Should I warn her before I cum?

[TomDenise]

Ok, question for the seasoned pros:

We are relatively new at this, so here is a dumb question:

When I am playing with a lady and she has had a good ride already, and I am about to climax, do I warn her and give her a chance to say "on me not in me" or just let er rip? I have never had another woman complain.

I love the lifestyle but still have funny feelings when my wife's partner leaves a load in her or I leave a load my female partner.

My wife actually enjoys the man to cum in her or in her mouth (she has a swallowing fetish )

[Carol_Danny]

If you are having unprotected sex, you should talk about the "where to cum" issue as you get started. We men sometimes forget to "ask" in the heat of the moment

-- Danny

[TomDenise]

I guess I need to start doing that. We sure love the lifestyle and the friends we have made in it.

Thanks

[JustAskJulie]

JIGC - This is still a long-running joke with a long time friend of mine (male half of a couple my ex and I played with).

I think if you are doing oral it's always a courteous thing to warn the woman, same on standard sex (condom or no). On the latter so that if she's not close she can warn you to slow down - most guys I've known this is their main reason for giving the warning - they don't want to piss the woman off by cumming too soon (I've only met a couple of guys who could stay hard and continue with sex after cumming).

[Jessie B]

My hubby says "I'll wear a rubber if asked to but I just can't posssibly pull out once I lose it".

[EvilMJ]

As far as sex goes, we never have it without a condom, personal choice there, but with STD's and the fact that I can still get pregnant, I just don't want to take any chances. With oral, eh, I guess I can usually figure it out on my own, but it's always appreciated when someone gives me a 'heads up.'

[Rockon]

I have asked "where do you want it?" with good results

[DBL D]

Originally Posted by Rockon

I have asked "where do you want it?" with good results

Ditto...protected or not. She may even ask you where you like to cum. I split the difference once...half in her pussy and half in her mouth. That was some quick moving on my part, but she was happy.

Male D

[SanDiegoM4cpl]

i would hav eto agree with communication here. hea of teh moments arise and can turn a very great moment into a tornado.

everyone just think of this, you are inside a woman unprotected and tell her "sweety im so close to squirting right inside you and you ll feel all my warmth"

outcome a: she is happy with the event about to transpire, become overly excited at the thougth of your orgasm inside her, it triggers her orgasm and you ride the waves together.

outcome b: she is brought back to reality, asks you politely not o finish inside her and she gives further instruction to joyously end her experince and yours.

outcome c you dont mention you are going to come in her, she gets pregnant, she telll all of the couples at the next swingers meet and greet that she had a terrible experince with a guy........need i go on?

i think that communication is needed until the point of total trust has been built. and as always you need to respect the choices of others in the lifestyle. no means no.

kyle

[DBL D]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

...(I've only met a couple of guys who could stay hard and continue with sex after cumming).

Well, I'm like that....sometimes.

Male D

[TomDenise]

Lots of good advice here, I like this one too: "outcome a: she is happy with the event about to transpire, become overly excited at the thougth of your orgasm inside her, it triggers her orgasm and you ride the waves together." That has happened in reverse

Originally Posted by Rockon

I have asked "where do you want it?" with good results

[Betty and Dave]

Good topic. I think a courteous man will tell his partner he is about to come. If he's in my mouth I can get ready for it and if he's in my pussy I can give him an extra squeeze, or ask him to wait if I'm not there yet. The best lovers will make sure I've come first before he does.

When doing it bareback with trusted partners I can give Dave a chance to be ready to eat me out if he wants, which he usually does.

[TomDenise]

Originally Posted by Betty and Dave

When doing it bareback with trusted partners I can give Dave a chance to be ready to eat me out if he wants, which he usually does.

That is interesting... I kinda like that idea

[johnlyn4u]

When doing it bareback with trusted partners I can give Dave a chance to be ready to eat me out if he wants, which he usually does.[/QUOTE]

This raises another topic. How many of you are cool with a guy eating a pussy full of some other guys cum? Would that be considered gay, bi, straight? I'm not sure how I'd feel about my guy doing that. hmmmmm....something to think about.....

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[TomDenise]

Originally Posted by johnlyn4u

When doing it bareback with trusted partners I can give Dave a chance to be ready to eat me out if he wants, which he usually does.

This raises another topic. How many of you are cool with a guy eating a pussy full of some other guys cum? Would that be considered gay, bi, straight? I'm not sure how I'd feel about my guy doing that. hmmmmm....something to think about.....

L[/QUOTE]

I mentioned this to Denise and she LOVED the idea, even asked that if it ever happened I save some of the cum in my mouth and give to her via kiss.

Like you I have reservations but am still intrigued.