How many couples do both same room and separate room?

I have had couples ask me this of my hubby and I and was just wondering if this is common or not.

[sexypairca]

We play together(same or seperate room) and seperate(single), both works for us. We don't play seperate often but it is fun once in awhile.

I think that you will find most couples not only play together but also same room.

Annette

[Handyman69]

When we first embarked on this lifestyle we agreed we would only play together as a couple......we prefer same room/same bed. We once used seperate rooms as the couple we were with thought that is what they wanted. The last time we were with them they were comfortable with same room but still differant beds......that was OK as we could still watch each other.
John

[biblonde]

We like it if we play together, we have been in seperate rooms once but it is more fun if all four are together. We like watching each other and that way us girls can play whenever we wish. As for one of us playing alone...NO WAY. We only play as a couple, we both play or neither of us play. I have been asked if i would play alone without him and well....we dont talk to those people that ask that of us.
I do know a couple though that is cool with the man going off and playing without her. I dont get it but that is something they dont mind. Everyone has a comfort level and well....ours is as a couple.

that is my 2 cents for today!....s

[BiloxiCouple]

We normally party together. But once in a while we play separately. But we have an understanding about this and also talk about it afterwards.

[thump29]

We usually play together as well, on occasion we will play seperate but it is not often that we do that.

[fun_pairTX]

We play together only, same room preferably in one big ass bed.
This is the way we started and was our first premise for ourselves, we will finish swinging someday the same way.

[Michcouple]

We usually only play together. However, there has been a few times when we've played apart. Only after both of us felt very comfortable with the sititution.

[yawanna]

The only couples we know of that swung separately ended up separating.

It hasn't worked for the benefit of a couple, in our experience.

[angihay]

We do play both together and apart. Solo I would call it we have kids and not always easy to find a sitter but never without consent from the other person or people.

[good times]

My wife and I tried swinging seperately once (each) and we decided we didn't care for it, we will only play together now. Seperate rooms is ok but we prefer same room.

R

[Curious40]

We are still pretty new to this lifestyle, but I know that we decided to only play together NEVER seperately. In my opinion, (and I understand it's just my opinion) I believe that if you start playing alone with other people it's like you are cheating on your partner, Isn't the whole point to this lifestyle is being able, and willing, to share your experiences with the people you love the most.

[queenjames]

We have done it seperate but I strongly believe my husband wants to be there at all times, so I think we may becoming to an agreement that we must do it together... as long as we're enjoying it I don't care

[leftcoastcouple]

While I really enjoy watching my wife engaged in pleasure with another person--I've only had the opportunity to do so once, with two other guys--I get nearly as turned on, and in some ways more, by the prospect of her being with someone without me there. She's done it on several occasions, and yes, the jealousy about killed me the first time, but once I came to terms with it--recognizing that it was a major part of the overwhelming excitement her activity created within me--it stopped bothering me.

In fact, though she hasn't done it in years, I get extremely excited just thinking about her sleeping with a guy and then coming home and sharing the intimate details (description, appearance, smells...and other things!). It's hard to explain, but I supposed there is a largely masochistic element (which is odd, because I have zero interest in anything remotely S&M-like)--not knowing where she is, wondering what's happening, not being able to stop it once she's left, etc. But it also goes back to more traditional "sharing" aspects of swinging--enjoying the fact that she's attractive to someone else, enjoying her being sexually independent, etc.

If you can honestly say that jealousy is not an issue for you when you swing, then I have a hard time understanding why allowing your partner to play--with your knowledge and consent--would bother you. I say that without judging. I'm just confused. And curious to understand.

Having said all that, have there been threads in the past specifically about "same room vs separate room?" As the wife and I consider swinging, I've found just about every answer and discussion I've looked for on this fabulous board, except this one. And it's something she and I have slightly different opinions on and need to discuss further. Any help?

[Amy and Mike]

leftcoast couple...
I can relate completely to what you're saying. As my wife Amy could tell you, I get extremely turned on by her telling me her fantasies involving other men. She was kind of surprised to find that I was so aroused by it and not jealous at all.

As we contemplate swinging, I dont think I could ever see us going off and playing individually. I think i'd always be uncomfortable with that and so would she. I have to admit though that its easy to fantasize about her doing that. Like you, the idea of my wife being sexually independant is very appealing.