Single males at the clubs?

[rainbowskye]

Not sure if I placed this in the right category or not, but I wanted input on what others thought of single males at the clubs?

In the past I honestly never thought about it but tonight I saw something that creeped me the hell out.

A group of us went to a club and were having a great time. Well out of nowhere there is a single guy walking around not making any eye contact with anyone. After a few of us go to play and come back to our gathering spot the guy is now standing against the wall watching a couple Fondle one another while he jerked off.

I don't hate on anyone in the lifestyle and I know there are single men and women in the ls, but this just was creepy.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Yes, creepy. Did you inform the party (club) host or hostess? After a complaint of this kind of behaviour, any club to which we belong would have escorted the guy out.

[Alura]

Mrs. Alura and I began playing back when the "lifestyle" was called "wife swapping." We called it "spouse-swapping." It never occurred to us that someone who had no spouse to swap might want to join in... until we joined this board. She posted on a thread offering advice on how to give a blowjob and was overwhelmed by Private Messages from single guys who wanted to experience her technique. She rarely posted after that.

Would someone take a taxi to a Porsche Club race, expecting to take someone else's car out onto the track because he/she "can drive your car in a way it's never been driven before?"

I realize clubs allow singles mainly because of the additional revenue, but that there is also a demand for additional people for a threesome. I think "creepy singles" are the main reason we went to only one Swingers Club during our almost thirty years of "spouse-swapping."

We did our threesomes with our play-couples, taking turns.

Alura

[JustAskJulie]

I'm a little confused and not quite sure what was creepy about him/ the situation?

Was it just because he was masturbating? Was he creepy before that?

[two4youinswva]

To be fair, we've ran into our fair share of creepy husbands and creepy wives as well.
-In fact, nothing disconcerts me more than creepy lady at the club.

I don't think single dudes have a monopoly on the creepiness scene.

[rainbowskye]

I don't think guys are the only creepy ones

This guy was creepy before he started doing this. I don't know how to explain it.

There were other things about it.

The club owner and I talked at the time and again about it today.

I think, for those of us who were there, it wasn't the act of masturbation that was creepy but the way in which he went about it.

I've definitely met my share of creepy ladies as well.

[Learning]

An icky club nearby has a quite a few singles males walking through. The last time when we were there, there was this very unclean, dirty, smelly guy who was there that was totally going around and yanking it. He got a hard on from watching the ladies dance. He went up to the sex areas and was wanking it again too. At one point, we asked him to leave, finally after asking him to leave for the 5th time, we stopped what we are doing. It was very strange and disgusting.

[DigginIt]

That's why we only go to clubs on couples only night The wife and I are not a replacement for some guys night out at the XXX video store. Are there creepy guys/girls on couples night...yes, but a heck of a lot less of them or maybe we just don't notice them as much.

Either way it works for us.

[TNT]

What is creepy to some, isn't necessarily creepy to others.

Another way of looking at this is...it's possible that the couple were turned on by the guy masturbating while watching them.

Now I'm not saying that is/was the case, but a lot of times our perception of what we see isn't exactly what is going on.

I do understand your creepy feeling, I've met/seen guys that gave me the creeps, but that doesn't mean they weren't someone elses dreamboat.

Teresa

[Aion222]

Unfortunately, it's single creepy weirdos like these that give single guys described in this thread a sort of bad stigma, especially at clubs. I never been to any swinger clubs, but I can see why they can be a mixed bag. But like TNT said, it's different for everyone.

[DigginIt]

Unfortunately, it's single creepy weirdos like these that give single guys described in this thread a sort of bad stigma, especially at clubs.

Your exactly right. It's a "one bad apple spoils the bunch" mentality and we all know that there are great guys in the lifestyle. It's just that there are so many that ruin it for everyone.

[Aion222]

Your exactly right. It's a "one bad apple spoils the bunch" mentality and we all know that there are great guys in the lifestyle. It's just that there are so many that ruin it for everyone.

Hi, DigginIt. Yeah, and I don't necessarily blame couples for having that mentality because God knows there are plenty of creeps out there; I blame those weirdos with no scruples and asperger-like qualities.

But, it is unfortunate when people reject others without giving them a chance.

[two4youinswva]

What is creepy to some, isn't necessarily creepy to others.

I think that's a really good point. The bigger the group, the more diverse the kinks, and the better the chance that what one likes, another may not.

[rainbowskye]

I don't let one bad apple spoil it for me.

If I did I would have missed out on some great times.

[crazinred]

We love going to clubs and playing in front of others. We get many watchers and If it is a single male that watches that's fine with us. As long as he doesn't touch with out permission. We play mostly with single guys and to be honest with you if a single guy comes up while we are playing and pulls it out and starts jerking off we have no problem with it. It will probably blew any chance of us playing with him. Red knows some guys need to do that but its in no way a attraction for her.