We have for two years felt that same room play was what we preferred, believing that a lot of fun was to be found in seeing one another. We do this together, could have been something we said.
At a convention this summer we met a really nice couple who managed with no effort to lead us to separate room play. it was a wonderful experience and we each spent from about midnight until 6AM playing with the respective other halves of the couple.
Then we spent another hour talking about it with great excitement. We now realize that it was so much more enjoyable than same room, and my wife and I each were greatly excited about the other moving off into a private space for pleasures. As it turns out, there was absolutely nothing uncomfortable about it and an enormous amount of eroticism was gained. Somehow, it was a very expanding, growth kind of experience, and we look forward to much more, and with excitement.
It has greatly increased our passion for the lifestyle, so to speak.