This is the exact reason that I am fearful of swinging. If you are not in a happy, secure, relationship and totally into your spouse, you have no business swinging! Swinging is supposed to spice up your marriage, not ruin it. Too many couples get into this for the wrong reasons. Thats why we have rules! We have sex and only sex! No getting to know each other or anything like that. That is cheating! If you were unhappy in your marriage then you should have left her. How dare you drag her into this lifestyle just to hurt her in the end?? After reading this, I am beginning to reconsider this lifestyle. I love my man too much to jeopordize our relationship.