Hi, Lady here. My husband is an alcoholic and has been sober for 13 years, so I know some about this. (Not anything like if I were in his shoes.) The "Swingers Clubs" are no different then any club that has alcohol. If she has fears of being able to handle it, maybe wait until she feels strong. We go to clubs and stay totally sober. We find that we are ready to get things going early on, and others that are drinking have to wait until they get a buzz on to move things along. It sometimes makes us wonder if the alcohol gives helps them do it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that is the case for everyone. I drink on rare occasions and like the different feeling I get and have to admit sometimes it makes me wilder. But you could probably find swingers to hook up with that don't drink around her so she feels more comfortable.