spooky1

Furthur to my previous post, I did show my partner this thread and she did seem to gain a better appreciation for the strong feelings I have. While she did appreciate your mature and thoughtful responses, she did mention that they were biased views :Surrender: She really does however seem to be more open to now discuss this freely with me, and this is why I would love to find a website that has some independent professional feedback relating to this.

Wow thanks for the great advice, some really thoughtfull responses. Do any of you know of any websites that have reading material written by professionals on this topic??

Thanks for the input guys I will take a look at yor suggestions. You are right she does want to do it but deos think that this is something a slut would do. I need to find a way to convince her that everything would be fine between us if we did pursue our fantasie.

Hi, I'm brand new to this board but am not a swinger. I am in a long term stock standard relationship, where we are both very sexual with each other. A couple of years ago we somehow got onto the topic of men watching their partner being fucked by another man, and I was surprised to find I was REALLY excited by the thought of her being with another man while I watched. I didn't tell her until one day when we were fucking and talking a bit dirty I added in some talk about me organizing a man to come over to fuck her while I sit back and watch. She got right into it and said she wanted to do it, and we both had the best fuck ever. Now it has got to the stage where I cant stop thinking about it, and just love the thought of her being pleasured by another. To see the pleasure in her eyes and hear her moans while she climaxes. To see the pleasure in his eyes as he caresses and explores her beautiful body. I am not a voyeur as I have no fantasies about watching others or anything, I just love the thought of watching her. The problem I now have is that I really want to do this, and would love to do it on a regular basis, my partner says she also loves the thought of doing it, but would never really do it, as it's not something that a close loving couple would do. I feel and I have said to her that for some reason I would feel even closer to her if we were having this sexual fun together. I dont want to convince her to do it, however I cant quite explain to her that a loving couple can do this and still thrive in their relationship. Can any of you please help me to understand why this turns me on so much, and maybe reassure me (or tell me that what I am wanting is plain wrong) maybe some tips to reassure her as well. Thanks.