Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,012 Location: In Bed Status: Person	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. I agree, go Dutch. I think it will be more comfortable for everyone. I always prefer to go dutch, no matter how well I know the person. I just think it's easier and no one gets stuck paying more than others. Good luck, hope it goes well!!! ~SS __________________ What's love got to do with it?

03-03-2006, 10:19 AM	#6 (permalink)
Thrax Celebrate perversity Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 1,396 Location: Pittsburgh Status: Single Male SLS Name:Thrax	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. In my experience it's most common to go dutch. However, one couple that contacted and invited me, and picked the restaurant for lunch, picked up the lunch tab and I paid the tip. Hope you have a great time! Thrax __________________ You get what you play for.

03-03-2006, 10:32 AM	#7 (permalink)
VanHlebar a.k.a. Stifler Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 550 Location: Cincinnati Status: Married Male SLS Name:MrMrsVanHlebar	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. Thanks folks for the responses! We did contact her and then we all agreed on the place for dinner, but it looks like majority says go dutch. So that is what we will plan on unless something changes during dinner. Now the next step and hopefully all goes well... if not, well we still get dinner Thanks again! -Van

03-03-2006, 10:40 AM	#8 (permalink)
Pinmonkey Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 633 Location: Buffalo, NY Status: M. Male	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. If you feel like you want to pick up the tab, you could always ask. Something like "Would you mind if we paid for your dinner?" __________________ Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It's the courage to continue that counts.

03-03-2006, 12:31 PM	#9 (permalink)
looking4ward Registered Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 7 Location: Hamburg, NY Status: couple	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. Now the next question might be: If we decide to get a motel room to continue the acquaintence, would we split that bill 1/2 and 1/2 or 1/3 and 2/3? Not to be picky but what would be acceptable?

03-03-2006, 02:11 PM	#10 (permalink)
VanHlebar a.k.a. Stifler Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 550 Location: Cincinnati Status: Married Male SLS Name:MrMrsVanHlebar	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. In that case I would get the room myself If it got to that point then I would say that as the couple that asked the single out, we would pay for the room.. -Van

03-03-2006, 06:18 PM	#11 (permalink)
NakedInSeattle Loving life (style) Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 421 Location: Seattle, WA Status: Couple SLS Name:NakedInSeattle	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. Everything should be split 50/50 between the guys. He should be more than willing to pay 50% of the bill for the lady he's gonna have sex with, for shit sakes. I know that I would if the situation were reversed. Another way if this is awkward is for one guy to pay for dinner and the other guy pay for the room. __________________ "The Engineer says the glass is too big" Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. YES is the answer!

03-03-2006, 09:42 PM	#12 (permalink)
VanHlebar a.k.a. Stifler Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 550 Location: Cincinnati Status: Married Male SLS Name:MrMrsVanHlebar	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. Well dinner went just fine, but I will admit, I picked up the tab. The waiter asked if it should be on one or two checks and I just couldn't bring myself to say two checks. She was fine and said thanks so I guess all was fine. Thanks again folks for the help! -Van

03-04-2006, 02:40 PM	#13 (permalink)
lovedoctor Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 510 Location: Florida - but right now, I'm on tour! Status: M Female SLS Name:Fllovedoctor	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. So...what's the plan from here on out? Is there an interest there? You will have to let us know how it goes... __________________ "Everyone here is wondering what it's like to be with somebody else..." ~Back 2 Good, Rob Thomas (matchbox twenty)

03-04-2006, 04:35 PM	#15 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,824 Location: Utah Status: Male half of married couple	Re: Meeting a Single this evening and we have a question. It may seem discriminatory, but we've usually gone dutch with single guys and paid for single women, or at least offered. We had a single girl recently offer to pay for us. It just seems we want to really take care of them since they are so rare. Mr. WS __________________ "God created sex. Priests created marriage." ~ Voltaire

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